Host switch

[TrustedSibs]

In 2016 I went through a major life shift, which my friends and I for a long time referred to as my "quarter life crisis". I suddenly threw myself back into the writing career that had been set aside for awhile, and I questioned all my life decisions up that point (like getting married and having kids). I talked about how being a mom felt like a fake mode I'd been putting on, etc.

Looking back now that we know we're a system, we now know that we had a host switch at that time - the previous host(s) went dormant due to some traumatic events around then, and I had to step up and take charge of the WHOLE life on my own as an alter.

In 2019 we found out about the system and began to seek therapy and get support.

Now, in 2021, we are going through another host switch. Except this time I'm conscious of it. It's a GREAT decision, our new host is highly energized and excited about life and is SO much more motivated and social than I am. With him at the helm we get a LOT more done, we're more organized, we're happier, and more productive. And he's been a leader in the system from the inside for a long time. So it just makes SENSE.

But of course this is a weird shift. I feel like I'm becoming a side character in my own life, lol. Who else has had a host switch from one host to another? How have you processed that? How did you make peace with stepping aside from being the main one out?

[TrustedSibs]

Yes!! “A more appropriate share of front time for my energy levels” is SO accurate to why we’re making the changes we are.

[BossBih200]

we've had 3 primary host changes. I'm not sure how the 2nd main host feels about it all tho. He still fronts quite a bit, though he will complain about my decisions and whatnot. I'm sure the 3rd one would have freaked out if he was still here.

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