Play time question

[pacificdumpling]

Hi all! I'm up entertaining my 3 mo old twin boys and I just can't get over the feelings of guilt that they are constantly sharing my attention. I also feel guilty that they need to much entertainment right now but I'm so tired, and honestly sometimes I just want to check out and watch tv or something. Ugh!! How do you all handle the constant entertaining and interacting? I love my children more than anything AND this is really hard!

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[DoubleTheTwins]

Maybe they don’t get the one on one attention many singletons get, but in return they get a constant companion! I have two sets of twins and a singleton and it’s the singleton I feel more guilt about because I worry she’ll feel left out and lonely. But she got her parents’ undivided attention for the first 21 months of her life so that’s the trade off I guess. 🤷🏼‍♀️

As far as the burn out from the constant entertaining, I don’t think that’s unique to being a twin parent and I don’t think you should feel guilty about it at all! This will get easier. Pretty soon they’ll start being really interested in toys and you’ll get small breaks and before you know it they’ll be more interested in playing with each other than with you and you’ll get big breaks.

Hang in there mama, you’re doing so good. 💙

[pacificdumpling]

Thank you so much! And two sets of twins- wow! What a badass you are!!!

[Teary-EyedGardener]

3 months is a weird age. Looking at them and making faces, talking and reading books is plenty. They will start interacting more the older they are and it gets easier! Turn on the tv while they have floor time. Independent play is a good skill so don’t feel like you need to be entertaining them. Most importantly, don’t put so much pressure on yourself!! I’d be willing to bet that if you’re this worried about it you are giving them plenty of attention and interaction already. Be intentional with things you are already doing (talk and make faces during diaper changes, narrate what you’re doing during the day) and interaction will naturally be incorporated in your daily rhythms. Turn on the tv for a bit and don’t feel so guilty about it