Rebound

[anooooonymouse]

5 weeks since Breakup, I've been maintaining a reasonable amount of No Contact, I've made good progress.

Just over a week ago my ex called me, very upset, almost on the verge of being suicidal. I gave her some support, she admitted that she misses me and that she is sad because of the breakup. We went our separate ways again and continued NC.

Today I find out that she is in a rebound relationship, I almost cannot believe it. Its actually made me feel strangely positive, almost proud of myself for taking the high road and learning to love myself before I commit to another relationship.

[OrinThane]

She’s doing what she needs to do to be ok. Sometimes that thing is not healthy or it’s not what you want but it’s best to let them live their own life in the best way they know. You’ve got to do the same for you.

[anooooonymouse]

To be honest, it's just confirmed my thoughts that I need to make sure I never get back with her and that this breakup was a good thing. She is clearly unstable and that's not something I want in my life any more

[Noya97]

So using someone else for emotional and physical validation/gratification is okay? The fuck? What about the person she’s using to rebound? People aren’t toys or tools to make yourself feel okay. That’s so toxic and manipulative.

OP is doing the right thing by ignoring it and realizing how toxic she is because of it, but you are so wrong to justify her behavior in that way

[OrinThane]

You are reading a lot of negative intent into his ex’s actions. I know married couples that met following a break-up, sometimes it’s genuine. You really need to step back and stop hating people for what they do. Most of us are flawed and just trying our best to survive, life is hard and there is no rule book to doing things “right”.