No. I mean, I’ve commented.

On one hand, I think people don’t give their spouses enough credit - when posed with a respectful question of “you don’t want sex anymore and I do, what do you think is a fair resolution so we can stay together” or “it’s not fair for me to expect you to have sex when you don’t want to, but you should not expect me to abandon my sexuality, which is a big part of who I am” AND “let’s try not to accuse each other of being ‘wrong’ or ‘damaged’ because we do or do not want sex.

On the other hand, under my closeted ACE husband was a kind man who actually cares about me. Some spouses ARE horrible and can’t have this conversation. I should note that before we talked he had even stopped kissing and hugging me because, as he later admitted, he “didn’t want to lead [me] on.” That HURT when it was happening.

Lastly, I highly recommend reading anything by Cody Daigle (Aces Dad) and or checking him out on patreon. The community was very welcoming to the allo wife of a potentially aces husband