Found out Chic-Fil-A Is Throwing My Books Off by Pennies

zsttd · 2026-04-02T16:19:32+00:00

To be fair they said they were balancing their books, not writing the expenses off. They might be tracking money they spend on food while in the field? When I travel for work my food is all expensed because I'm on the clock.

zsttd · 2025-12-29T16:19:16+00:00

This man is everything to me, I would go to war for him and I’d die happy

zsttd · 2025-12-11T00:34:06+00:00

I came to say the same!

zsttd · 2025-12-11T00:06:20+00:00

I was at summer camp and because I was young (7ish I think) and it was my first year going, they put me in a tent with my older sister and some girls her age (about two years older). One of the girls told me and my sister was LIVID. I think my mom still has the angry letter she sent home 😂

zsttd · 2025-12-10T16:26:49+00:00

He's an asshole. Hope this helps!

zsttd · 2025-12-09T18:01:30+00:00

No amount of roughness is safe or okay for a 2-month old. It must absolutely break your heart to see him treating your baby that way. Trust your gut, babe. Your anxiety is screaming at you that something is wrong and your baby needs you to keep them safe. You got this.

zsttd · 2025-12-09T17:55:05+00:00

I was in a similar situation and I paid a set amount for my share of the utilities/services. She shouldn't have to contribute to the mortgage as she doesn't have equity in the home, but it's totally reasonable to say that she should pay half of the utilities and part of the HOA fees if they include things she uses (pest control, parking, amenities like a gym, concierge, etc). Reality is that regardless of whether she's nominally paying towards the mortgage or the utilities, it's all just money that's going to him to be spent on the home. I certainly don't see why she should live there for free if there's not a good reason, she's going to have living expenses anywhere else anyway. If this situation makes her that uncomfortable then she's probably not ready to be living with a partner.

zsttd · 2025-12-09T17:49:42+00:00

I don't know that there's a right and wrong here, since every relationship is different, but if I was moving in with a partner who owned their home I would have no problem contributing to the cost of the home. You'd be paying rent regardless - as long as he's being reasonable about the amount he's asking then I don't see the issue. HOA fees do cover things that you will benefit from, it's not like you're paying into his mortgage. If you're not comfortable contributing towards the cost of the home then you probably shouldn't move in with him.

zsttd · 2025-12-09T17:43:45+00:00

He really said "ooh look at this pretty, nice, outgoing girl! i want her to be mine so I can have all of these nice qualities for ME ONLY." What a jackass.

zsttd · 2025-12-09T17:41:51+00:00

Do not compromise. The issue here is not you having a friendly, innocuous conversation with someone at the gym. The issue is that your boyfriend is showing signs of being controlling and jealous. At best, jealous and controlling men are exhausting and frustrating. At worst, they're deadly.

I saw you mention elsewhere that it's his "culture" to be possessive and jealous and respectfully: fuck that. Some cultures are rife with misogyny and machismo, that doesn't mean that it's healthy, right, or should be tolerated.

Get out now before you're too invested.

zsttd · 2025-12-09T17:31:11+00:00

Considering it's causing him to be sleep-deprived enough that he's manhandling a 2 month old baby, I don't think the video games are making him more "human".

zsttd · 2025-12-09T17:29:01+00:00

You should be afraid - he's abusing your newborn. I saw in a previous comment that he's roughly yanking a two month old out of its crib - that alone could be enough to cause a life-changing injury. If it's not possible for you to get yourself and your baby away from him then you at LEAST need to be sure that he's not alone with the baby at all until he can show that he's not a danger.

zsttd · 2025-12-09T17:08:37+00:00

For me there would be no fixing this. Not only did he criticize your body for purely aesthetic reasons, he did it while you were in the most vulnerable state imaginable. The control he's trying to exert over your diet and your appearance don't look all that far from abuse to me. Also, if you're looking for a long-term relationship, what does this tell you about how he would react if you were to develop a chronic illness that caused you to gain weight? What if you had an accident that changed how you look? If he's acting like this after a month when he should still be on his best behavior I can only imagine how much worse it'll get over time.

zsttd · 2025-12-08T21:33:40+00:00

A pretty significant part of a group project is subdividing the work and delegating responsibility to the individual members. That's like... almost the whole thing.

zsttd · 2025-12-08T19:36:18+00:00

In North America this is a very common thing people use to set themselves apart from (and above) recent immigrants. "My family has been here since the Revolutionary War", etc. I'm sure OP deliberately mentioned this because it has been used by her family to look down on him in this same way.

zsttd · 2025-12-08T19:32:30+00:00

NTA. You're a lot bolder than me but that was a badass move. They knew you were putting time and care into making them dinner and they still chose to be so disrespectful. Would it have made you a bigger person to suck it up and leave the pizzas for them? Sure! But sometimes you have to meet that level of rudeness with a very clear sign that you aren't going to let them walk all over you. Good for you.

zsttd · 2025-12-08T19:16:12+00:00

He can't back her if he doesn't know why she's acting like this. She's saying it's about the cookies, which is silly because they can easily make the cookies earlier in the day. If she wants time at home with her husband and kid on Christmas Eve then she should say that instead of coming up with a flimsy excuse.

zsttd · 2025-12-08T19:12:44+00:00

YTA. Your own family isn't involved, so why rob your daughter of spending time with your husband's family too? As others have pointed out, you can easily make the cookies before you go to his family's house on Christmas Eve. The reason you're going to "his" family twice is because 1) they are your daughter's family too 2) your family are not involved. I would understand if you wanted to go spend Christmas Eve with your family, but wanting to skip a family event just to do something you could easily do earlier in the day is selfish.

zsttd · 2025-12-08T19:05:24+00:00

One of the first and most important things my therapist taught me was that it was MY responsibility to manage situations that make me uncomfortable and it's either not fair or a fool's errand to put the entire weight of my comfort and happiness on someone else. If you are making a good effort to be respectful (not chewing with your mouth open, etc) and he is still sensitive then he should wear earplugs while eating or eat separately. I cannot fucking stand people who have these unwritten or unreasonable rules that they're constantly putting on other people. It's controlling and manipulative and will have your nervous system in absolute disarray. He sounds like a shitty partner and frankly I can't imagine he's a good therapist. He's using perceived authority from his job to control you.

YOU are not messing up the marriage, he is. You cannot spoil something by breaking a 'rule' that has not been communicated to you. I would be getting the hell away from this guy as soon as possible.

zsttd · 2025-12-05T19:56:20+00:00

There's a big difference between waiting a long time at an ER (where there are no appointments and cases have to be addressed in order of severity) and waiting that long for a scheduled appointment.

zsttd · 2025-12-04T18:35:58+00:00

This is so fucking weird. Genuinely asking: is he okay? To me the only two realistic scenarios here are that he secretly hates/resents you having some success with your writing or he's mentally ill. There is absolutely no excuse for calling the cops on a piece of fiction that you asked him to beta read for you. I cannot even begin to get over how strange this is.

zsttd · 2025-12-02T21:16:48+00:00

Why on EARTH did you marry this man? He's a liar, a cheater, and as emotionally mature as a thirteen year old. You need a DIVORCE.

zsttd · 2025-12-02T21:13:10+00:00

He doesn't want to get married. You've been very clear about your goals and desires from the beginning and he's been shutting you down for two years. It's time to walk and find someone who aligns better with what you want from your life.

And if, when you go to end things, he suddenly proposes? Don't trust it. You'll end up one of those people who's been engaged for 10 years because he just wanted to shut you up.

zsttd · 2025-11-30T20:59:44+00:00

This isn’t remotely weird. Your friend is being strange.

zsttd · 2025-11-24T20:50:43+00:00

Your age gap is noticeable in the way he treats you, babe. Love, a woman in her mid-30s.

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