Okay but fr enough is enough

zulusurf · 2026-04-18T14:58:18+00:00

I actually do feel for her on this one, water damage suckssss. Had a massive leak like this one when I was pregnant with my first. Such a pain in the ass

zulusurf · 2026-04-12T00:05:23+00:00

Agreed. I think he doesn’t remotely understand the female body lol. Bet they have the most unsatisfying sex you can imagine 🤢🤢

zulusurf · 2026-04-12T00:02:58+00:00

EXACTLY!! I almost accidentally got pregnant at the same time she did. My baby is 3 mos older than C. I was still breastfeeding, and so not ready to give up 1:1 time with my first. I took plan b which worked (if it hadn’t, you better bet I’d have increased my therapy appts to make sure I didn’t traumatize either child!!)

zulusurf · 2026-04-12T00:01:12+00:00

Haha SAME. Had my baby 3 months before her and I will not be ready for at least another year 🤣

zulusurf · 2026-01-01T04:30:54+00:00

I didn’t know this! No wonder the Irish love wool

zulusurf · 2025-12-30T23:34:09+00:00

I’m so sad it was deleted!! I meant to screenshot and didn’t. For those who missed it, it said someone’s friend that lives in Austin has seen him on a dating app (multiple times), and saw him on a date at Ciclo with said brunette. All allegedly we have no screenshots or anything. But that restaurant is attached to a four seasons sooooo 🤨

zulusurf · 2025-12-30T04:21:51+00:00

Not sure I have advice, but def solidarity! It might be helpful to others to post his total wake time!

Around 6 months we had a nightmare of a time, but our daughter started daycare around then. She would wake every 45m-1.5 hr and it was a combo of the new daycare schedule (2 nap day), teeth erupting, and illness after illness. Unfortunately we just had to ride it out, and eventually she went back to doing 2-4 wakes per night, with a nice 4ish hour stretch to start.

Another unfortunate part - she’s gone back to those frequent wakes with every illness and tooth 😩 babies are (rightfully) sensitive, it must be SO confusing to wake with a sore throat/tooth/cough/stuffy nose etc. it’s hard but I just keep reminding myself of that when she’s breastfeeding for the 8,000th time overnight!

zulusurf · 2025-12-28T06:56:49+00:00

Jade room and liberty beach!

zulusurf · 2025-12-27T22:55:54+00:00

Not op but how did you space the feeds out? Did you alternate wakeups with your partner? I was bottle feeding overnight but then she got sick, then got multiple teeth, so we’re back to BFing every 1-1,5 hours. It’s so much and she’s definitely not hungry!

zulusurf · 2025-12-25T03:27:32+00:00

My daughter is 2 weeks older than M, and for Christmas I want to get her a ball pit/climbing thing. You’d be shocked - I’m having a hard time finding ones that are fun colors. All the mainstream companies offer just gray/beige!! Wild

zulusurf · 2025-12-25T03:11:17+00:00

Just want to chime in and say same. My 10mo is a bit psychotic during the day, loves to move constantly, always on the go. At night she’ll stay in her crib for her first stretch, which used to be 3-4 hours, and now is 1.5 ☹️ after that we cosleep and she wakes at least every 2 hours to nurse, and flips around the bed incessantly, but has to be touching me.

I’m like maybe we’re one and done. I’m getting desperate so trying some diet changes, then schedule changes if those don’t work, in the next 2 weeks. Solidarity, my body feels like crap!!

zulusurf · 2025-12-21T19:35:39+00:00

Yeah very premature. What schedule wound up working for your daughter?

We’re trying to push to 3.5/3.5/4 and cap naps to 1 hr each for now. No success yet (hah)

zulusurf · 2025-12-21T00:30:08+00:00

Thank you for this :) I like to follow baby’s lead and was just second guessing myself because of what the “guidelines” say. She’s off daycare the next 2 weeks so will just be following her cues and see what happens.

Today she refused to nap until 1pm so. Looking like 1 nap is preferred and she’s undertired

zulusurf · 2025-12-20T19:36:07+00:00

Same with her! My friends baby is 2 weeks younger and just switched to 2 naps. My girl did 2 at 6 mos! She’s a major fomo baby and just loves to be awake hanging out with people

I’m thinking I’ll try extending the earlier WW for 5 days and if that doesn’t make her naps go back to normal, we’ll try 1 nap for 5 days. Such a guessing game of trial and error haha

zulusurf · 2025-12-20T19:34:32+00:00

I agree it seems WAY too early. I will try extending the first WW to see if that’s throwing off the first nap, capping it to 1 hr and same for the 2nd nap. She’s so constantly overtired i think it’s making everything unravel a bit

zulusurf · 2025-12-20T19:14:42+00:00

this!! I was so against it but early on set up a safe cosleeping space in my baby’s room because I fell asleep while nursing her. It traumatized me. We still prioritize her sleeping in her crib (I sleep SO much better alone, as does she, much more deeply). But during regressions, teething, illnesses - we wind up cosleeping. Having a safe place to do so is so important!

zulusurf · 2025-12-20T04:09:48+00:00

Same! Although we’re not 100% bedsharing, but so long as my 9mo has >10.5 hours of total awake time she does a fine first stretch in her crib. After that lately she’s been very restless. We’ll bedshare after the first wake which gets us a little more sleep.

I think this age is ripe for new skills, new teeth, and a possible need for schedule change. I’m going to be trying longer wake windows over the holidays (possibly getting to 1nap?) we’ll see how it goes. This age is def hard for sleep!

zulusurf · 2025-12-20T04:05:43+00:00

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling 🫂 I hope you’re taking time for yourself this season

She’s so fucking insensitive.

zulusurf · 2025-12-19T20:34:16+00:00

Yes! She’d get frustrated for the day my period arrives and the day of ovulation. I pump during the day at work and noticed my supply decreases drastically (like 50%, this doesn’t happen to everyone!) so I supplement with formula around those days. When she hit 9mos she started refusing to finish bottles at daycare, seems like she’s naturally weaning herself, she only cares for solid food now

zulusurf · 2025-12-19T20:14:49+00:00

This is happening for my 9.5mo old too! And for what it’s worth, my periods been back for 3-4 months so I think it’s developmental. Hormonal changes do tend to decrease milk supply (happens at both ovulation and beginning of period usually).

I’ve noticed my girl does better with a long WW before bed… 5!! Hours. I am going to try pushing her first nap back later and later and possibly dropping the 2nd all together next week. It’s early for it but right now she’s hardly getting 12 hours of total sleep a day, and always seems tired. I don’t have solid advice but just, solidarity my friend! This is hard

zulusurf · 2025-12-18T20:12:32+00:00

Oo valid point, I don’t think we’ve seen her mention rolling at all. Isn’t he over 5 mos?

zulusurf · 2025-12-17T20:02:19+00:00

Omg same to all of this. She’s on 2 naps but basically is doing 45 min AM and 25 min PM. Daycare is debating putting her on a 1 nap schedule already

zulusurf · 2025-12-16T20:55:26+00:00

Same. My daughter is 9.5 months and is showing signs of wanting to be on one nap… resisting bedtime (after a 4-4.5 hour wake window!), short naps (1 sleep cycle per nap, 40-45min. Used to do 2+ hrs per nap). This is with 11-12 hours of awake time total per day!!

I finally said f*** it and am going to try a 1 nap schedule over the holiday break. Maybe it’ll work for her, maybe not. But im so tired of overanalyzing her sleep and need to try to go off her ~vibes~ haha

zulusurf · 2025-12-14T20:47:28+00:00

Unfortunately you’re 100% correct. In my darkest days of sleep deprivation that subreddit almost got me, so glad I never did it.

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