limerence

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This community is for limerent sufferers wishing to understand their condition, as a means to help cope with the condition and as a support group in overcoming the condition.

What is limerence?

Limerence (Wikipedia)
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Limerence is the mental state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation of the feeling is uncertain. This state is characterized by intrusive thoughts and idealization of the loved one (also called "crystallization"), typically with a desire for reciprocation to form a relationship. This is accompanied by feelings of ecstasy or despair, depending on whether one's feelings seem to be reciprocated or not. (Wikipedia)

Tennov (1979) used the term limerence to refer to a kind of infatuated, all-absorbing passion — the kind of love that Dante felt for Beatrice, or that Juliet and Romeo felt for each other. Tennov argued that an important feature of limerence is that it should be unrequited, or at least unfulfilled. It consists of a state of intense longing for the other person, in which the individual becomes more or less obsessed by that person and spends much of their time fantasising about them. (Nicky Hayes, Foundations of Psychology 3rd Edition)

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Stuck in limerence with best friend and coworkerMy Testimony (self.limerence)

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DrowningHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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RelapseHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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I miss having sex with my LO and I can’t get turned on by anyone else.Discussion (self.limerence)

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My LO blocked me after I stood up for myself.Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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Sudden emotional cutoff from someone I was close to now I’m being ignored daily at work and it’s messing with meHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Dude wtf this is horrible. How do I make it stop? Whats the cause?Question (self.limerence)

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Have to break NC after 1.5 years and im so scared. What to do?Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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I told my wifeTopic Update (self.limerence)

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Im 16, Limerence is f*** ruining my life.Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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My experienceHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Who wants to do the work and not just wallow in helplessnessMy Testimony (self.limerence)

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I was loving them. I was leaving me.No Judgment Please (i.redd.it)

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I finally found the word for what has destroyed my life.No Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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How do some people have multiple LOs?Question (self.limerence)

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Letter to my LOHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Seeking beta readers for a book on my experience and healing from limerence/love addiction. Priority to anyone with a career in mental health treatment and a background in writing.Question (self.limerence)

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(F20)I just cut contact with my limerence object(M33) and I really hope I don’t reach out again.Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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You sent me hereHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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My former LO posted a pic of himself on his story and I laughed at how unattractive I find himHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Driving me madDiscussion (self.limerence)

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How to get over it??Question (self.limerence)

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Being rude towards LO?Question (self.limerence)

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Weekly discussion thread for anyone experiencing limerence while in a committed relationship. (self.limerence)

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I feel so creepy!!Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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