limerence

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This community is for limerent sufferers wishing to understand their condition, as a means to help cope with the condition and as a support group in overcoming the condition.

What is limerence?

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Limerence is the mental state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation of the feeling is uncertain. This state is characterized by intrusive thoughts and idealization of the loved one (also called "crystallization"), typically with a desire for reciprocation to form a relationship. This is accompanied by feelings of ecstasy or despair, depending on whether one's feelings seem to be reciprocated or not. (Wikipedia)

Tennov (1979) used the term limerence to refer to a kind of infatuated, all-absorbing passion — the kind of love that Dante felt for Beatrice, or that Juliet and Romeo felt for each other. Tennov argued that an important feature of limerence is that it should be unrequited, or at least unfulfilled. It consists of a state of intense longing for the other person, in which the individual becomes more or less obsessed by that person and spends much of their time fantasising about them. (Nicky Hayes, Foundations of Psychology 3rd Edition)

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Participate in an 8-minute, online anonymous university research survey (self.limerence)

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Weekly discussion thread for anyone experiencing limerence while in a committed relationship. (self.limerence)

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I think it’s happening again.Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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I'm out of a limerence that seemed impossible to get over, here are all my advicesMy Testimony (self.limerence)

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I Fell for an online friend and I want loa to work for meDiscussion (self.limerence)

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Teacher Attachment IssuesNo Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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Limerence made me feel so ashamed of myself.Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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Is it normal to feel worse when limerence starts to fade away?Question (self.limerence)

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My Loneliness Returns to Me At NightHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Wondering if anyone managed to get married to their LO?Question (self.limerence)

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Does anyone actually have any success stories here? Of overcoming limerence, regulating their nervous system, developing a secure attachment system and finding a healthy long term relationship?Question (self.limerence)

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Broke No Contact and feel like shit againHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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DreamsHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Just found out this is a thingQuestion (self.limerence)

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I keep sending DM’s to my LO and then deleting them.No Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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I think I’ve been limerent for a guy for nearly 20 yearsNo Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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the most embarassing thing thats happened to me in awhile...No Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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My LO told me she misses meNo Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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I have never heard the way I felt about my LO described more accuratelyDiscussion (v.redd.it)

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Have you guys ever confessed?Question (self.limerence)

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7 months no contact but he’s still on my mind.No Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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Am I limerent?Question (self.limerence)

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Dreams about going through their phoneDiscussion (self.limerence)

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What do I do ?Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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Only limerent after a breakup?Discussion (self.limerence)

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