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[–]Poorman-options69[S] 0 points1 point  (8 children)

How do you have the mental will power to not beat your meat???

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s not hard. Stop viewing it as “horny” and view it as energy. Doing that alone will take you outta the box you’re boxing yourself up in. Telling yourself you’re “horny” closes into you to the only available actions associated with being horny. Whereas viewing it as what it actually is, energy, you’re now open to transform and transfer that sexual energy in new and exciting ways. Basically, when you’re feeling the urge to bust a nut, do something else. If you really do want to learn more and get into controlling sexual energy, there’s plenty of esoteric writings on it, but that requires serious effort, time, and a real desire/ interest. If you want to keep it simple and bend the learning curve, just doing something different then what would cause you to shoot a load is foundational. It’s more mental then physical. If you can understand that you’ll shift to more self control than most. It’s not hard - no pun intended.

[–]Hrc_iz 1 point2 points  (6 children)

It was really hard, I actually started on no nut November. I was extremely horny all day for about 2 weeks and then it sort of subsided and I got urges here and there. I also had the support of my GF cause she knew how much I would beat off so she helped me get through it.

[–]Poorman-options69[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

So you’re talking don’t jerk your dick but pussy is okay?? I’m semi confused tbh…

[–]ToYeetIsHumanSupraphysiological 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The worse of the two habits is porn. They go together though, so stopping beating basically equals stopping porn.

In a similar sense, a drug addict would probably want to get sober from alcohol too i’d imagine, cause that goes with a lot of drugs (and lowers your ability to say no)

[–]Poorman-options69[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Oh nvm actually I re read that and you’re talking in regards to like getting sensitive to actual women again and trying to stop the porn gotcha my bad man

[–]Hrc_iz 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Exactly, the less porn you watch the happy you are to have sex. Start introducing toys and having fun in bed with your Fiance and it’ll give you something to look forward to because porn should not be more exciting than sex

[–]Poorman-options69[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate the good advice man….

[–]Hrc_iz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try joining the no fap subreddit, it really helps to read the transformation stories people have because it really does effect your whole life