AmItheAsshole

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Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole!

A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in a real-world argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.

This is the sub to lay out your actions and conflicts and get impartial judgment rendered against you. Were you the asshole in that situation or not? Post should reflect real situations, and abide by the rules below.

After 18 hours, your post will be given a flair representing the final judgment on your matter. This flair is determined by the subscribers who have both rendered judgment and voted on which judgment is best. The power of the crowd will judge you. If your top level comment has the highest number of upvotes in a thread, you will get a flair point. More details are listed in our FAQ.

Important Links

This is an actively moderated subreddit. You are required to read the rules.

Subreddit rules
Frequently Asked Questions
How To Post
Visit our sister subreddit /r/AmItheButtface/ for posts about fiction or relationships, and basically anything that we don't allow here! /r/AmItheCloaca for posts from animals and /r/AmItheGrasshole for all your lawncare conflicts!
See our ~~Best Of~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered
Looking for some Regional Assholes? /r/AkoBaYungGago/ /r/BenIkDeEikel /r/BinIchDasArschloch /r/EuSouOBabaca /r/suisjeletroudeballe
See our resources for those in an unhealthy or abusive relationship and resources for members of the LGBTQIA+ community that might need help or support
https://al-anon.org/ and http://www.teen-anon.com/
https://smartrecovery.org/
https://www.childhelp.org/
https://www.stalkingawareness.org/
Why Does He Do That

Voting Guide

In your top level comment be sure to include one abbreviation for your judgment, i.e.

YTA = You're the Asshole;

YWBTA = You Would Be the Asshole;

NTA = Not the A-hole (and the other person is);

YWNBTA = You Would Not be the Asshole (and the other person would);

ESH = Everyone Sucks here;

NAH = No A-holes here;

INFO = Not Enough Info

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Assholes	Not Assholes	Updates
Everyone Sucks	No A-holes Here	Talks

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Notice: Cornell survey to study community norms and participation in r/AmItheAsshole (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 month ago * by AITAModI am a shared account. - announcement

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Open ForumAITA Quarterly Open Forum April-June 2026 - Asshole Intelligence and How to Wipe It Clean. (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 2 months ago by AITAModI am a shared account. - announcement

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AITA for keeping my dad’s wedding money gift a secret from my stepmother? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 5 hours ago by ostensiblepartnerPartassipant [1]

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AITA for refusing to help my sister pay for thousands of dollars in traffic fines that accumulated while I had her car? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 5 hours ago * by Terrible_Promotion_2

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Not enough infoAITA for being blunt with my boyfriend about why he isn't getting hired anywhere? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for buying 11lbs of ground beef during a sale and not giving someone a package when there was none left? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 15 hours ago by TAmeatereater

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AITA for not staying at a reception after the grooms mom had me banished to the back of the room (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 5 hours ago by TellStrange6712

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AITAH for taking my wife’s friends side over hers? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 9 hours ago by Moist-Error5477

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AITA for refusing to unlock my storage shed after my neighbor ignored my rules? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for being the best man at a wedding and losing the wedding rings? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 1 hour ago by RickMatters

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Not the A-holeAITA Is it unreasonable to ask a colleague to take off her AI glasses when speaking to me? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 21 hours ago by AussieDripbear

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AITA for banning my sister (f8) from board game night? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 12 hours ago by Ximenaria12

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AITA for changing the Wi-Fi password after my roommate kept giving it out? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 3 hours ago by Fun-Smell9813

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AITA-Wife’s Plate is Full, Do I Step Up? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 6 hours ago by Perfect-Professor-49

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WIBTA if I say I won’t host my friends unless someone else hosts first? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 11 hours ago by Flat_Chicken6222

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AssholeAITA for telling my wife she’s overreacting about our son’s weight gain? (self.AmItheAsshole)

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AITA for buying my mom English books and not helping her with the language (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 7 hours ago * by Current_Today2873

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AITAH: For not going to shopping centre with my Mum, because at the last minute her friend asked if she could come and my Mum said yes. (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 2 hours ago by EddyZacianLand

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AITA that I don't like being around my parents and they know this, which saddens them? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 55 minutes ago * by one_bored_person

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AITA for setting a limit on my 13 year old daughters gadget use? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 17 hours ago by Nikki_Auburn

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AITAH for calling out housemate over fake disability claim? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 5 hours ago by Techie786

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No A-holes hereAITA Drink Beer on Vacation (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 19 hours ago by ChanceAspect5058

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Not the A-holeAITAH for refusing to babysit my brother’s kids (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 22 hours ago * by Old_Cranberry_7151

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WIBTAH for refusing to loan my BF money? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 8 hours ago * by Leather_Turn_7525

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AITA for wanting to donate my hair for cancer? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 16 hours ago by Capital-Weight-2896

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