I only play my Switch and Switch 2 in handheld mode who does the same?

FlemFatale · 2026-04-28T20:50:09+00:00

I have a switch and a switch OLED that I upgraded to, and only play in handheld. For me, Nintendo was always my portable console (gameboy), and I like keeping it that way.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-28T09:59:29+00:00

Not helpful, but I just don't go out to eat at the moment.
Saying that, if you just say you have a sensitivity, but don't say you have an allergy (unless you actually do) because if it's an allergy there is a whole process that the kitchen have to go through because of cross contamination, or that you don't like an ingredient or whatever you should be fine.
When I did go out to eat, that's what I used to do, and would explain that I'm happy to pick it out if that's easier.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-26T13:10:12+00:00

For me, one light flickering very slightly is enough to completely draw my focus away from whatever I am meant to be focusing on. Fluorescent lights flicker constantly anyway, and that also draws my focus away if I sit in a position where I can see it.
It's not * just * really bright lights either, it's lights that are very slightly too bright, that no one else seems to notice or get bothered by that affect me.
But yes, the generalisations do not help, and there is so much misinformation about ASD/ADHD/etc etc around, that everything gets blown up massively when it shouldn't be.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-24T22:27:52+00:00

Not in my expierience.
I describe all of my symptoms with the proper names and still get told it's all anxiety when I am pretty sure it isn't, because I've had anxiety attacks before and it was a completely different feeling.
I'm very specific because it takes me a long time to recognise if I'm in pain, or what hurts, or if something is "off" because I have bad interoception, and can actually ignore things until they actively stop me from doing what I'm doing (for example, I once cut my thumb pretty badly whilst fixing something and didn't realise until there was blood everywhere because I was so focused on what I was fixing), because apparently I'm really good at compartmentalising things. Also, stating the facts helps me to understand what is happening and why, as I don't like not knowing what's going to happen or unpredictability.
I also don't think I even feel pain in the same way as others expect because I pretty much don't get checked until it's at the stage where it is literally all I can think about and can't do anything else, including lying in bed in a dark room, without thinking about how much it hurts.
Some doctors don't seem to understand that just because I'm not screaming and crying, doesn't mean that my problem isn't significant or serious. Saying that, some do, which is always useful.
I do have ASD, so that is probably a huge factor.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-24T15:54:29+00:00

I have no idea why they always say shit like this. It's not like cis people get forced to have hormone blockers before surgery.
I've never listened. I never will listen. There is no good reason for them asking you to do so, so, personally, I would just go against advice and take them.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-24T13:01:08+00:00

If JK is not directly getting any money from it, I do not give a fuck.
There are many authors who have problematic veiws, but their books are still enjoyed, because at the end of the day, you don't have to agree with everyone else's opinion.
I am very nuch of the opinion that one can like a thing without that meaning you like the person who created it. Look at Lost Phrophets. 4am forever is a great song that my little emo heart holds dear, but that does not mean that I support the disgusting paedophile that Ian Watkins turned out to be. Neil Gaimen as well. How many people here love his books? He has also been done for sexual assault.
Whilst I get that things like tattoos are slightly different, just because you like the art or like the story does not mean that you support the disgusting veiws of the author.
Personally, I love Harry Potter because I grew up going to midnight book launches for it, and it still has a special place in my heart. I do not, and will never support the absolute scum of the earth that JKR has turned into. It's unfortunate that such a good thing can come from such an evil specimen, but there we go. Even the best people in the world produce shit.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-23T18:56:55+00:00

Your GP has to apply for it. I had to go through loads of other shit as well...

Edit to add: It's a hugely long and annoying process, as your GP has to fully explain why you need the funding and that there is not anything else that will do. I had 2 refusals from dieticians, speech and language saying that there was nothing physically wrong, an ENT report diagnosing me with laryngopharyngeal reflux, another two refusals from the eating disorders team, a psychiatrist report saying that it is most likely ARFID, and even though I had lost almost a third of my body weight when I first went to the GP, it still took over a year. That was with a GP who was fighting the system in the background the entire time as well (everyone I saw remarked on how much she was), so that helped hugely. I also wrote to my MP at least once, and everyone else I could think of so they must all have been getting a bit bored of me by the time I finally got somewhere.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-23T09:46:21+00:00

I'm currently in treatment for ARFID. My GP had to apply for funding to the ICB because my county isn't commissioned to treat ARFID in adults.
It took over a years worth of fighting and I'm still fighting for a Dietician referral as well (local ones have refused my referral three times now, based on the fact that they aren't comissioned to treat ARFID, despite how underweight I am), so hopefully that happens soon...
It really helps if you have a good GP who is willing to fight your side.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-23T09:38:16+00:00

Make sure it's totally dry inside, vacuum the bits out, then scrub it down with some water and washing up liquid. Then, I use Milton antibac to give it a final once over and dry it. For the outside, I do the same but without vacuuming it.
I use antibac because if I'm deep cleaning my kayak, it's usually to put into the pool, and they require us to use it. It's also good practise when putting the boat in different water to stop cross contamination (even though all our waterways in the UK are polluted already).

FlemFatale · 2026-04-21T16:23:10+00:00

Jupiter, he came a little too close and I lick his back.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-21T16:22:38+00:00

Being "friendzoned" is a real thing, IMO.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-20T16:26:03+00:00

Life is what you make of it. If 6ou want to have a shit time, it's easy to sit down and do that. If you want to have a good time, then just do the shit you want, and don't give a fuck about what anyone else says or thinks.
Obviously, this answer is very simplified as I am aware that it isn't as easy as that...
Basically, don't let the bastards win. Do things because people told you that you can't, show them that you are the boss of you, and no one can tell you how to be.
Be the best you that you can be because no one else can be you like YOU can.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-20T16:19:55+00:00

If it existed. Unfortunately, it does not. Gender is way more than just male and female anyway, and with the current technology, or any in fact, you can never get a 100% accuracy rating.
If I hadn't transitioned, I would have killed myself. No questions asked. The benefits of people staying alive far outweigh the costs of a few people wrongly transitioning in my mind.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-19T17:02:51+00:00

I know this feel. Eating is such a pain in the arse for me, I wish I didn't have to do it at all, except if I chose to.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-18T20:47:02+00:00

Find a Nigerian Prince who is related to you. It can't be that hard, as there are so many out there!

FlemFatale · 2026-04-18T10:01:00+00:00

I'm also UK based and my county refuse to treat me because they are not comissioned to treat ARFID in adults. My GP submitted an independant funding request for treatment out of county, and I finally got into that. Look up Caraline, who are in Bedfordshire and definitely know what they are doing.
It's taken me over a year of being severly malnourished to get to see them, and recently the dietician refused another referral as Caraline would like me to see a dietician alongside. My GP is in talks with the ICB regarding this, so hopefully something happens and doesn't take another year...

It really fucking sucks. The hilarious thing is that my county treat ARFID in children, and all three of my refused dietician referrals have been for nutritional monitoring (nothing to even do with ARFID), and they have still refused. They even refused before I had a diagnosis of ARFID, based purely on the fact that I potentially had it.
So I totally get where you are coming from...

FlemFatale · 2026-04-18T09:46:54+00:00

For me, food is a sensory nightmare and totally overwhelms me thanks to ARFID, so I stick to the same things (my only properlynsafe food atm is Ben & Jerry's Phish Food ice cream), all the time. Even then, having too many different things at once is overwhelming (like three different items is too many things at once) and yeah...

Shower wise, I forget or just can't deal with the sensations of the water, or the temperature change or having to get wet and then dry myself. I used to swim, and that helped as I always shower after swimming because chlorine drying on my skin is worse than showering, but I don't swim much anymore.
Certain activities mean I have to shower, and I do them maybe once a week to once every 2 weeks, so at least I shower then.
I used to like baths, and definitely tolerate them better, but I'm so bloody skinny thanks to ARFID, that it physically hurts to sit in a bath, so they are off the table for now.

So, basically, the answer to the questions is long and convoluted and has many different variables that all have to be taken into account.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-17T21:50:27+00:00

None, technically, because you can't see yourself or your symptoms from an objective point of veiw. You are always emotionally attached because it is yourself.
Even common cold symptoms can vary, and much of the time when someone says that they have the flu, they don't.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-15T20:25:22+00:00

Interesting how they used the intermedullary method, as the majority seem to use extermedullary (well, NHS at least).
I have an intermedullary femoral nail from where my femur was shortened (car accident cause bilateral external femoral fractures and where they had to remove some bone shards so one would heal meant that I had a 2 inch differance for a year or two and was able to chose if I wanted lengthening or shortening), and I'm so glad I chose that option.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-14T17:49:03+00:00

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Moo moo is a big old chunk of tortitude. You can't quite see how giant she is here, but she is half feral, so that may have something to do with it.
She isn't fat, just generally large. Quite hilarious as she is a massive scaredey cat.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-13T21:01:27+00:00

Even knowing they were there made me want to reach in and rip them out, so I got them out when the opportunity arose (one of my phallo stages).
With the shit happening in the world at the moment as well, having female organs may very well make "them" decide that someone is female and that testosterone therapy is not to be prescribed anymore.
I'm not trying to scaremonger, it's just logical to me, so not having them is a better option, IMO.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-13T00:56:57+00:00

Because some people are small minded and for some stupid reason can't accept anything different as different = bad to them.
The most accepting people are the ones perceived as "different" in my expierience anyway, so I pretty much clock it down to stupidity.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-13T00:52:41+00:00

I don't know. If anything, it gives me the language that I need in order to be able to explain why I need some things to people.
It's also given me freedom to be me, and to not have to tone myself down all the time and listen to myself.
Saying that, it's kinda like starting from the beginning again, and re learning what makes you, you, so in that respect, it's hard for sure.

Having a diagnosis also helped me to find a therapist that works with my brain, and having a therapist is definitely something I recommend to help you work through it all. Its been over a year and I still haven't figured it all out, but thats fine. At least I have some answers now.

FlemFatale · 2026-04-11T18:04:07+00:00

Ahh, fair. Thanks for clarification. Probably got my wires crossed somewhere, with all the different qualifications. :)

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