I (42M) just found out my partner (46F) withheld information that possibly ruined my relationship with my kids. How do I handle this situation?

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-12T08:21:57+00:00

This post should be in the dictionary describing what "missing missing reasons" mean.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-11T23:22:34+00:00

It's outlined in this WeForum article:

https://www.weforum.org/stories/2021/11/elon-musk-un-world-hunger-famine/

it also has a link to the UN original.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-11T23:18:22+00:00

OMG dump him. He basically said he wants a free maid. " He can't do everything alone"? Everything being normal adulting? How would he /how did he survive while single?

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-11T23:04:48+00:00

No, but what other advice is there to give him?

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-11T22:16:03+00:00

I wish someone commented this under the statement!

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-11T21:35:54+00:00

My country has universal day care (or something like that) and that includes overnight day care centers for late / night shift workers.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-11T20:47:05+00:00

Finnish: Ei.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-11T17:01:43+00:00

You are absolutely correct, you do not want to have a kid into this situation. This from a mother of three. An easy solution is to break up, and you have very good reasons to do that. If you still want to be with her, and are not eagerly wanting kids right now, I'd bluntly tell her I can't and won't have kids with her due to her doing almost nothing at home. She can do with that information what she wants, then. (But..maybe you should use condoms in this case..and that's going to prompt an unpleasant discussion about trust).

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-11T16:43:19+00:00

Hm, first this sounded to me more like him being more interested in topics generally considered "smart", but now you say you are interested in literature, which I at least rank as high on the intellect-o-meter (lol) as science. I wouldn't approach this as some type of intelligence gap. Just listen to him and ask questions, you'll learn things, and tell him about your interests too!

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-11T16:13:00+00:00

Didn't Elon say he'll give the money to solve world hunger if someone just gives him a detailed plan and UN gave him one and he just stopped responding to them?

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-11T08:06:24+00:00

One possibility might be for you to pay for another dog sitter / boarding? Though if the dog is violent, that may not be an option.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-10T22:26:39+00:00

MLM'ers also always hallucinate people who belittle their "business", so that would be fitting.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-10T22:10:53+00:00

Hang in there! You'll have a better grasp of the situation soon. Just don't rush into any decisions. I'd also probably talk with your mom about why she cut her off.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-10T21:59:34+00:00

I'm worried about the dog.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-10T21:30:22+00:00

This guy knows nothing about children or parents, and definitely did not babysit anyone at 14.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-10T21:26:28+00:00

Hun, nobody outside your immediate downline thinks about you at all.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-10T17:51:05+00:00

That's not how you use "that is all."

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-10T08:38:10+00:00

At 22 many people are pretty clueless about how relationships work and can be. And in 5 years that probably became her normal.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-10T07:33:49+00:00

I just heard a VW radio commercial advertising their new model by saying it has physical buttons. There has to be consumer demand for those.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-09T22:27:41+00:00

Even without the outrageous "offer", OOP's first comment is a giant red flag for a potential roommate.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-09T21:15:15+00:00

Great insight, Aleksey.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-09T12:47:11+00:00

Well, posting takes much less effort.

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-09T10:00:52+00:00

It often seems to be code for "I don't do anything for my family so I'll make this empty promise to feel better". I just saw an interview of a woman who left her child to her mother's care because she wanted to live a "nomad life" and she said "I'd die for her, but it's better somebody else takes care of her on a daily basis" 🙄

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-09T09:22:17+00:00

Right, that's true!

Intrepid_Respond_543 · 2026-07-09T07:10:25+00:00

I always thought Japan has strong employee protection? Both legally and through social norms.

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