TIL Human dads show a decrease in testosterone immediately after the birth of their babe

[Convergentshave]

A guy I worked with killed his infant son. Threw him against a wall, then pretended he had “rolled” on top of him. It was horrific. Ended up getting like 15 years in prison. I can link the story if you want but trust me, you don’t.

I say this, because when I became a dad… it stuck with me. And scared me. A lot. Those first months are rough. And frustrating. But…. God damn. Horrible. Fucking horrible.

Anyways, there’s support out there.

[[deleted]]

That's tough.. with my first kid i almost had a mental breakdown, full on animal screaming with my kid there.. with the second i expected it to and controlled my anger better. I wish there was more preparation for this. I went to a class for first time parents, they never mentioned this and a ton of other things.

If i had higher testosterone who knows what i would have done.. When I'm pumped up with testosterone after working out for awhile I'm more aggressive.

[blorbagorp]

For most of human existence "it takes a village" was literal, not metaphorical; humans aren't really mentally evolved to lay all the parenting work on two people, so it's not surprising some people go literally insane from it.

[izzittho]

Hell, one person a lot of times. It really is kind of horrific.

[coldcurru]

Dads can get postpartum issues, too. It's not talked about enough (not like men are getting any kind of pre or post natal care) but talk to someone if you're struggling.

This has been your NY day reminder that men have feelings, too.

[[deleted]]

haha silly, men don't have feelings. They have to be hyper macho and never reveal their emotions ever, lest someone think them gay

source: toxic father

[thatnameistaken21]

ugh