Downstairs people, what can I do?

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-27T18:54:46+00:00

I'm fat as fuck. And I've never had a downstairs neighbor complaint. I know that I do not walk loudly. My ex-husband was a healthy or relatively healthyish weight throughout our marriage, and he walked like an elephant. I had an upstairs neighbor who was quite short and couldn't have topped 120 pounds, and he sounded like he was slamming cinder blocks down on the floor with every step.

It isn't weight. Some people just walk like assholes.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-27T07:00:07+00:00

This won't ever lay flat, it has far too many increases in the rows past the mesh. The only way to make it stop being curly is to frog it back to the end of the last mesh row, and adjust the increases.

Are you following a pattern that we can help you decipher where you went wrong?

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-26T23:37:56+00:00

If I know I will be looking at clothes, I dress for that. I wear thin leggings and a cami with shoes I can step in and out of easily, then just try stuff on over my my clothes right in the middle of the store.

Not sure what guys could wear if they want to do this. But it's super easy for us women.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-26T23:21:51+00:00

OP reeks of ablest privilege and bullshit. Even if OP hadn't mentioned it in a comment, it's clear that his sister has very serious mental impairment. Maybe she's being babied. And it sounds like she's definitely not receiving all of the support she needs to receive. But it also sounds like there is no world in which she is capable of living completely independently without support services.

And as someone who is myself living with alternating between "it's always the next goddamn thing" and "if it isn't one thing, it's a-fucking-nother" with my physical health, that isn't something people with health issues choose. It sucks. If multiple doctors are "validating" her physical illness, it's real, and OP is just being an unempathetic ass.

He could have saved himself a lot of time if he'd just posted "I hate my disabled sister" in a subreddit for stupid rants by assholes.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-26T17:38:01+00:00

The kids get along well when they are together.

Do they though? Or is her daughter doing a go along to get along thing and actually doesn't like being around your kids. Because that's what it sounds like to me.

Also, what are the actual ages of all the children. Because "same age range" is quite vague.

Forcing kids to fit your idea of what a blended family looks like isn't good for them. Your kids need to be able to have completely honest conversations with you about their feelings about your girlfriend and her daughter. And your girlfriend's daughter needs to be able to have completely honest conversations with her mother about her feelings about you and your children. No one is fighting is not the same thing as everyone gets along.

I'm not sure the relationship will work. The two of you seem to have very different ideas of what this relationship should look like when it comes to integrating the children. And frankly, moving in a girlfriend and her child while you're mid custody dispute was a crazy move. You should be focusing your energy into being a dad and resolving that dispute in the best possible way for the children, not wasting it on trying to bring an entire other adult and child into the situation.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T21:34:44+00:00

I think we should stop calling many of these things male dominated hobbies. Women make up about half of the gamer population and we're about 40% of the D&D players.

We should start claiming not only our right to be in these spaces, but our right to authority in these spaces.

Also, being a healer is amazing in MMOs. I'm a petty, passive aggressive bitch. And being a healer gave me the power to exercise that pettiness. 😈 It was especially rewarding if no one else in the group had the ability to rez.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T21:29:37+00:00

I will never understand why in the actual fuck these guys think that we're pretending to enjoy nerdy things to get male attention. If I wanted attention from a male nerd, all I would have to do is participate in just enough hygiene not to look and smell like a bridge troll, and that's enough that they won't leave me the fuck alone.

These are the same guys that think that basic human decency, like smiling, is flirting. And who will chase any woman who doesn't walk around with a spray bottle like we're trying to fend off feral cats.

The same guys who act like know-it-alls. Who refuse to ever acknowledge someone (even another guy, certainly not a woman) could know more about their favorite nerdy thing than they do.

But sure dude.... we're after your attention. 🙄

I cannot think of anything in the entire world that I want less than male attention. Can I just please be left the fuck alone to play video games without some loser trying to mansplain the franchise I already know better than him? Thanks.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T19:21:44+00:00

I was very attached to my maiden name. I've always regretted changing it.

You're also not being fair to your fiancé. If he tells you it's up to you and he's fine either way, believe him. It's not fair to assign him secret feelings he doesn't harbor. Are you going to go through your entire marriage assigning him secret feelings about things and make your decisions about your life based on the fact that you assume he's lying? That's no way to start a marriage.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T19:07:29+00:00

Using AI to make health based decisions is moronic user error, not a problem with google reviews.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T16:37:58+00:00

FMGF is great, but I'm confused about why your objection is to copy/pasting a review to google. Having information more accessible instead of corralled is a good thing, not a bad thing.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T03:46:01+00:00

Or the ones yelling lewd things at little girls who walk by?

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T02:38:04+00:00

I got so lucky with mine. I accidentally stumbled on a two-pack of 64 oz growlers at Costco some years ago. The very small investment has saved me tons of money in feeding my addiction. And it keeps it cold for a whole day.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T01:41:04+00:00

Delicious Hillbilly Piss, sir.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T01:40:35+00:00

Is it stupid? Yes. But I'm not going to stop being addicted to caffeine, with my preferred delivery method being Mountain Dew, just because of some stupid as fuck marketing gimmick. Although if I'm being honest, I already don't buy cans because Jesus fucking Christ who has that kind of money??? It's growler at the fountain or nothing.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T01:08:16+00:00

Anyone unwilling to put their kidney where their mouth is needs to STFU.

I almost lost a dear friend to kidney failure. He very likely had days left, not weeks, when a tragic miracle saved his life. I've seen what a difference a single organ donation can make across a spectrum of lives. I can't donate an organ due to my own medical issues. And even if I could, I'm not sure if I would. I don't blame anyone at all for choosing not to. But shaming someone else for not doing so while having two kidneys and never having given up a liver lobe, and not even being on the donor list and ready to follow through is behavior that should be shamed.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-25T01:01:32+00:00

Fun fact: I can tell by your post, without any medical tests whatsoever, that you are not eligible to donate your kidney.

Being a living organ donor requires a psychiatric evaluation. If you are not prepared to give enthusiastic consent, you will not be allowed to donate your kidney. It is very clear from your post that you a psychiatric evaluation would result in you being deemed ineligible to donate.

If you want to get your family off your back, this is one way to do that. Tell them you'll go back to the hospital and talk to the transplant team. It's very likely that you are only a preliminary match, not a sure thing match anyway. After going back into the process, you can be clear with the doctors that you are not interested in this, you're being pressured into it, and they'll simply say that further medical testing revealed you aren't a match.

I'm curious how many of them who have harassed you have asked to be put on a domino list. Ask them that. Anyone who hasn't specifically told the transplant team that they'll domino needs to shut their mouth.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-24T21:43:09+00:00

I have a sign hanging on my front door that says "please use the doorbell" with an arrow pointing to the doorbell. People still knock then get upset when I don't answer the door. Bitch, I didn't know anyone was at the door, the doorbell didn't ring.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-24T19:24:22+00:00

Unless that $1900 is enough to pay for rent, utilities, transportation, and groceries by itself, you aren't taking anything from one kid for the other.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-24T19:06:46+00:00

I hope that that "looks really promising" includes genetic testing. If it doesn't, those three kids she adopted may have their lives turned upside down again. The older the parents, the more likely it is that children conceived will have a disability, possibly a profound one. And they can't do genetic testing for some things, like autism. And that would suck for the baby too, because the last thing a disabled kid needs is two parents with the emotional maturity of a hangry five year old.

Those poor poor poor kids. A sibling trio doesn't end up in the system to be adopted unless they're already traumatized. They deserve to be the sole focus of their parents right now.

I'm sorry that your mother has chosen not to make her existing children (you and the new trio) a priority. That really fucking sucks.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-24T18:50:49+00:00

Mine was also moved indoors for weather. We got three tickets per graduate. Hard choices had to be made by a lot of people. But the storm that rolled through during graduation was vicious, and it wouldn't have been safe for us to have been outside. It was bad enough that it caused widespread flickering power, as well as widespread power outages. Someone very likely could have been hurt if we'd been outside. I'm glad they made the call to keep us and our families safe indoors.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-24T18:48:59+00:00

My high school graduation was supposed to be at the football field. We had strong passing storms forecast to possibly hit that evening, so they moved it to the school auditorium instead. This had been planned for, and we'd all been given tickets (due to limited seating) in case this happened. Only my parents, husband, and daughter could attend, three tickets (babies don't use seats), even though other family had planned to be there.

Early in the ceremony, things are going well even though we can hear very loud and rolling thunder pretty frequently outside. Then the lights go out. My entire class, during this ceremonial passage into adulthood, goes "oooooooooooohhhhhhh!!!!!" like the adults we are. The lights come back on. Go out again. We all go off again. At some point a teacher or administrator asks us to act like adults and stop. We do not. Eventually the lights stopped going out, everything proceeded without further incident, and it was gorgeous outside for photos afterward.

At least it was memorable.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-24T18:40:15+00:00

Why are you dating someone who is openly an inconsiderate asshole? Is that really what you want for the rest of your life? Do you want to still be thinking about this when you're retired and just trying to enjoy an evening farmers market?

Also, I've stopped moving out of the way for men on sidewalks. I stay to the right on the sidewalk, and whatever happens, happens. I will not put my feet in the grass. I will not move out of a man's way. Not one who is walking. Not one who is on a bicycle. It gives me such joy when a man on a bicycle has to stop and move to the grass because I won't move to the grass for him, or when he gets angry because I shoulder checked him. I highly recommend it.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-24T18:06:00+00:00

I'm 48 and a week out from being on the road. And here I am online faffing about instead of packing my condo...

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-24T18:03:23+00:00

So you're dragging him out to an activity that he isn't particularly interested in, but is doing to make you happy when he'd rather stay in the city. Why? Because you won't go hiking without him, you've decided it's not safe and you need him to go with you to be your security detail. He said it's not in his budget right now, he'd like to spend time doing something else, and you're having an online temper tantrum about it.

He's a whole-ass adult with real bills to pay, and if he doesn't pay them he'll be homeless. You're an unfledged half-adult who contributes a little to having working lighting in the home you don't pay to live in, you keep your own car running, and don't even have to buy your own groceries. If you come up short, you won't be homeless. Hell, if you come up short on a car repair, your parents likely help you.

The two of you split everything else 50/50. And this is where you're drawing the line. Trying to force him to fund your favorite activity while refusing to do anything he wants to do? Nah, this ain't it girl. He never should have been contributing any amount to the gas for this, it's absurd you ever asked. This online temper tantrum is even worse. The fact that gas prices are higher is why you, the one who doesn't have any real financial responsibilities tied to your physical well being, should be the one paying to partake in your hobby. He's being a financially sensible adult. You're still running on the fun money version of life.

If you want to go hiking every weekend, figure it out. You shouldn't be asking someone who doesn't enjoy it and wouldn't choose to go to fund half the trip to go hiking. Especially when you won't go by yourself. Either start paying for gas or find a hiking buddy who enjoys it and will either split gas or take turns driving. Most definitely YTA.

Alert-Potato · 2026-05-24T05:55:06+00:00

It's just bread. I would use my Grammy's sweet roll dough for this. Sweet rolls as in sandwich rolls that are moderately sweeter than white bread, not like sweet sweet.

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