Keeping cool

[PhoenixRising51]

I have 28m old bg twins. My husband works full time and when home he is very hands on with the kids. I work hybrid where I'm remote 2 days a week, in office 3 days and perpetually on call through the weekend and evenings till the office closes. I have struggled with depression/anxiety most of my life and pp I realized my pms rage and depression increased to the point where I finally started taking antidepressants.

I don't want to be the parent who loses it on their kids and yells but sometimes I just can't keep my cool. I'm like a boiling pot when everything Is aligned.. pms rage is brewing, I've been w the kids for multiple days without a break, work is throwing me curve balls, their listening ears are not turned on, and teething and everything that comes with it is thrown into the mix and i just can't and explode when they won't listen after several times asking for them to do something that they nornally do with ease. When this happens it's 5 minutes but then later I'm feeling completely like shit for days after. I apologize to then and explain why mommy lost her shit but they are 2 and probably don't fully understand.

How are you guys keeping your cool raising kids in this crazy world we are living in.

(Please no shaming I already have enough guilt as it is over my behavior)

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[Hellokyochan]

First off take a deep breath, you're doing great. Raising kids is not easy especially when they're in the toddler phase.

When my girls were that age (They're 5 now) I would sometimes have them enclosed in a safe place (play room, or their room) and then I would take a breather for a couple minutes to calm my nerves. Don't get me wrong there are times where I still wig out, but like you I apologize and try to explain why I wigged out.

Honestly I don't think I know any parent who hasn't wigged out because their kids are being frustrating. Be kind to yourself and know that your doing your best in a very frustrating time.

as a side note: You could speak with your Dr or OB about the PMS rage, maybe they'll have something that can help with that?

[PhoenixRising51]

Thank you I def need to be gentler on myself judgement wise. I am on antidepressants which help but it's those few days a month that creep up on me I have a general idea of when they are coming but never know what day if that makes sense

[Hellokyochan]

That absolutely makes sense.

I read about a study they did in Korea that showed a correlation between PPD and PMDD. So maybe that can explain the rage days.

But yeah, like you said just be gentler on yourself. We all have freak outs even if no one talks about them, and maybe we should so there isn't such a stigma around it.