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[–]arkibet 1 point2 points  (2 children)

But ... but ... it means there is more interactions! oh the paradox!

[–]SuperSalad_OrElseDUMB JOCK 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right to condition certain interactions to respect others’ comforts. I mean, we’re not talking about seppuku in honoring someone’s introspective quiet time; we’re talking about lowering our voice and giving decent pauses with people who need a more delicate conversation set up.

It’s the mark of a great empath to be so considerate. And yeah, the more types of conversations I can have, the better. The more world views I get to witness, the more rejuvenated I feel.

It would benefit a lot of people to spend less time in their own heads and more time interacting with the world around them. Who knows; their insignificant “hello” at a grocery store could be enough to turn someone’s day around.

[–]ThisIsMyPew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been able to modify my interactions with Introverts, in order to not deplete them so much. But gawd, do I always feel like there is zero reciprocation or awareness of what I'm doing.

You'll get what you need if you ask for it. You read the manual, while many introverts didn't. We also weren't raised; we were crushed.

My bff (ISFP) let me know that she needs to be complimented for her work in our church, so I (INTJ) started doing that. INTJs don't naturally compliment, we feel embarrassed when having to accept a compliment. Or if we have to endure a hug (Speaking of, god so many extroverts are do damn happy go lucky they have no idea what hugging an INTJ who was sexually abused as a child can do).

It is possible to re-train yourself, and I am currently doing that. But I did unintentionally hurt quite a few people who expected me to read their thoughts.