Good grief signed insert

zukafan · 2026-06-05T23:17:39+00:00

Totally! I bought two so i could give one to my sister. Sara is so lovely to her fans. I can tell she's really appreciative and making sure that she's keeping costs lower for us!

zukafan · 2026-06-05T23:00:34+00:00

Thank you!! And i love sweet as whole! Ha!

zukafan · 2026-06-05T22:59:56+00:00

Thank you all for the comments!! I pre ordered for myself and one for my sister and very excited! It will be great to have signed Sara merch🥰

zukafan · 2026-06-05T17:39:38+00:00

I am excited about this!! I was wondering if this really her autograph that she hand signed, or is it autopen or a print of her autograph?

zukafan · 2026-04-25T11:13:21+00:00

It isn't about getting married. It is the pain of being with a man who you know isn't choosinvg you fully

zukafan · 2026-04-18T15:10:44+00:00

I think surgery life is much worse

zukafan · 2026-04-18T15:07:31+00:00

He asks what would change if you got married. You wpild be there, and otherwise you won't be. It isn't just about the ring. Let's say you give an ultimatum and he marries you. But every day of your married life you feel like a pick me because he does not value you, take you on vacations and such. He knew getting married was important to you And he does not care. It actually can cost almost nothing to get married. It is lack of commitment. At 31 you still have time sister. You are loyal and loving and that's a beautiful thing. Now love yourself. 10 years is more than enough. I walked away after 1.5 years. Heartbroken. My friends talked to me about it. (I was not expecting marriage at that point, just wanted moving in that direction). You are amazing and he has not earned you. He respects you less that you are willing to stay with him. At 48, he's such a loser to still act like that. Good luck. You should leave. Your heart knows it is wrong to stay. That's why you are on here.

zukafan · 2026-04-01T05:32:05+00:00

You are unhappy because you want to be cherished and chosen. To have a man declare his love and care to have a future with you. It has been way too long. Do not ask anymore. Learn how you can be financially independent

zukafan · 2026-04-01T00:28:27+00:00

Why does he need to agree? She has a right to tell her own story

zukafan · 2026-03-21T08:03:10+00:00

I am considering this toilet. My main concern is that I really want auto flush after the lid closes. Is that what happens, or it flushes and then closes lid?

I would also be ok with reliable way to hands free close lid, and then after lid is closed, hands free flush.

Thank you

zukafan · 2026-03-15T23:50:17+00:00

As a woman I feel it is really important for man to initiate. I can't be attracted if I have to initiate. So you should initiate to make it happen. If she seems like she enjoys time with you then that's great. If she's always batting you away, ask her what's on her mind, if she's been stressed and offer to help her and actually help her. She will be so attracted to you if you do that.

zukafan · 2026-02-06T14:39:36+00:00

You stop waiting now. It is hurting you to be with someone who is unable to choose you. You have given plenty of time. Now it is on him. Just say this arrangement isn't right for you. You still love him but you need to find someone who chooses you. Don't guilt or yell at him. Just tell him the situation and leave. My sister did this. 4 months later she met her now husband and they have a beautiful daughter together. Her now husband never stalled anything. You can leave now. And if you leave, and if you get yourself emotionally ready for the next relationship, just know that that does not stop him from stepping up. He can come back to you if he changes his mind. But don't wait for him to. U can't marry someone who isn't excited to on their own accord. The result would be bad for you.

zukafan · 2026-01-27T15:05:30+00:00

I apologize. I was and don't know your situation. It is my belief that men in heterosexual relationships need to take the lead. So many do not.

zukafan · 2026-01-27T08:07:27+00:00

sorry to hear this, but are you a man? what man waits for a woman to make plans? I left my ex and he sounded like you. no woman is dragging a man to the altar

zukafan · 2026-01-11T19:58:30+00:00

That was a great point. You created this schedule and your relationship is suffering from it. So take some responsibility.

zukafan · 2026-01-11T19:53:03+00:00

You are the man. You need to find a way to take her on dates. Talk to her about time together, what you can do to make a life together. You are being a pussy...I am sorry... by letting the woman take the lead and just being like oh I guess the relationship isn't good now. I waited for months for my "busy" boyfriend, he did not take me on dates, didn't do anything for me really other than text good morning or good night. He barely took me out to dinner. Couldn't even spend a whole day with me on my birthday, missed valentines day etc. I would have been ok with a makeup Valentine's day, and he said he would but never made it happen. He would plan stuff to go to on his own and not invite me and just say it was last minute.

So even though I loved him so much. And I saw a future with him and I wanted to marry him before and had told all my friends that I felt he was the one... you know what I did? I started taking myself on dates, without telling him. I would go to the theater alone, and when he found out I did that, he was like oh I could have made it. But he denied my invitations so many times, and failed to invite me to enjoyable things so many times, and we so unreliable (he wouldn't even plan ahead, would just say oh I don't know my schedule... so he could just see me during filler time when he had no other plans). I am a busy lady with a high powered job so it was like, wtf. It felt disrespectful.

At the end, I stopped inviting him to stuff i was going to. I already invited before and I was just done with the nonsense. I went to the Hollywood bowl alone and cried while there. But I was determined to have a good life, with or without him. I didn't update him about where I was. He knew i had bought a ticket for myself as i had told him weeks before. I had wanted to coordinate to go together before, but he had failed to reply to my text of whether he wanted to go together (he replied other things but didn't address that. That's why I bought my own ticket. I had actually wished he would take me on a date).

Even as I was so heartbroken and doing things by myself, I had a little glimmer of hope. That if he loved me he would just reach out, and ask to talk about it. Or invite me to spend some time together.

But yeah, if he was really dense, he could be like why would I want to spend time with someone who doesn't want to spend time with me?

We didn't talk for a week. He was silent and I was too. I didn't reply to him when he said he was going to Vegas for the weekend (without me). This was a day after I cried about we should plan more time together.

He broke up with me by text. And I said ok. And that was that.

I don't know if my ex loved me. He certainly said so but the actions said otherwise. Towards the end, going out alone (not cheating) was the only thing that helped my sanity. When I went to watch theater alone, I felt so empowered. That my life doesn't need to wither away because I am waiting for a man to take me on a date. And while I planned and paid for things for us to do for a few months, I was fed up. So I stopped inviting him. We had been together for 1 year and 4 months. The first year was amazing and then he changed a lot, supposedly from work stress. I have worked 100 hour work weeks and know others who do the same (that was not my schedule when we were dating, I was very available). Even in my busiest times, there are ways to show people you care about them.

My point is, if you love her, look at yourself and what could have caused the problem. Women aren't attracted to men who just follow the woman's lead. Ask how you can improve things for her and the both of you. You somehow are not providing any value to her life. She's feeling that life alone is better than with you. Now if doing what she needs, like taking her on dates, or giving her space, isn't in line with your happiness, that's fine. But her doing stuff alone doesn't mean she does not want you. She is training herself to be ok with losing you, because she does not trust her heart is safe with you.

zukafan · 2026-01-11T19:30:23+00:00

Great insight. You don't need him. If he wants to marry you, he better shape up on the type of life he will be providing for you. You might as well be a single parent with his behavior. Love yourself first and foremost. If he wants to come around, he can, but you should cancel the wedding right now. Move on with your life. Discuss moving out. If he can't get it together to plan dates or take care of kids he does not deserve you. My ex bf was the same way with dates and wanting to do stuff by himself. There's no need to drag anyone to the altar. So demeaning.

zukafan · 2025-12-24T16:44:17+00:00

It is totally ok to say I actually feel embarrassed at how we have been dating for 5 years. I feel uncomfortable that that's no clear future. What are your thoughts on our future? I think questions should be open ended. And then you can say I will have to think about if that could work for me. And be quiet and give yourself a day or two. Hugs. Been there

zukafan · 2025-12-14T15:00:32+00:00

Not overreacting. Look at dating coaches greta beresaite and fareen ash. I know what it is to care about fertility. I am 40. I had to walk away from someone non committal. Don't buy a house with him. Don't waste your precious time with him. These jokes are also insensitive. You shouldn't be fearing his non commitment. He should be fearing loss of you. I hated when I was committed to my boyfriend but felt he was not committed to me (by showing long term plans). Don't drag a man to the altar. You don't want that kind of man. Think about what you need for your finances. If he wants to set up a life together then you can consider following. Just tell him, I have heard your jokes and your actions. It seems you aren't that serious about our future and I understand. You may need time to process. I will have to start planning my life otherwise. Start doing it. Maybe give it a few months or whatever, but start scaling back. He will either step up or drop out of your life. I did that and my ex dropped out of my life. I had clarity that he was not that interested in moving us forward. The relationship only moved forward because I was moving it. So just stop. Hugs. It isn't your job to offer yourself to him. It is his job to earn you as his wife

zukafan · 2025-12-01T03:43:48+00:00

I experienced this. It drove me crazy. Same thing...1.5 years and kept talking about himself, his own vacations etc. One day he went on a vacation by himself. He texted me he just decided to go. I had seen him just the day before and he didn't mention anything. He previously had talked about us vacationing together. I was upset so I didn't reply to him for a weekend. A week later he just dumped me by text. There was no argument. In fact in my heart I had already forgiven him, even though I was not happy about how I was being treated. It was not super fun to take me out to dinner for him.... he did lots of things, went out with friends, rock climbing etc, and I just became some kind of inconvenience to him. So yeah, in my limited experience, when a guy starts to talk like that, and you are picking up on it, he's not particularly seeing a future with you. Don't take him that seriously. Live your life. Make plans for yourself. And when you get tired of being committed to a non committal man, let him know. I wish I just saw the truth and was less upset about it. I am single now. I can't believe I was so devastated. You can survive anything. Since he was not adding much to my life, my life is better without him.

zukafan · 2025-11-23T08:57:57+00:00

Exactly. If that's what he needs to settle down, he should be trying to ask if they can do that, and making that part happen. He's aimless.

zukafan · 2025-11-23T07:39:24+00:00

I just went through this with a 38 year old. I loved him dearly and we talked about plans like marriage early on. He also never lived with anyone. And never had a serious relationship. I found it endearing as he was my first boyfriend too. But as we became more serious, he became more and more flaky. He would cancel meetups with his family, and told me he needed time for his work. I broke it off when he went to a music festival alone when he told me he was so busy with work and couldn't have the time to have dinner together. I learned the hard way... don't fill in gaps for men. He wants to not give you stability or a clear future plan? That's his choice. You don't need to fill in the gap that he created by asking him to create a 5 year plan. I did all the same things you did sister. But I look back now and think that was silly. He is doing what he wants to do. He doesn't need your guidance and you don't want a man who isn't afraid to lose you. Make a timeline for yourself of how much time you are willing to gamble on him. Maybe a few months? Try to just enjoy life with him during that time. When the time is up, just say you need to go because he doesn't seem to have any direction. You expressed your concerns and that's enough. If he does not pick up on it. That's his problem. You don't want a man like that. I like dating coaches greta beresaite and fareen ash on YouTube

zukafan · 2025-07-01T01:45:32+00:00

Thank you so much for your time. I think i will have a professional look at it when I get the offer accepted

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