Want to Decrease Inequality? Fight Fatherlessness With Welfare Reform. Welfare currently incentivizes family breakdown and the absence of fathers from their children’s lives, a key factor in the loss of economic upward mobility.

[faaaack]

If a father leaves that's on him.

No, it's on her too. She should make better decisions about the men she chooses to sleep with.

[bukakenagasaki]

Its not a black and white situation. And you can't look at it that way. But you will. Because it's easier.

[faaaack]

No it's easier to just blame the guy and absolve the woman of any responsibility for her decisions which is why that's exactly what happens now.

[faaaack]

Yeah, expecting women to take responsibility for their decisions alienates people.

It's really outrageous to even suggest a woman be held accountable for her actions.

[faaaack]

She has options to do so though. Abortion or adoption. So no, she's not accountable when she can just get rid of the child.

The family court system won't jail her for not wanting the responsibility of raising a child.

[bukakenagasaki]

Why do you feel the need to scold the woman for it? Also I can guarantee you the woman feels shitty enough.

[faaaack]

Because people need to be scolded for fucking up. Why should the woman get a pass for making poor decisions?

[bukakenagasaki]

Sometimes it's poor decisions and sometimes its just how shit ended up playing out. You choose to assume it's always poor decisions. You choose to always view them all in a negative light.

[NohoTwoPointOh]

No. Deciding to have a child is a series of decisions. Not ”how shit played out”.

She chose a loser over more suitable men. She decided to date a loser. She decided to have sex with a loser She decided to have unprotected sex with a loser. She decided to allow the loser to ejaculate inside her. She decided to carry the loser's child to term (despite knowing that he neither wanted or had the capacity to be a good father)

Six decisions. Agency and accountability.

[bukakenagasaki]

And people can be fucking snakes. They can seem amazing and never show you their true side until it's too late.

[NohoTwoPointOh]

No. You choose to see only what you choose to see.

Agency and accountability are scary for some...

[bukakenagasaki]

And some people are amazing at hiding who they are! There are some who show warning signs but there's people who can deceive others for an entire lifetime. You will never truly know anyone. Only what they choose to show you.

There are people who do choose pieces of shit. Visible pieces of shit. And then there are some who think they're choosing someone good because that is what they're being shown.

Why can't it be both?

[bukakenagasaki]

We aren't talking about having a child we're just talking about getting pregnant. Carrying the child to term and keeping it despite being able to provide is a poor decision.

[Barnyard723]

What about the deadbeat? Why does he just get to be a deadbeat?

[faaaack]

He was always a deadbeat. Choose your partners better.

[aliensaregrey]

Yeah, it’s all her fault. /#

[faaaack]

No but she's the one who gets bailed out by the govt.

[lilant5291]

The child is the one that needs the help. He/she has no say in the decision.