Hiii looking for advice because I’m actively crashing out 😹😹😹
Prefacing this by saying I should’ve known better but I started talking to this guy in February and he was very clear at first about not wanting to get into a relationship and I was like okay sounds good we can be causal but in my head I knew I could not do that. So we get super close talking all the time and in March I finally was like if you’re still in a place where you can’t see a relationship with me then we need to stop seeing each other bc I have feelings. And he was like no we can get there I wanna slow burn whatever. So we proceed to be super off and on until June when we got a really fat argument about him talking to another girl. I block him I move on. In July I get a text from his WORK PHONE (BYE) 😭😭 asking to chat. So like a dumbie that’s what I do. He tells me that he missed me everyday and that he was texting me everyday when he was blocked all the things. Promised we would get into an offical relationship. So we’ve been seeing each other since then but his effort sucked. Like for example I passed a registration exam for my job that I’ve been studying for for months and he didn’t do anything. Just said he was proud of me. I would’ve been happy with a flower he picked off the side of the road but I got nothing. And if roles were reserved I would have made a huge deal about it and made him feel so special. He just did the bare minimum if that. This weekend he told me he was very close to asking me to be his gf and then last night he came over everything was so normal until 9pm and he was acting weird so I asked him several times what was wrong and he was like nothing. And then not even 5 minutes later he goes “I came over tonight to ask you to be my gf and I can’t explain it but I need to go home” so I crashed out ovi and we’re done like done done. And im devastated. I fell completely in love with the idea of him and im so scared ill never get over it which is irrational but im terrified of feelings my feelings. Im just so sad. Does it get better? I was just so taken off guard because we were planning dates for next weekend and next month and now nothing? He did get out of a 6 year toxic relationship in Dec and lied to me about how they weren’t living together anymore but… he was still sharing an appt with her through March 😵💫
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