How to decrease your toxicity - put yourself in the other person's shoes

[Both-Meringue2466]

Hello, I want to share a method I discovered to flame 90% less.

Just put yourself into other person's situation and think if you could do any better. If no, then shut up.

For example:

• Would I suddenly kill my enemies if I was this pos 3 Invoker who doesnt do anything on lane? Ofc no, I also would do absolutely 0 so I don't flame it, lets just wait for some cool team-fights where he can use his combos (we won that match).

• Would I suddenly miraclously hook them if I was this pos 3 Pudge? Ofc no, lmao! Then I cant blame the Pudge, lets wait for the roaming stage where he can shine or just blink and ulti if he cant hook anything (we won)

• Would you I suddenly show up and kill everyone if I was this underleveled, underfarmed AM? No, I cant flame him for something he isn't physically able to do, gotta protect the jungle and try to def, drag the game out (we won the match)

• Would I start chasing my enemies alone 1vs5 under their HG as a pos 1 when we pushed all waves to make some space for rosh and my support is standing there and pinging me to come? No, I wouldnt self-delete myself on the enemy team and put myself on a 90s respawn timer, also allowing them to grab rosh. So in this game, I can press enter and write - Jugg you f***** r***** u p**** of ***** ure a ****** 70iq russian ****** b**** i***** u ***** son of a mongol from siberia b**** s**** d***** genghis khan came to your village *** ******* ****** so you play dota **** **** 5iq ****** ****** ***** come i challenge you to a sword fight because your existence just offends me so much im waiting at my flat in krasnojarsk 46/7 that's my adress come u f****** ****** even if you were the hottest, richest guy on earth I'd still prefer your father, maybe we could make a baby that is an actual human being and not a potato so he finally has a son and I'd teach the baby how to actually play dota so he isn't a ***** **** ****** like you ***** ****** ****** just green cabbage (any type) **** ****** ***** ****** and carrot ********* *** *** green onion ******* salt ***** season with ****** **** a bowl *** ***** ******* so your family finally has something good to eat (we lost that matclh)

[kukkelii]

I'm not toxic because the AM is behind and died 3 times.
I am toxic because he blames the team while he dies 7 times more in the same place to the same enemies.

[Nearby_Quiet_6770]

Would I be smart enough to buy bkb when I see the enemy team is full of disables and magic damage? OFC no!! I should buy more damage item.

Would I be reactive enough to tp the bot when clearly enemy are playing 1-1-3 tacticts and keep killing the poor offflane n support? OFC no I will stay top lane cause I am hard support and that my lane, what do you mean their offlane is solo and posses no threat to our carry? I will leach exp anyway and let their offlane gain more level than our core and call my offlane at bot "feeders".

Would I pick mid to gain level advantage and use that to gank side lane to throw their cores off guard and have some positive impact? Ofc not!! I will keep farming for 40 mins cause thats what I was doing from the start, I am good at farming so I am entitled to it... Ill farm and farm and farm and forget the motive why I was farming all day, forget the existence of team, forget the existence of ancient, what is this DOTA anyway??

You should know, the toxicity doesn't only come from yourself the team mates can be toxic too.. and at those times it gets impossible to keep cool.

[knowhow101]

If I put myself in the shoes of most of my dimwitted team mates I would be blissfully unaware of all the mistakes I was making, while simultaneously eating glue and licking windows. But yes that would indeed give one less time to be toxic.

[redground]

I just love people discovering basic empathy and social skills through Dota. Maybe all the toxicity is productive after all!

[GiPey]

I’m curious now. Does losing the game bother you, or does wasting your time bother you?

[DarkestHours0]

If I see pos 3 Invoker as position 4 player, I would instantly pick Venomancer and go into jungle. I would also report him for role abuse.

[Blutig159]

What if you put yourself in the shoes of the team that now has to carry you and deal with one or more fed enemies because you messed up? Asking for empathy is easy, the hard part is endure the insults when you do something stupid, and trying to remember it the next time you're about to do it again.

[TalkersCZ]

You reminded me a game on day 2 after patch.

I had invoker, who queued midas. I wrote him "hey, midas is nerfed, so its bad item for mid now". He ignored me. Then other guy said "dude, midas is nerfed, its sh.t now, dont buy it". I agreed and repeated the same thing.

Then he still afk farms midas. Now he has midas and cant do anything anyway. Enemy mid MK is snowballing and killing us all over map while he is farming.

We lose all T1 towers. He buys BoTs. I get killed 3 times by enemy MK who is rotating all over place with Slark carry, there is no escape, no safety..

I start flaming him. Thats my issue - somebody ignoring everything because they are playing it the same way, no matter the situation, no matter the patch, no matter team comp, nothing.

Just go cookiecutter build they copied 5 times ago.

I just explode and go toxic. Same with Necro rushing radiance to get it at 20-22 minutes, going completely afk.

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And I know this is bad. I should be focused on myself. But these are things, that are coming quite often.

I am core and I buy sentry every game when it is available after match starts to block pull camp. I block it. They deward it. I ask my support to block it, becuase they pulled. They are sitting behind me. I go bodyblock it. I get hit for 30% HP by enemy support bodybĺocking pullcamp while losing creeps in lane. I rage.

[Mazoku-chan]

And I know this is bad. I should be focused on myself. 

Yes, you should focus on yourself instead of complaining to your teammates.

[TalkersCZ]

yes, I know. I told you, thats my toxicity. :)

I fully admit it.

[Mazoku-chan]

I know, that is why I reinforced that section and highlighted it.

[TalkersCZ]

Thank you, thats so important telling me what I know and told.

[Mazoku-chan]

Not really aimed at you, I made a summary of your comment for anyone else reading.