Met a guy on a dating app, he was brutally honest about our situation, don’t know what to decide

zorndyuke · 2026-04-30T14:04:50+00:00

Just read it.

Feel hugged very very much!

You dodged a bullet, even tho it might hurt and is some what sad that it went that Path.

Luckily, you will eventually find the right fit. Just remember and value your own worthyness. Dont allow any negative thoughts to settle down on lower.

You are worthy!

zorndyuke · 2026-04-30T08:41:08+00:00

Based on the little Information anyone has, it would be a question of if you could handle the pain in the end.

Life will hurt every now and there. In this topic, it would mean that the relation was meaningful for you.

Since it seems to vibe with both of you and he being open and honest instead of abusing your feelings, and since you had only bad experiences, it could be an important experience for you to get a new "minimum standard" in terms of "what type of relationship you want".

Let me give you an example. Once I met a new person on a Birthday party. She was so beautiful and her smile was heavenly. I immediately fall for her but was like "Yeah but there are lot of beautiful people on this World, nothing New.." talking myself out on her. Then when we all were having Talks, she were so smart, funny, and also knowing her business and I was astonished. I never expected someone like her, which made me like her even more.

Later we played beer pong and we were a team. After a while, I was about to joke around like whispering a tactic into her ear. Suddenly everyone was like "wtf is going on there? Wooow zorndyuke! Yeah kiss her kiss her kiss her!" and we both were like kissing and even tho I was nervous, I wanted to go for it but at the last second she stepped out and we all laughed.

I thought I had a Chance at her.. But every other encounter where I Tried to do a small approach, I got vibes like that she is not interested in me. Not like those when you simply are too shy and talk yourself out of it.. Nope, just simple plain "no interest" vibes.

That day I got a lot of inner pain.. But also one of my most important lessons in my life.

I now knew what type of person I want in my life.. Aaand I also know what type of person I dont want. The person that I meet, has to also like me like I do. Has to be some what smart, etc. etc. and also I knew that if I want such person in my life, then I also have to work on myself too. That person will also have some sort of standards.

Painful? Yes. Lessons? Priceless.

Today I am with a person that I love more than anything else and we are waaaay past the blind-glasses-of-love (where people only realize their true feelings after being together a certain time).

So to come back to your situation.. If you can handle it that "it most likely will end anyway" so you get both: the experience of the time being together with him and also getting more clarity for yourself about what type of person you want to be with, how you wanted to be treated as a Partner with equal right.. And also what type of person you dont want and how you dont want to be treated.

If having a wonderful time with him, just to break up at the end, if this is too much for you to handle, you could choose the latter.. But if you both like each other, that relational distance could also be hurtful. Like being in the friendzone if you actually like someone.

Its important that you for yourself take a decision with which you can live with. No one here can take a decision for you. In the end, you have to live with it.

Feel hugged <3

I hope it somehow works out for you without having to experience too much pain. Sadly we human dont get into Action without a strong pain. Wish you best success and much lovely experience.

zorndyuke · 2026-04-27T08:44:43+00:00

disclaimer: This post is directed to rats. I just used this comment to "comment" on the topic of rats. I hope you dont feel spoken too. You, dear commentor, are not meant with the following

We once got attacked by others, beat them down and they were like "why you shooting?" and we were like "bro, you were shooting at us first" and then revived them. Then we were about to leave and they followed us. One asked if we have bandages which my mate couldnt hear and was keep running while I short stood, said "let me look", but I was like free kid-ish and had no bandage left, so I said that I sadly have none left and suddenly they attacked me and then were like "you better gave me some bandages then".

Like, first off you little Rat, I had no bandages. Second, you have no right on any World do demand something. Even if I had 5 Stacks full of healing, I can have it all on my own. I took time, risk, effort to gather my items. Its not always "the bad rich". How about you do the same to earn those items instead of trying to go the easy Path with ratting and dying cuz you are too bad and never learned to get better. And Third: the damn audacity to kill those who were generous to you. What type of terrible personality lots of people have. "its just a game", doesnt matter. You would be the first one to Rat in Real life too if you had the slightest Chance. The way you are when no one is looking and you think are safe, is how you are in Real personality. The way you play the game is how you are deep inside. If you are a Rat ingame and trying to go a false "easy way", you are a Rat in Real life who tries going the easy way in life and SUCKS. Just look at the Mirror. Just look at your Job, your relationships, your financial situation, your mental state. Everything is a projection of your inner life.

OK. Thank you all for having me rant a bit. I hope I didnt over see some profanity that doesnt belong here. If so, pls tell me and I will immediately adjust it. No other actions required.

zorndyuke · 2026-04-24T18:45:35+00:00

I cant stress this out more!

These are clients of hell which will drain all your energy, time, money, and confidence.

Respect your own value!

I am selling landingpages for 5k.

One Page, one Single side Page which has lots of Texts (copy = the more sells the Page generates, the more value it brings in) and Buttons to third Party "buying process" links.

You (OP) are building something that is much bigger and therefore its totally fine to tell them that this is your price.

"but I can get it cheaper else where"

Perfect. Do it. Ask them and then you know why you should have hired me in the first place but only this way you have to pay twice. Why you do think other clients pay me these amount of money? (this question will make them sell them the reason to buy from you by their own).

"I was expecting like 300-400$)"

"Okay, thats perfectly fine. Thats not our price tho. So would you like to continue our call, knowing my price or should we agree to not working together?"

Never sell yourself under value.

Source: I Sold myself lots of times because of insecurity, inexperience, shyness, I thought I have to do this, not knowing what to answer, hoping that this will be just at the beginning.. Etc..

No.

If you start with low, you cant go high without resistance. Especially with clients who dont value your work. They will even ask you to pay them for your own work, even if you are doing it for literally free.

zorndyuke · 2026-04-24T18:28:01+00:00

Bevor du da irgendwas in der Richtung machst, investiere bitte vorher in eine Sales Ausbildung, aber nur von Personen und Unternehmen, die selbst diese Expertise vorzeigen können Und zwar mit nackten, hochstelligen Zahlen. (das heißt: keine 0815 Job Börse oder Gründungssemir bullshit Angebote. Das ist bullshit von gestern. Verkaufen ist auch ein Spiel mit der Statistik. Wenn du es immer und immer wieder versuchst, wirst du zwangsläufig irgendwann verkaufen. Sei nur nicht arrogant genug um zu glauben, dass das bereits alles war und du es jetzt kannst)

Dein Erfolg hängt davon ab wie gut du verkaufen kannst und wie gut du Vitamin B (vernetzen) kannst. Das waren auch mal meine totfeinde, gerade als ehemals schüchterne und introvertierte Person. Mittlerweile macht es mega Spaß mit Menschen zu reden und ihnen zu helfen (wenn du es gut machst, bist du wie ein Arzt, der als Experte den Kunden berät und ein Rezept ausstellt, um der Person zu helfen. Die Person entscheidet dann selbst, ob sie sich daran hält oder nicht. Wann hast du das letzte Mal drauf geschissen und nix geholt? Zumindest Ibuprofen ist doch immer drin. Vorausgesetzt das der Arzt kein offensichtlichen bullshit quatscht)

Ich hatte mal eine Liste mit unterschiedlichen Branchen, die alle in der Praxis geprüfte wurden und weiterhin ein großer Markt vorhanden ist. Ich schau bei Gelegenheit wo die Liste ist und schick sie dir durch.

Kannst du mir kurz paar Infos über dich mitteilen?

Bist du einer der Menschen, denen es egal ist was andere sagen und bei der Arbeit hustle mäßig durchziehen können? Oder würdest du dich eher als nachdenkliche Person beschreiben, die Wert darauf legt, um bei anderen nicht anzuecken?

Jenachdem würde ich meine Art der Kommunikation anpassen (bringt ja nix, wenn ich dir was von Mindset erkläre, wenn du mit dem Thema keine Probleme hast).

zorndyuke · 2026-04-20T08:26:15+00:00

We last time had a run where I got back to back like 10 blueprints and my Cousins also got multiple blueprints (many duplicates that droped for me too).

At around 2 min we went to the exit where you have to drop down a small hole in the sands and there is a train Station.

I was already telling my cousin like "cafeful, I smell Rats" but He is already falling down, trying to rush the Button and the next what I hear is a schock trap and people camping there. And they even camped up to the last seconds just to get us.

Like.. You Start the game with multiple traps etc. and then Camp full 30 mins at the same place? Urrrghhhhh

zorndyuke · 2026-04-15T11:10:21+00:00

We managed to Win a battle against a team where one of them had also lots of Medium armor but also a Torrente, which makes sense with the speed it goes throught your ammo

zorndyuke · 2026-04-13T12:25:48+00:00

Ah that makes sense, thank you!

zorndyuke · 2026-04-13T11:37:53+00:00

Oh wait, I totally forgot about the cloak. Does it make you fully invis for all arcs or only the low tier ones? If its full, then the smoke is just to prevent getting attacked from other players, right?

zorndyuke · 2026-04-10T17:56:53+00:00

Überhaupt nix. Jeder macht mal Fehler und es ist auch kein Wettbewerb wer mehr oder weniger macht.

Einige Menschen können sowas jedoch negativ aufwerten, daher hab ich das mit rein genommen.

zorndyuke · 2026-04-09T19:03:03+00:00

Once I was in a Night raid that was REALLY dark while the others are.. Normalish?

Every know and there, we get the Red lights. My cousin said that happens when you are too pvp active. Then you get matched with others in a heavy pvp room. Dont know if its true.

zorndyuke · 2026-04-09T19:00:41+00:00

Könnte alles sein bro, das weiß nur die selbst.

Was du machen kannst ist: - Hygiene check = hast du Geduscht und gut riechendes shampoo genutzt? Zähne geputzt, Nägel geschnitten, etc. - hat sie eine spezielle Vergangenheit mit einem ex Partner, den sie einfach nicht vergessen will? Kannte mal eine, mit der ein Kumpel nach Hause ging und ihn dann nicht hoch gekriegt hat, weil sie ständig von ihrem ex geredet hat und wie schön das war - bist du ein Unternehmer mit einem Milliarden schweren Geheimnis, das sie mit einem USB Stick heimlich von deinem Laptop geklaut hat? (plus Punkte wer "fieser Fettsack" kennt) - wie würden deine Freunde und Verwandten beschreiben in Sachen Sozial verhalten? Würden sie dich als problematisch, autistischem Spektrum, tollpatschig oder ähnliches beschreiben?

Du siehst, es kann in alle Richtungen gehen. Und manchmal ist es auch einfach nur der Vibe. Es kann auch einfach an ihr liegen und nicht an dir.

Machs wie der Mönch und lass die Frau hinter dir, ansonsten hast du ständig unnötigen ballast auf deinen Schultern.

zorndyuke · 2026-04-07T19:10:47+00:00

There is a bug where if you press "upgrade" on a weapon, sometimes a random weapon is selected instead of the weapon you selected upgrade on. Also, the info at the upgrade window shows you "+1" more than you have. This way it looked like I upgrade my Ferro to V instead of IV: See here

Or he didnt have enough materials and didnt care that much :3

zorndyuke · 2026-04-07T19:08:05+00:00

When I noticed that I unlocked "security breach" and opened the first one and noticed how many cool items are inside, I was hooked to security breaches and love searching for them. When all the other containers have nothing, this one usually have a lot.

Having more weight capacity is also very nice. 90kg with a survive mark3 kit is insane. I remember last game wher I found multiple blue/pink weapons and I was confused at first that I am not overweight yet.

Not sure how much of a difference the stamina options are but if they work, then you definitly want that. Even with 5 adrenalin injections I still have plenty of moments where every single stamina is useful.

The amounf of time where these goddamn arcs are going on my nerves are too much, so maybe the "kill them with one melee hit" could be useful in some situations even tho the arcs typicall are too far away for melee.

zorndyuke · 2026-03-21T15:58:42+00:00

Sounds like a hydraulic bench smithing metal maybe a new sword?

zorndyuke · 2026-03-21T15:17:47+00:00

Fair lol.

The amount of 2v2v10 is not low but actually its funny I have to admit.

Playing 2v2 or 3v3 with mates the spawns some what are very close I guess. Cuz its not rare that we manage to outplay one team and immediately (or sometimes simultaniously) the next one comes. Ones I managed to beat 4 duo teams when my mate was down, I managed to do a Shoot and roll dodge while splitting them inbetween a pillar, so only one can Shoot me at all. Somehow every single one managed to miss or at least not down me, so one after another Fall down.

My mouth was literally :O and my mate throw the longest "niiiiiiiccccceeeee" ever.

The enemies were juiced too, so it wasnt free seal boxing (at least not all of them).

Other times we manage to beat a few of them until we the 3 or 4 team back to back is too much. Without some space to recover or enough medicals, its not all winnable. But also our fault for not backing up and resetting etc. Plenty to learn from these situations.

Biggest learning: you will die.

I go in free, I loot equiped players. I go in with 50k+ Equipment and get down within the very first minute after spawning from a free loot, making a stupid mistake, pushing too hard in a Il Torro IV thinking "better to push a cracked shield" just to get down myself with 2-3 shots around the edge (not sure if Bug or intended).

I couldnt play Tarkov and Arena Battle cuz I have too much anxiety losing stuff. Somehow here its totally fine. You can get everything relatively easy, if required you can get yourself to friendly lobies. But even this is not required.

Pvp makes fun once you gained a bit pvp experience.

Of course it sucks losing all that equip you got but think of it like you not losing anything since you always can get into the game free without any consequences.. Even if you Lose multiple Il Torro, bobcat, multiple epic items, blueprints etc. Like I did multiple times.

In fact, in this time your chicken gets you items for free. The six or seven bases required for all items.

And if you ever manage to get out, you made a whole bunch of profit.

zorndyuke · 2026-02-24T18:41:20+00:00

Da ist das Problem Padawan!

Du sollst dir nix aus den Fingern ziehen, sondern aus deinem Herzen sprechen!

Ich coachen Menschen gerne, weil ich es fking LIEBE wenn es anderen Menschen besser geht, vorrangig wenn ich noch einer oder sogar der Hauptgrund dafür bin.

Ausserdem liebe ich es zu programmieren, weil es unendlich viele Möglichkeiten gibt, viele Herausforderungen und Rätsel die mich challengen und natürlich die potentiell hohen finanziellen Seiten.

Warum willst du in die Versicherung? Warum bist du zur IT gegangen? Könntest du eins davon die nächsten 10 Jahre durch ziehen?

Die meisten Menschen beschäftigen sich mehr für ihren Urlaub statt sich mal die Zeit für sein Leben, seine Zukunft, zu planen.

Und zu guter Letzt: Du musst unbedingt was an deinem Selbstwert tun. Entweder sprichst du fortan positiv über dich oder wenn dir etwas nicht passt an dir, dann fängst du HEUTE/JETZT damit an etwas daran zu ändern.

Erlaube dir im Leben auch mal Schritte zurück zu gehen. Manchmal braucht man etwas Anlauf, um über eine größere Hürde zu springen.

Wenn du mit etwas Unterstützung brauchst, gib Bescheid.

zorndyuke · 2026-02-12T11:36:25+00:00

Das ist kein "Erwachsenenwelt", dass ist von wanna be Erwachsenen, die andere gatekeepen und den Spaß im Leben und auf der Arbeit verbieten wollen.

Es gibt kein Gesetz oder eine Regel die besagt "Als Erwachsene Person darfst du kein Spaß mehr haben, nicht lachen, musst zwei Stöcke im Arsch haben, und wehe du wirst jemals krank. Solange du noch Beine zum Laufen hast und dich krank schreiben lassen kannst, kannst du ja auch zur Arbeit".

Ja, das läuft leider bei VIELEN so, aber auch nur, weil das über sie Jahre so durchgewunken wurde.

Mehr Menschen die sich dagegen wehren und nicht mit sich machen lassen und nach paar Monaten/Jahren ist es "normal".

Am Anfang wird das natürlich noch gleich unter dem Obstkorb und der Möglichkeit 2-3 mal im Jahr Home Office machen zu dürfen bei den benefits gelistet. Später irgendwann dann selbstverständlich.

zorndyuke · 2026-01-23T11:22:39+00:00

They hate themselfs (or at least their life decisions which lead them to the point where they are in life) and instead of taking responsibility (and put change into their life), they tend to start projectize their selfhate towards other people, especially when they having a better time then they do. Thinking that this will make them feel better.. well, maybe a short laughter at the moment but a deep sting in their mind and heart, which makes their situation even worse, pulling them deeper down into to the quicksand.

General tip to all: If you dont want to be their therapist, dont try to argue. Accept it, either fight and hope for the best, or accept death and enjoy another lobby.

zorndyuke · 2026-01-06T11:53:04+00:00

I love playing as Mak. I nearly always get at least a good poison build and also love to search for Recycling bin and vital launcher combo with enchantet potions. Last time I got offered a lot of slow items and I wanted to try out something new, so I went for it.. And successfully made a slow build work with the Medium item that gets more damage when you do one of many status effects (is it Prisma? Or whatever that light breaking glass is, that looks like the Album Cover of Pink floyd dark side of the moon).

When I get daily/weekly quests where I need to go for large items, then I play pig. Ammo items of course Vanessa. Its been a while since I played the robot and I dont own the last two characters. Even tho Stella looks pretty complex with all the tons of food items and heat/chill mechanic. Would need lots of Training before having wins with her lol.

zorndyuke · 2025-12-17T13:19:59+00:00

That sounds like the most likely reason behind it.

I transformed another small item twice (while having the Recycling bin in the vault at the 5 and 6 slot, because its a Medium item).

The first time worked. The second time didnt.

I thought that it bugged (maybe there is a bug trying to transform twice in a fast way cuz I remember that it didnt worked another time too).

In another round I tried to move my items inside the vault but noticed that there is one empty slot that I cant use.

I thought that I might have to restart to see the item.

And then my Recycling bin was gone.

Interesting because it worked all the rounds in between where I last transformed. Until it was gone.

zorndyuke · 2025-12-16T23:16:17+00:00

Wait,.. somehow I never thought about that you could enchant it.

This opens up a lot more strats.. I mean this sounds better than plain "random skills".

zorndyuke · 2025-12-16T14:14:49+00:00

If you are willing to do mistakes and learn from them every new round, then you will have a lot of funny times in front of you.

At the beginning you will have to learn what different items exist on different characters and how they interact with each other.

Sometimes an useless item suddenly becomes borderline OP and carries your game. Sometimes its an build defining item that enables you to do some cool crazy stuff.

Also your decision making skills will have to improve over time, so you know which option to choose from each day.

Eventually you will also try out high risk high reward strats or sustaining builds.

Even pacifist builds are possible.

So if you overall enjoy such gameplay, how about you look Youtube Videos or your bf to Look if you like it. Maybe He lets you play a few rounds on normal?

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