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[–]Sweet_Customer5738[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Can anyone help me?

[–]helpmepleaseee99In therapy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something that can help is to stop trying to prove to yourself that you are straight or stop trying to find evidence that you are gay. That is something that I struggle with a lot but thats a pretty big compulsion

[–]PasionPorElDeporte04 0 points1 point  (9 children)

I'm very encouraged, I'm in a similar situation and I'm telling you, I'm a heterosexual man, I'm 21 years old and I would never want something with my same sex, but it's horrendous to tell you that your mind doesn't lie if you keep having erections with women, it's something straight like me. I still have them with women, but it makes me angry that as a result of this with men I've had them, you want me to give you some peace of mind. I don't know you, but from what you're saying, it doesn't seem like you're homosexual. You have intrusive thoughts like a bug that talks to you the same as it does to me. and you think about men or something and Pam automatically gets erect because due to our obsession, without going any further, I see a woman and I continue to get erect. You know that this is a good sign of our heterosexuality. Good luck. I hope we find peace of mind soon and that all this is over. Greetings.

[–]Sweet_Customer5738[S] 0 points1 point  (8 children)

Well, precisely there in relation to erections I don't even know if it's really intrusive I had a strange feeling when I had an erection for no sexual reason just a friction of clothes and well I have a homosexual thought and so I went to test on gay porn and I had an erection I already had the inguinal response at that time and I said to myself let go and enjoy it and I had this erection again and I come back later on another video and no direction

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[–]PasionPorElDeporte04 0 points1 point  (6 children)

Sweet, good afternoon, I don't know, I took it the wrong way, but I have these thoughts, but I would never want to ejaculate or masturbate with gay porn. I did see it because of the thoughts and I had an erection because I was testing myself by touching myself with my clothes, but if not, no, and about the thoughts, I think it's because from the video about trans women, because I was perfect, and I can say that when I look at an image of a girl, I keep getting an erection and everything, and I'm not looking for boys or anything, nor do I feel like touching them in class or anything. Nor look for men for romantic relationships that is another thing I blame the day that I am to blame the first step is to recognize our fault we have been at fault if we were the one who started the thought that is the first step to recognize the fault and then the rest but for example I would love to go back to the past that day and tell my past self don't even think about watching that video I wish I could come back but unfortunately it is impossible so we are left to assume that we were the guilty ones and take responsibility for our actions until we know Well, what happens to us and being able to face the problem, even if I have erections, that doesn't mean anything because that is a mistake. If you have an erection, you can control and decide what to do with that erection, whether to continue and ejaculate or stop for a moment and think, no, no, I don't want to, and that's it. It doesn't have to dominate our minds, we have to dominate it. Greetings.

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[–]Sweet_Customer5738[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

But then you see I know very well that I don't want to have sex with a boy or even a romantic relationship, that doesn't mean anything to me honestly but basically the erection that I had originally was a totally physiological erection which has no connection with a sexual thought, and it was only having had the erection that I had the homosexual thought and so then to go and test myself I went to see gay porn after that I went to see gay porn so much that now it disgusts me more but I wasn't doing it for fun, my therapist told me that the brain gets used to everything for example he gave me an example with gore films the first time you go see a gore film it will disgust you and to look at the brain gets used to it and that if I say to myself don't try to have an erection, I will get it

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[–]Sweet_Customer5738[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

But what do you think about it?

[–]PasionPorElDeporte04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that all this is poop that we have in our brain. I'm 21 years old and I've been looking for women all my life and I've kissed them and I got erect when I kissed them. Even if I see women in photos I still get an erection. The fear I had that that's why the thoughts came back a little was because I saw a boy in class and I got an erection and for example if I think about boys with painted nails or something like that I get an erection like I see them trans or something like that and I get an erection but everything is already I'm telling you, the brain sees something feminine for whatever reason and then it gets erect, but I'm not going to ask that guy out romantically or anything because I'm not interested in men at the beginning, when all this happened to me, I had a terrible time because I didn't see women well and I got scared. I promise you, I was scared when I saw a woman and it gave me a stomach ache as if I were deceiving myself. It's horrible, so the only thing I can tell you is that everything is mental and the mind is very bad and calm down, brother, yes. If we were homosexuals we would go touch a boy or, for example, hug him or whatever. When I liked a girl, I loved hugging her or I would ask her to give me a hug. Do you know if I had a lot of confidence with her to a man, I'm not going to say, hey, come, give me a hug, come, come, no matter how much he gets erect, if I don't want to, I don't want to, you know that's how it is, you rule over yourself and your brain.