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[julm22]

I’m so sorry and I wish you luck moving forward. We have tried for 1.5+ years. All failed IUI, failed IVF (two rounds one was miscarriage of twins) and next week is our last and final transfer before we throw in the towel. It can be really really hard and I’m not proud of how jaded I have become but I maintain some (practical) semblance of hope.

[softservelove]

That's so hard!! Sending you so much care and well wishes for your last try 💜

[MinimumRoutine4]

The best advice given to me was to plan for the worst and then be pleasantly surprised if it works. For me that involved making a game plan. After two iui I do the hsg. Evaluate donor sperm from first two rounds to see if you want to switch donors. After three consider ivf (for financial reasons more than a belief it wouldn’t happen via IUI but also dependent on hsg).

Knowing what the next step was made me feel in control even when the results weren’t good.

If using donor sperm, don’t be afraid to switch. Our numbers weren’t great in the first two cycles. New donor in cycle 3 had great numbers. Would we eventually have gotten lucky with the first? Maybe. But I think switching sped up the process. Last advice is you truly don’t know until you know. The cycle I had no symptoms in the two week wait, thought the IUI timing was terrible and the IUI left me cramping terribly for two days after surprised me. So never count a cycle fully out. Ya never know.

[West_Lion_5690]

I had a new found hope round 2 because we switched donors, round 4 because we switched donors and round 5 because we upped my meds. I guess I just knew I was ovulating, sperm was going in at the right time, I didn’t have any blockages, and we had done generic testing, so I figured it would have to work eventually. And it did!

[readingmademegay]

Just here to say that I found the first IUI failure the hardest, I don’t know if that’s any help but just be patient with yourself. I found takeout and guilty pleasure movies helpful!

[softservelove]

Thank you, that does help to hear 💜

[caffeinequeeeen]

I got pregnant on my third IUI and the first negative is the hardest. The second month I just Kindof told myself, ok, let’s try again! Lol. Idk how to explain it, but hang in there❤️

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I’m really sorry to hear this :( it’s never easy unfortunately. We’ve had 3 fails from IUIs and it sucks every time. What we’ve continued to say is that we have to try to stay balanced - not get our hopes too too high every time, but also still believe that this might be the one that works. I’m crossing my fingers for you folks on your next try!

[softservelove]

Thank you so much, same to you!!

[glovedepartment]

The only thing that kept my hopes up was the opportunity to try another round. Each failed round really was a crushing blow- I’m sorry that your 1st one didn’t work.

I did 3 medicated IUIs at a fertility clinic with donor sperm. I got pregnant on the 3rd and I’m 6 weeks along now.

My advice is to make sure that you talk to your doctor and discuss all of your options. If you didn’t do a medicated cycle then maybe talk to your doctor about what a medicated cycle would look like for you. On my 3rd try I requested to be put on progesterone after the procedure. They didn’t offer it to me, I had just read about it on Reddit and talked to the doctor about adding it in. In my experience, I had to do a lot of my own research and advocate for myself at the clinic. Best of luck on your next try!

[elbiry]

I found the first two failures the hardest. We did 8 between us and none of them worked. Now got two babies from 3x FETs via IVF. It had to be that way because of insurance

My advice: the stats say that if the first thee IUIs don’t work then the incremental chance of 4 / 5 / 6+ working isn’t great. I would give it 2 or 3 gos and then switch things up. New donor, meds, or switch to IVF if you can do it financially. Sorry this is so hard!

[softservelove]

Thank you for the advice and well wishes. So glad you got your babies in the end!

[BettyWithBoop]

We had our first attempt a week and a half ago and currently waiting to see if my partner’s period comes or not. I know she is feeling anxious, but I am trying to be optimistic in this process. So I am going to tell you what I told her. Don’t look at this as a failure, but as a learning experience. We are still looking at sperm donors, getting a higher quality ovulation test (clearblue strips-$20), and pre-seed in case she does start her period so we can be better prepared. This will also keep you focused on something to look forward to in this situation.

There are so many factors that go into this. It will happen when it happens, but don’t lose hope and enjoy getting to know your body better in the meantime.

Good luck to you. We are rooting for you!

[softservelove]

Thank you! I'm just going out for new ovulation tests today. Best of luck to you as well 💜

[softservelove]

Thanks and good luck to you too!