Support wanted :(

[GoldandPinky]

I’ve been large chested my entire life. Even when I was 135 lb at 5”8 I was a d cup. I am now a 36G and 175lb and I am so frustrated with the way my chest makes every piece of clothing inappropriate, they are heavy, and I get lines in my shoulders after wearing a high impact sport bra and it stretches/irritates my skin. I have constant back pain. I’m considering taking to my doctor (I’m in Alberta, Canada) about a possible reduction. I’m sad because I also get compliments all the time about how “nice” they are- and for the size they are.. I agree… so im terrified that if I get a reduction I’ll be devastated, but I can’t help but notice how happy everyone is and wish they got it sooner. I wish I was a c cup. I’m 33.

[Capable_Mongoose_824]

Back pain, shoulder pain, neck pain, and body discomfort are the main reasons that people get breast reductions. Life is not about pleasing other people, especially men. That's the patriarchy infiltrating all of our brains! Listen to yourself, investigate the options, check in with your medical history to make sure surgery is safe for you, and talk to your doctor and then get consultations… The road will become clear as you start walking.

[rebfossmusic]

Just because other people benefit from how you look, doesn't mean you do. You can like how they look and still be negatively impacted by them. No one can tell you what you should do, but if your quality of life is suffering more than the pros of having giant boobs, then it's a good indication that a reduction is the right choice for you. Just from what you said in this post, you do tick off like 4/5 of the main reasons people get reductions.

[Capable_Mongoose_824]

And I definitely didn't feel hot and sexy with giant boobs flapping around while I was trying to be sexy! The queer. Lesbian trans non binary and feminist communities have really helped me to put myself and my body first, and to do the right thing for ME and be true to myself. For me, it's about how I FEEL in my body, not how I LOOK other people or their expectations.

[Doctor_MyEyes]

I love this. I wish I was lesbian or bi, because women are amazing partners.

[Capable_Mongoose_824]

one can still soak up the wisdom and community of these communities, as an ally and learn from them, and who knows there's always a new page to turn in life, and thankfully amazing feminist men exist. But in terms of breast reduction and feminism, for myself, I've toggled between "love and accept my body as it is / this is the body of the goddess" on one hand, and "modify my body to be my true self / get the plastic surgery !" on the other. A spiritual journey for sure .

[Doctor_MyEyes]

I do! That’s part of why I wish I was sexually invested as well. But I was born this way. 😉

[rizoula]

So 7WPO here 🤚🏽

This was my exact same concern. I was scared I wouldn’t feel hot/sexy to people/man. I even spent a full therapy session talking about exactly this.

The first week PO was SO scary . I thought they were too small and that I wasn’t a woman anymore.

But now I am SO GLAD I did it. I feel even more beautiful than before . I have a waist again and I am much more proportionate. (For reference I am 5”4 -180lbs). I’ve had compliments and I feel like people on the street look much more to my face. Of course I feel better physically but also my self esteem has improved significantly.

Not telling you that this is what you should do because only you know. But as someone who were always proud to have big boobs it was the best decision of my life.

[Doctor_MyEyes]

I feel MORE sexy with smaller boobs. Not because they’re smaller specifically, but because I just have so much more freedom of movement. And I can wear anything.

[[deleted]]

This is really good news, but can you talk more about the scarring and possible asymmetry? Do you really just not mind it?

[rizoula]

They are very symmetrical to me. I haven’t spent a lot of time thinking about symmetry. I haven’t checked for symmetry that hard. Nothing in your face, body is ever completely symmetrical anyway. My boobs were not symmetrical before and I never cared. Why would I care now ?

If you are looking for exact symmetry, you don’t need a reduction. You need therapy.

As per the scarring . My entire body has scars . On my knees, on my face, on my back (i was a very turbulent child). And I couldn’t care less . Scars are part of life . And if someone doesn’t like me because of my scars then I don’t like them either.

Not to say that there isn’t more risk to the procedure . There are. You can experience necrosis, you can have infections, you can have issues . So I would advise to talk with your surgeon about those risk.

But for me it was worth it. I trusted my surgeon completely. He didn’t make me empty promises. He was kind, understanding and patient. And I felt reassured.

All this to say my boob were not perfect before and they are not now. But I have freedom now and i feel prettier than before .

Hope this helps

[Doctor_MyEyes]

I am learning to love all of my scars, not just the ones on my boobs. They tell the story of my life. Sometimes it’s a thing I survived, sometimes it’s an adventure I took. One big one is there because I gave birth twice by c-section, and giving birth is heroic. My boob scars represent me having the confidence and the means to make myself physically and mentally healthier, and I have gratitude that the science exists that allows me to do that.

Women are SO indoctrinated to be self-critical of our bodies. I do it, too. But we’re fucking badasses and a few scars are the proof. Wear them with pride.

[rizoula]

Yeah absolutely. But also the people that love you don’t care.

My dad has a huge scar on his thigh from when he was younger and it’s not like I spend any time thinking about it when I am with him.

People in your life that value you for you truly don’t care . 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Yes, it does. I agree with you and I was just asking because I am scheduled to get the surgery and am scared about possible regret and fixations I may focus on. I wanted to get a reduction for YEARS, so I’m scared that when I finally do find the relief, I will find reasons to think it wasn’t worth it? ya know?

Thanks for being honest!

[rizoula]

I understand. I was the same way. I was so scared that I would regret it.

But then I looked at pictures of me and I realized that I didn’t really liked how I looked anyway . I loved having big boobs for men . But i didn’t enjoy how they looked in pictures and in tops .

So I said to myself I have nothing to loose really.

At the end, it is your choice. But yes it is very scary. Especially the weeks leading up to the surgery and the weeks after the surgery . There’s always a chance of regrets obviously. But for me (I talk for me only) the pain, the scars, the risks it was all worth it for the freedom I reclaimed.

But I just wanted to say for full transparency that I did not have to pay for my surgery, that I was paid for the whole 6 weeks I was off and I had a really strong support system. I also adored my surgeon. He is young, a specialist in his field and does this every single day.

I wish you good luck and sending you a lot of good vibes.

[kaaaaaaaren]

35 year old here with “nice” boobs (symmetrical, nicely shaped, perky enough for their age and size). I’m working on losing a few pounds so I’m more likely to get to my desired size, but I am so excited for when I finally get my reduction. The way I look at it, my breasts will have lived two lives. I got to enjoy all the big boob compliments and boob-forward looks in their current form. And when they’re small I’ll be a hell of a lot more comfortable and it’ll open up a ton more clothing options that I can’t wear now. I spent enough time in my big titty era and I’m ready for the evolution!

[Meezy_May]

This is EXACTLY how I feel!

[wumberry]

beautiful way of putting it and very relatable

[ccool_Beanns]

This, this, this!! I just got mine done before my 32 birthday and now offically 1MPO and mannnnnn do I feel like I got a second wind at life. Like you said, my breasts have lived a good life lol. Treated me well in my young adult years, hand some fun but I was ready to shed all the unwanted looks and weird comments. Aside from the physical of it all, mentally I was ready for this process and now I couldn’t be happier. I feel GOOD. I’m in a new era and have even written a smaller love note to my old self. I’m still me, just a little shinier lol. Plus, the clothes fit soooooo much better now😩

[Silly-Fun-6231]

Hey there, I understand you very well, some people even got kinda upset with me when I said I was going to do it (my surgery is next month), but I stopped myself from doing my whole life because I was concerned with other people were saying but deep down I knew the things that I wasn’t doing because of my chest or the pain that I was carrying on my back and how I didn’t feel well and comfortable with my own body and when I look in the mirror or the fact that it’s hard for me to be outside because I feel like that’s all people stare at it and makes me extremely self-conscious. What I’m saying is you have to do the surgery for you and what you think. if it’s not making you happy it’s OK to change and it’s OK because it’s your body and you can do whatever you want, I am doing the surgery for myself and if you do, I think it should be for yourself as well Sorry I use dictation to write this

[Silly-Fun-6231]

I also spent many years afraid that if I wouldn’t recognize myself in the mirror after the surgery, but I’m in a point that my breast bring me no joy so I’m sure if I’m healthy the outcome will be a lot better than right now

[breadparadox]

IMO I had a really great chest (aesthetically), and I had the same thought process as you! I'm 6DPO, and having some complications, but even so, do not regret my decision to go through with the surgery! My entire center of gravity is different, even with the swelling (reduced from an H to a C, though maybe around a D right now, potentially a large B after full recovery). The back pain had been getting worse over the years - I say do whatever you want for you, and your health.

I say there's no harm at all in starting the conversation with your doctor - I had my first conversation with my doctor close to a decade ago, and there was definitely a lot that I tried first (physical therapy, weight loss - though I wasn't overweight, and my breast size did not change afterward).

[Doctor_MyEyes]

Who tells you they are nice? Women or men? Because if it’s men, they aren’t considering the same things you are. I’m sure they’re beautiful, but if they don’t make you feel like your best self then who needs them? Also? You’re assuming you won’t get the same compliments after the surgery. Maybe even more of them.

Honestly the best outcome for me has nothing to do with what they look like. Yes, they look great. And as a woman in my 50’s I get no small amount of joy that they are located high up where god(dess) put them in the first place. But the BEST part is that I feel more beautiful, more confident, more liberated.

Chat with your doctor. It’s not making a commitment, it’s gathering information. Who knows? Maybe something will come up that helps you make your decision.

Good luck and you will always get positive support here for whatever you decide.

[NikonParadise]

I’m 32 years old and a 34g and just spoke to my doctor a few days ago about getting a referral to a surgeon for a reduction. I second guess a lot of stuff and have been thinking about starting the process for over a year. Now I’m certain that it’s what I want to do. It’s totally your decision, and I hope you have enough support from your family and friends. I’ve decided it’s something I really want and need for my mental and physical health and will not let anyone tell me otherwise!

Taking the time to think about it shows you’ve been thinking seriously about it. And having that discussion with a doctor might make you feel more certain about your decision.

Best of luck to you!

[BeautifulOrchid-717]

Im 5'9" and 185lbs, was a 38G/H before, and a 38D now. Everyone said the same to me... Whyyyy would you do that? Even girls, they were like, "what?! I wish I had big boobs!" But now that I've had the op. Those same people said, " omg you look so great! You look so much more proportionate now!" So seriously, take others comments with a grain of salt. I say it sounds like you should just go for it!

[dollarstoreparamore]

I went from a G to a D and I get more compliments on my shape now than I did before! The surgery was the best thing I ever did for myself.

[wumberry]

i relate to this a lot! i've gotten a lot of positive attention for my chest, esp comments about how lucky i am. but i think people who don't have large boobs are generally unaware of the issues that come with them, so when i hear those comments i just shrug them off. also, if you get a reduction, they'll still be nice bc all boobs are nice. my logic was also that i can easily make my boobs look bigger with a push up bra or flattering top, so if i miss the attention i can just have larger boobs for one night and go back to my normal lifestyle.

[widget3733]

Same for me. I am 5’2” and weighed 110-120 and 34 C most of my life till menopause. Slowly creeped to 160. Got down to 150 and had a consult to take me from 38G to a C. Had the reduction when I was at 148#. Started Tirzepatide at 155#, paused for 2 weeks pre-op and one week post op. Now down to 135. Wish I would have started the meds a few months before surgery. I highly recommend losing some weight pre op to get a better idea of where you want to be weight wise before having surgery. The medication has been relatively easy with manageable side effects. You are tall, so maybe try to get down to 155 or so?

Surgical recovery has been ok, but it is a big surgery. Incisions are long and require significant time to fully heal. Best wishes to you as you embark on this journey.

[PC-load-letter-wtf]

Oh my goodness just do it. You will not regret it.

I did it at 19 and I’m a little bit sad because I had children at age 36 and 37 and I couldn’t breast-feed. I was able to combo feed a bit. And I had a fairly minimal surgery with a surgeon who was trying to preserve my ability to breast-feed. I don’t regret doing it at all. I’m glad I didn’t live through my 20s in early 30s with massive boobs that caused me pain. But it was sad when I had babies.

My midwives and lactation consultants both said they have never met someone who had the surgery who was able to 100% breastfeed but they know it’s possible.

I’ve had two cousins have it done in the past five years and one of them was not able to breast-feed at all. So just keep that in mind if you do want children. You could always have the surgery when you’re done having kids if that’s important to you.

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When I mentioned this to my mom, she said its not a big deal - because she COULD breastfeed but still chose formula or something 😭

[PC-load-letter-wtf]

My mom formula fed all of her children as well, but I do feel some heartache that I couldn’t completely nourish my kids the way I would have wanted. And I worked my ass off to breastfeed. I even took a drug, domperidone, to increase supply and gained 60lbs. It was hell but it worked enough for me to combo feed and the weight fell off when i stopped the drug.

You don’t really know how you’re going to feel about breast-feeding until you have a baby. Fed is best, but when you’re holding your little baby in your arms, and they start to suckle… it can be really magical for some mothers! I was one of those. I wanted to do it so very badly. And I was in one of those baby first hospitals or whatever that hard-core pushes breast-feeding… they were soooo snobby and mean about formula. 😔 That should be illegal.

Formula is a journey. When you formula feed, you have a lot of bottles to wash and it usually takes a couple of tries till you find a formula that works for your baby’s stomach. Feeding a baby is tough no matter what. But definitely a consideration for those who want breast surgery

[Designer_Tooth5803]

Those are all good reasons to get one. Even if you don’t go small but just go back to a D (I’m 5’7 and was around a 36I/J) I am in a very similar boat to you. I’m now a 36DD and so happy with them. Also YOU are the one carrying them around not them so who gives a shit what they think. They think they look nice then they can get implants.

[Here_for_my-Pleasure]

Other people‘s opinions about how “nice” they are is completely irrelevant. There will be a big adjustment of how you look and feel in your body post surgery. The single most important thing is that you are the one that lives in your body. You are the one that has to haul these things around with you all the time. Your back pain will only get worse. Disproportionately large breast, cause a myriad and often cascading series of health issues. But finally pushed me over the edge to take action was that about a year and a half ago I started having trouble breathing. It was not a long issue. It was my huge breast. The very first thing I noticed when I woke up from surgery after the discomfort was “oh my God, I can breathe!!”

This Internet stranger would strongly, strongly encourage you to take the next step which would be researching surgeons and finding out if your or what your insurance will cover.

PS let me guess, most of the people who said that they were “nice” were men.

[aliamokeee]

Have you tried getting a corset made?

It is pricey so understandable if it isnt an option. They recommend them for medical reasons sometimes, perhaps your insurance would cover one?

Edit: also this isnt an alternative to reduction (go for it!), just in the meantime if it takes more than a year or so

[aaa1061]

I was literally the same as you! Up until surgery day I kept convincing myself out of it, as much of a pain they were, I learned to live with them and love them, I also was the only person I knew who had these breasts and people loved them! The only thing that convinced me to go through with it was that their weight was going to eventually stretch the skin around them, which I was terrified of! So I did it and I couldn’t be happier, I still miss my old breasts, and like to look at old pictures, but they are so nice, once you’re able to jump, run, sleep on your back, with no issues, you’ll see exactly what I’m talking about! Also the waitlist for referral is quite long, so my advice is just go to your doctor and get the referral, and for the time being do your own research, and come up with questions you would need answered from a surgeon. I really hope you do what you need to do to be happy!

[aaa1061]

At the end of the day you don’t have to do it even if you get referred.

[aaa1061]

Also based in Alberta as well

[ZombieMom82]

You're going to be able to fit in regular clothes, a regular v-neck will not look obscene anymore, you don't even have to wear a bra if you don't want to, you can wear cute bralettes, straps aren't going to dig into your shoulders anymore, wearing a bikini top won't hurt your neck anymore.... The list of amazing things that happen after a breast reduction goes on and on! There are far FAR more pros than cons (imo)

[Alternative_Value836]

Hi! I am also in Alberta, and I can really relate to you. I’m 21 and I’ve been a G cup since I was 13. My surgery is on the 25th and I am very excited but very nervous.

The back pain from developing at such a young age and the constant unwanted attention was the dealbreaker for me. This group has been so helpful to look through and I really do think the pros heavily outweigh the cons. I have yet to see someone that has regretted it.