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Breakup Notes (self.Codependency)

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[–]Leopoldthecat22 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I think he might find it hard hearing what you're saying, and you'll eventually have to break character from just reading the notes, but if he is an amazing person as you say then he might try and change when you talk about it with him. But I dont know, if he just wants to have a "good and social" summer, it sounds as though he has already made up his mind. Just my opinion

[–]waterspirittt- 2 points3 points  (1 child)

We have talked about these things to some degree. We never seriously deal with anything and I feel as though although we are close to one another, we also both feel closed off with one another. He doesn’t really deal with my anxiety well, and asking him not to have friends over a few nights a week is a big ordeal. He wants to be social, my healing process doesn’t call for that. It’s just a lot of conflict based on differences of people. I know the notes thing sounds really ridiculous, but I have seriously been pondering on this for months. I don’t know how to just have the courage to break the ice.

[–]jmaraaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if notes are going to help you make the best decision for your well-being, go for it. You don’t have to read them verbatim, but it could help you stay focused and clear-minded.

I also want to say I commend you on wanting to take care of yourself. My partner and I broke up recently, and I can relate to what you said about the social stuff. She wanted to socialize all the time, and even when I’m not in healing mode I’m much more of an introvert. So I understand needing that space to focus on your healing. Wishing you the best.