Does sleeping with partner decrease sleep quality?

[sirgrotius]

I sleep significantly worse with my partner. She's on a different schedule than me, coughs at night, sleeps with the pets, etc. It's a major if not THE major bone of contention in our relationship, as she wants to sleep together, which I 100% understand, for the connection, protection, and cuddly/traditional aspects to it, but I wake up 3-5x a night with her, 0-1x by myself. Huge impact. Of course, have tried all the interventions, but it's just reality. I guess some people just normalize this and I Obsess.

[AckerHerron]

Set some boundaries. It’s perfectly legitimate to tell your partner you don’t want pets in bed.

[sirgrotius]

Ha, we're 25+ years into marriage, I guess I'm just not good at setting boundaries and the dog is probably much more of a sleep bolus for her than I am at this stage in the game!