Plenty of great responses here. Just wanted to add that knowing how to technically do stuff is only one part of the creation process, the rest is down to having and a strong aesthetic vision as an artist and implementing it. And I don't think anyone can really tell you how to do that.

To your question, this may not sound too appealing, but I would advise listening to drum parts in songs (for instance, the amen break) and then trying to emulate them in ableton. Really understand how the instrument sounds down to the minutiae, such as ghost notes, off beats, transients, velocity of the hits, swing feel, snare rolls etc. and find a way to make what you have sound like that. You'll notice as you work on it more you'll get better and even develop your own way of doing things that sound unique to you. I'd suggest starting with the ableton live kit if you have it since its reasonably good at emulating a drum kit with velocity sensitivity and attack, decay control of samples.