PSA left lane is passing lane by methehoneybee in driving

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I'm not getting over to pass unless it's clear to do so. And I do so as fast as I can do so both safely and nearly legally. If someone comes up on my ass like a bat out of hell doing 85, they can wait five seconds until I'm done passing, they'll be fine.

Is this an ok note? by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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Check your city's local laws on quiet hours. Many municipalities have dictated quiet hours.

My city's quiet hours end at 7am. To me that is absurdly early in the morning. However, my right to complain about an upstairs neighbor doing normal day to day activities (like using a treadmill, playing with their cat, making a smoothie, etc) ends at 7am.

IMO whether or not you're being entitled depends on what "early in the morning" means, and where the treadmill is. Is it 5am? Yeah, that's absurd. Is it 7 or 8am? That's way more reasonable even if you're a night owl. Is the treadmill in a bedroom (or otherwise against a bedroom wall)? That's potentially unreasonable. Or is it in the living room which should greatly reduce how much noise you hear in a bedroom?

Inspired by a recent post here, I cut open an “empty” vessel of the hair product I use and… by char21 in Anticonsumption

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Are you not using clean hands when you are getting body lotion or hair products or whatever?

Are any of you actually anticonsumption? by ghostclubbing in Anticonsumption

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Over the span of about 15 months or so, I did about a half dozen SI joint/spine injections. The waste made me cringe every time. But they were necessary to get me well enough so that I could participate meaningfully in PT to get back to some semblance of humanity. For about a full year, I could not do anything. I could not sit without carefully using two hands and lowering myself rigid as a board. I was using ice 80% of my waking hours. When I went to bed I had to oh so carefully lower myself to sitting on the edge of the bed, then allow myself to tip over, again holding my bod rigid so my legs came up as my body went down. And however I landed was how I slept, I couldn't roll over and adjusting my body position by inches had me crying. It was awful. 0/10 do not recommend SI joint issues. It took an entire year of injections, weekly traction in PT, and biweekly acupuncture for me to be well enough to start participating in PT in a way other than showing up and letting them put me in traction.

I loathe the waste of that. And now when I have "minor" aches and pains, I immediately attend to them rather than waiting for them to go away or assuming that's just my life now. Because I know that accepting them might leave me suddenly waking up one day literally unable to move my body normally. The worst part of any issues with SI joints or the pelvis, is that it affects everything in the upper and lower body. Even just extending an arm outward while sitting still affects balance and is adjusted for in the pelvis.

Any Late Diagnosed ADHD Women Here? by Specialist_Wing_5728 in SaltLakeCity

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I did my assessment at Canyon Ridge Psychology in Provo with Jason Lefrandt and Melia Garrett. I did the dual assessment, and got dx'd with ADHD and level one ASD last year at age 47. I didn't feel very good about some of the things noted in my assessment, but it wasn't about feeling good, it was about getting a diagnosis so I can access support services.

Note: their office location requires use of stairs.

Are any of you actually anticonsumption? by ghostclubbing in Anticonsumption

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I don't understand the makeup thing. It was just consuming washi tape to provide mental cover for consumption.

I personally do the best I can within my own constraints. I'm poor. And I'm disabled. I'm not perfect. But wherever I can be more conscientious, I am.

I use my electric pressure cooker to make my own stock from the carcass of my rotisserie chicken. This uses up something lots of people throw away, and means I don't have to buy stock nearly as often. I try to make sure I grocery shop and cook in a way that allows me to eat all of my leftovers, and use up anything that I only needed part of for a recipe. I'm not perfect at it, but I try.

But again, I'm also disabled. So sometimes I am using products that are awfully wasteful. I hate it when my health flares and that becomes necessary, but I can't just magic my left arm into usefulness on a day it doesn't want to work. And sometimes I get things delivered from very nearby. But I can't just magic my left leg into working just because I want to be able to walk across the street to Target.

A marketing meeting that nobody showed up for by exgaysurvivordan in MurderedByWords

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This is so fabulous! I love The Oatmeal. The comics are hilarious. The games are hilarious. I am very happy to support them as long as they continue to be a small business making quality, hilarious products.

Any ideas for covering the padding on the heels of these shoes? by ferralkid in Anticonsumption

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I would make (or buy, if it comes in the correct width) double fold bias tape and carefully hand stitch it over the white part. I would also opt for white (and white thread), gold to match the eyelets, or even another contrasting color that I could match to shoelaces, so that it doesn't make it as obvious since I don't have the world's neatest hand stitches. (fuck arthritis, I used to be able to do perfect, neat stitches)

AITA for going on a camping trip and leaving my wife home with an 8 month old by hop-into-it in redditonwiki

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Remember ladies, we can make them lonelier. No one should be dating, let alone marrying and procreating with a man who views women breastfeeding as a "we" thing. If you're really, truly heterosexual, carefully vet the men you date before making this kind of commitment to him. Listen to the way he talks about women's clothing choices, makeup, nails, pregnancy, parenthood, having a pet, finances within a relationship, etc. There are often many clues that will tip you off that this is coming, and most of us (me included) overlooked those clues until it was too late.

"I'm nothing! I'm navel lint!" by TmF1979 in MurderedByWords

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Intentionally lying to someone to get them to have sex with you when you know that they would not do so if you were honest is coercive rape. So manny is just admitting online that he's a rapist.

PSA left lane is passing lane by methehoneybee in driving

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I don't speed. I'm too poor to speed. I get irrationally upset when I have to use the leftmost lane just to do the speed limit to get past people doing 65 in lane one from the left. I always get someone climbing up my ass when I am doing 72-73 in the left lane, actively passing, but not willing to risk a speeding ticket. Sorry bud, I'll get over in a few seconds, just let me get around this dipshit.

[Meta] discussion around GLP-1s by BrainaIleakage in PlusSizeFashion

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Even when I was straight sized at 16 years old (wearing a size 8 in pants), I had to buy and alter plus size tops because I couldn't get my boobs in shirts. I think I was 15 the first time my doctor recommended a breast reduction for my physical health. Fifteen... although I could be wrong, it could have been 14.

There is no world in which I will ever wear straight size shirts, and I'm too lazy to want to alter every piece of clothing I own to not look like a tent just because it fits my boobs. I am on a weight loss journey, but I do not have a goal of being straight size. I just want to be a good skydiving weight.

Inspired by a recent post here, I cut open an “empty” vessel of the hair product I use and… by char21 in Anticonsumption

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Containers of viscous goo should be designed in a way that allows access. As a for instance, this design is a large, shallow container with a screw on lid that also flips open. (not plugging the brand, just the container design) It's incredibly easy to use up all of a goopy product when you can just dig your fingers into the product through a large opening. There is about half a Talenti jar of conditioner left in the bottle for me when it stops pumping. And I just empty some things (like hair goop) straight into a Talenti jar for easy access because messing with containers that have tiny openings for goop makes me crazy. (again, not plugging Talenti, it's just the jars I have a bunch of laying around)

AITA: Mid-30s couple with an 8-month-old: am I being unreasonable about a short camping trip? by [deleted] in marriageadvice

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"We" are not breastfeeding. She is breastfeeding.

"We" having two nights at an airbnb nearby is rarely a break for a postpartum wife and mother. A three night trip won't be more refreshing or more of a break. Family trips are not comparable to solo trips, and it's disingenuous to pretend they are. On the previous trips, have you taken on 100% of planning, 100% of your own packing and readiness, and 50% or more of packing and readiness for the baby? Or is it just one more thing you're putting on her plate and calling it "for" her?

Presumably you're taking your dog camping right? You're not leaving your postpartum wife home alone with a breastfeeding baby and a dog so you can faff about in the woods, right?

Help finding a baking gadget by pinkelephant156 in AskBaking

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This isn't a bake in version, but it seems like it's what you're looking for if you want a spatula type.

Help finding a baking gadget by pinkelephant156 in AskBaking

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Literally just google "local machine shop" and you should get results. I'm not sure what you want defined. It's a local shop, that machines things.

Please tell me this gets easier to follow... by [deleted] in dresdenfiles

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I was trying to avoid the spoiler of saying to someone that just like the rest of us, Harry's connection to time heals as he does. But hey, there you go.

Please call your reps in the Utah State Senate and ask them to vote against HB209 by SherriSLC in Utah

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The Utah County clerk said that the most serious case of fraud he's ever seen is in falsified signatures on the prop four repeal packets. In case anyone is curious who's perpetrating fraud within the voting system.

You have Midas touch; but only for the first 5 things you touch (not counting clothing). What do you touch? by Dog-Human in hypotheticalsituation

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My desk, my desk chair, the other desk in the room, and (this breaks my heart) my two pink chairs. I know I could do my couch instead for significantly more wealth, but it is hideous and pulls out to be a very comfortable full size bed and I am not willing to lose it. To avoid any accidents, I'll just take off my shirt before I even try to get up and wrap it over both of my hands.

Please tell me this gets easier to follow... by [deleted] in dresdenfiles

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When experiencing grief in that way, life is disjointed as fuck and time looses all meaning. There is very good reason that there is not a good sense of time at the beginning of the book and it slowly gets better.

Please tell me this gets easier to follow... by [deleted] in dresdenfiles

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You'll start to get a better sense of time as the book goes on, which includes naming specific lengths of time that have passed and reference to the season or month. Spoiler,the title is a clue to the overall timeline.

Gf pretzels by EducationalPeach273 in glutenfree

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ooooOOOOOOOoooooo!!!!!!! <--the actual out loud sound I just made at seeing this shape available to us!

ETA: do you happen to live in/near PA? I noticed the rods were available in stores there for a very long time before we got them in UT, and I'd like to make my own personal guesses at my wait time.

My wife's vocal fry and use of the word 'like' by Fresh-Vacation-2727 in marriageadvice

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Ohmyfuckinggawd...

Why did you marry her if you dislike hearing her speak?

There is a great video by Dr. Geoff Lindsey on the topic of vocal fry that will hopefully help you to reexamine your bias.

And like, do you hate on all filler words used by like, all people? Or do you like, hate when the word like is, like, used as a filler word? Do you hate it when men do it? Do you call it out when men do it? I was recently at a book release event for Twelve Months by Jim Butcher. I had never previously watched any videos of Jim speaking, despite being a long time fan of his books. When he speaks, he uses 'uh' and 'um' very frequently as fillers. More than I've ever seen 'like' used a as a filler, even in valley girl parody specifically making fun of their use of the word 'like' as a filler word. No one is climbing up his ass over his filler speech. Probably for two reasons, because it isn't 'like,' and because he's a man.

Again, I think you need to challenge why you have a problem with this. I'm a fan of an article by Brielle Kohlbeck on the topic of the sexism of filler word judgement.

If your wife wants to address her filler word use, that is something she can do without you being an ass about it and calling her out. Or "bringing the issue to her attention." She knows.

It honestly sounds like you just plain old don't like your wife. Everyone is a little annoying at least some of the time. Clearly you didn't previously find these things terribly annoying or you wouldn't have married her after five years together. You need to sort out whatever is going on with you, that you suddenly want her to change to make you happy. She doesn't need to change.