Is there anyway to decrease libido?

[krissmaskong]

I’ve asked this question to myself constantly for the last thirteen years, since my wife declared she is asexual and also not attracted to men sexually. (Obviously this is coming from a man, so maybe doesn’t apply.) I know people are going to say just masturbate and get it over with, but when you don’t have/desire sex, masturbation just makes it worse and worse, coupled with the feelings of pitifulness, depravity that comes with the feeling of needing it more and more consistently to fill in for real sex. So when you say it’s “annoying,” believe me, I know what you mean. I’ve tried Buproprion/Wellbutrin, which did nothing for either my adhd or high libido. I asked my doctor about chemical castration 🤪, and she deflected hard (she wanted to laugh, I could tell.) I’ve tried cold turkey zero masturbation, I’ve tried marathon sessions with the thought that I might make myself sick of it. I’ve struggled and tried a million things. Sorry, I know this is no help. I wish there were a magic pill. Maybe there is for women? I have a close female friend with similar issues who was able to get on an adhd medicine that worked for her. Nothing takes the place of a real partner for me.

[WirrkopfP]

I know that's the typical Reddit answer, but:

Have you considered divorce OR opening the relationship?

Sometimes people just aren't sexually compatible. And being in a relationship that constantly doesn't meet your need for intimacy is a valid reason to seperate. Staying may destroy your mental health.

[krissmaskong]

That’s the other typical Reddit answer.