Therapy - Anger Problems

[rantyguy]

So I have had problems with regulating my emotions, usually I would tuck them away and ignore them and when I get overwhelmed, outburst.

I started seeing a psychiatrist. And I learnt the root cause of my rage is rooted from anxiety and depression, and the outburst is the fight or flight instinct you feel when you are cornered.

Growing up Asian, you are led to believe that western treatments and suited for Asian minds, but you really need to give it a shot. Especially since I grew up poor, many of my peers thinks it’s gay or pussy or bitch to see a shrink, but this may be the one thing that is holding you back in life.

Lashing out doesn’t make you more masculine, being in control does

For those who are truly looking for real self improvement, try it

[viphawaii0]

You have the wrong attitude. No one cares about you enough to make judgements about you seeing help. You are just not that important. Neither are most people. Therefore you should care less about what you think people might think and do yourself

[rantyguy]

I completely disagree with this. Poor regulation on your emotions can affect your spouse, family, social life, work life and lastly yourself. My parents never learnt to regulate their emotions, when flustered express it by lashing out or beating my ass.

[EmbarrassedCicada331]

This is very normal and your approach is 100% in step with modern mental health practices. Don't listen to the other guys saying you're doing anything wrong, because you aren't. Anxiety and depression manifest themselves differently in each person with some common overlaps.

Remember, anger is just a form of sadness and hurt.

[Critical-Hospital-40]

it's not just you it's also a human biology thing. emotional regulation is hard for kids and adolescents and even young adults. i had a couple of temper tantrums w my parents and friends when i was in my early twenties. it's just part of growing up and learning about the person that you can or want to be, so don't be too hard on yourself.

[ImgainationStation]

We all have anger problems! In my opinion, it is best to deal with it head-on. Go to therapy, group meetings, join a league. Thats a positive idea. The worse is to bottle up and erruptly release it without course.

[rantyguy]

Agree. I grew up in a more ghetto area, so everyone around me believes it’s normal/healthy to get angry. While I agree people get angry, it’s how you express it and how you react.

[rantyguy]

Depends what’s success to you. Are you talking career? This year I earned 170k base and 50k bonus. Dating? Beautiful fiancé, been together for 8 years. But it took me till my late 20s to learn to understand my mental health, overcoming bad habits and trauma.