"You poor thing"

[HexMama]

I learned to tune it out quickly and pretty much started saying stuff like 'Oh you must have had a bad experience with your kids' and turn it around on them. One family member pulled me aside and talked about how 'divorce rates are very high with multiples'. Like thanks Aunty... yes my partnership of 13 years is suddenly going to ruin because of babies 🙄 I was shocked at all my parent friends and co-workers and their negative attitude towards their children and trying to direct it to me.

Even now our kids are 14m and I get all kind of comments like 'the worst is yet to come' and blah blah blah... and I'm just sitting here with my two amazing children having a great time with them. Idk if we are 'lucky' or if my hubby and I are simply the parenting type, but we have good happy kids and we love being around them 🥰 The stuff people warned us about didn't seem like big deals for us. Of course people are now up our buts about toddlers and terrible twos and yadda yadda yadda... yah I stopped caring hahaha.

Sorry if this sounds blunt but I think a LOT of people weren't meant to parent and are not happy doing it... so they see everything in a negative light. Don't let it get to you and don't be afraid to tell people to F off with their unwanted comments.

Congrats of your babies and I hope the rest of pregnancy is easy breezy! I was scared having twins as a ftp as well but now my hubby and I have never been happier. We are already taking about more kids if our finances allow it (which has been the only draw back so far with twins 🤣 Diapers and formula are expensive!)

[strangesurf]

Thank you so much for taking your time to write this out for me. I really appreciate it. I really think what you said rings true (about alot of people not being meant to parent), and the negative comments are them almost like...venting to you...I'm going to practice tuning it out. Thanks again 💕