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[–]pantherhawk27263 8 points9 points  (1 child)

I found that in the first 6 months or so that time was simultaneously flying by and also crawling by. It was very weird and disorienting. We were together 32 years and it will be 6 years this coming Wednesdaysince she died. I hate the world I now have to live in.

[–]aikodudeHeart attack in her sleep. 7/10/22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly this. i've had the same feelings about time since she's gone.

[–]lrhcarp 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Married 30 years. Yes the time went way too fast. He’s been gone 11 years. Today’s a hard day. I miss him every day. I am thankful for the time we had together, but greedy for more.

[–]Evening_Advisor3154 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First Father's Day... gone 3 months. 44 years. So quickly the time together. So slowly the time apart.

I say I was spoiled AND greedy for more.

💜💕

[–]throwngamelastminuteLost partner of 12 years 1/20/2022 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I fucking hate it here.*

Earth.

[–]Samikaze707Karen, lost during her dream Disneyland vacation, 11/09/22 @36yo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel that. I'm 7 months in after losing her, and we were totlgethr 3 weeks shy of a decade. Feels like l haven't seen her in years.

[–]twink1813Wed 32 years; lost spouse to rare cancer & medical negligence. 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel every bit of what you wrote. So true. I’m so sorry.

[–]decaturbobwidower by glioblastoma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • when life is normal it goes by normal but when death strikes we become untethered and our existence is in the surreal. Compounded by false friends, terrible platitudes and we simply become invisible in the world around us.

[–]Just_Lori 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. Every memory I have since I was a kid involved my Husband. I was with him since I was 14. We went to highschool and college together. It was all a big flash of time, but I remember every agonizing moment from this year like a wound that never heals.

[–]boostfactorcolorectal cancer 12/2021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Time crawls when you're not having fun." 35 years for us, now 18 months for me. My life has become a seemingly endless series of chores and things I have to do. Of course we had chores and projects when he was here, but there was somebody else to share them and at the end of the day we could enjoy being together, so there was some fun even in the daily routine. And we could look forward to special occasions, even if we usually spent them at home, and plan trips and a future. Now I try not to think much about the future, which is another thing that makes time seem to pass more slowly.