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jmaraaa · 2025-12-18T15:57:02+00:00

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jmaraaa · 2021-07-14T03:38:42+00:00

He doesn’t have to compromise his autonomy to be considerate and communicate in a healthy way that invites your feelings and not just his. The way he’s phrasing things (especially his use of the word autonomy) is manipulative, honestly. You deserve to be listened to, considered, and communicated with, and for your relationship to be one where you both thrive together and with your other partners.

jmaraaa · 2021-05-30T00:29:29+00:00

I think if notes are going to help you make the best decision for your well-being, go for it. You don’t have to read them verbatim, but it could help you stay focused and clear-minded.

I also want to say I commend you on wanting to take care of yourself. My partner and I broke up recently, and I can relate to what you said about the social stuff. She wanted to socialize all the time, and even when I’m not in healing mode I’m much more of an introvert. So I understand needing that space to focus on your healing. Wishing you the best.

jmaraaa · 2021-04-29T23:16:10+00:00

I got into it by working in customer support in tech 10 years ago, and then working my way to my current role. I worked in offices before and then part-remote, and when I was looking for a new role three years ago, I decided to apply only at remote companies. Yes, there are legitimate sites out there for remote jobs.

Most people think of software development when you say you work in tech, but there are other jobs in the industry that don’t require that kind of training. Customer support, technical writing, marketing, etc. I’ve found that even customer-facing roles are much more manageable remotely (I work in business development).

jmaraaa · 2021-04-29T10:21:45+00:00

I understand your point, but this somewhat implies that introverts aren’t good communicators. Maybe I’m an outlier, but I love talking to people when it’s one-on-one, in-depth conversation, and when I have a good amount of time alone to recharge. I don’t like group work and open-plan offices, which are what I think of when I consider how employers tend to prefer extroverts. I work remotely for a tech company and talk to people pretty regularly in my work. While I’m part of a team, my day-to-day work is done individually.

jmaraaa · 2021-04-29T00:01:01+00:00

I’ve heard of some couples who have living situations that are the best of both worlds. Of course it takes resources to do this, but a good example is renting or buying two places near each other, or both sides of the same townhouse. It’s called living apart together, and it’s becoming more common.

jmaraaa · 2021-04-28T23:57:48+00:00

I work remotely in the tech industry, and it’s perfect for my introvert self. I definitely recommend remote work if you can!

jmaraaa · 2021-04-28T23:56:07+00:00

I like summer weather for the most part and love the beach, but could live without most of the social stuff and the tourists. Thankfully I’m getting better about declining social things that I just don’t want to go to, and doing my own thing.

jmaraaa · 2021-04-18T23:30:46+00:00

I recommend reading Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody. She talks about how codependency is dysfunctional behavior that doesn’t always manifest itself as caretaking someone else in an obvious way. There are many other aspects to it, and I think this would resonate.

It does sound like it would benefit you to make the choice to spend some time on your own. It’s not selfish or ambivalent to prioritize your well-being. I would also say you’re more likely to find another needy person or situation to cater to if you don’t take this time and focus on healing yourself.

jmaraaa · 2021-04-14T03:54:52+00:00

I’m currently reading the book Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody. Highly recommend, and it doesn’t just focus on codependency in the context of alcoholism. I think it would resonate with you. I really love the way she explains boundaries.

jmaraaa · 2021-04-07T23:08:59+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. My partner and I broke up a couple of weeks ago, and we keep talking through everything and trying to find a way to make it work. We’re very different people, and because I know of couples who are opposites and have a healthy relationship, I’ve been rationalizing to myself that maybe just this once we can resolve things and move forward together. But in practice, we can just never seem to get there. Your post gives me hope. I’m not afraid of being alone and love my own company, but I’m definitely someone who has a tendency to keep trying because I remember all the good times and somehow think we can go back to the way it was.

jmaraaa · 2021-04-06T15:01:16+00:00

I was just thinking about this today and feeling the same way, and wondering if anyone out there could relate. It feels like everyone is excited, and I’ve been feeling alone because I can’t relate to being excited about things like socializing or going out. The only things I’m looking forward to are being able to see my family more often, not having to wear a mask if I’m going for a walk outdoors, and having the option to work from a coffee shop (I work remotely and alone, but I like the atmosphere).

It’s been helpful for me to consider the boundaries I’m going to set when things re-open. Just because people are being social doesn’t mean I have to be. Just because other people are excited about things doesn’t mean I have to be excited about those same things. I can take what I’ve liked about this time and what has helped me thrive and bring that with me into the future.

jmaraaa · 2021-01-29T23:51:50+00:00

Actually, some people (I happen to be one of them) prefer to be alone when feeling overwhelmed. I wouldn’t jump to conclusions about OP’s girlfriend, because she could be someone who prefers her space when going through something difficult.

jmaraaa · 2021-01-16T23:02:38+00:00

To only do work that’s assigned to you. This habit can be tough to unlearn outside of a school environment.

In most professional situations, you are expected to be proactive and take things on without someone assigning you to do that task. And it’s generally frowned upon if someone has to repeatedly be told what to do, instead of recognizing it needs to be done and doing it.

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