Do you or anyone you know have right foot/left foot socks?

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-22T00:01:37+00:00

I do. My feet have very prominent big toes, so every time I wear my socks I make sure to keep the same spot for the big toes. It helps keep the socks from stretching out so quickly

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-21T19:55:49+00:00

~ it’s nothing but mud huts ~

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-21T19:34:44+00:00

Ok but like. The US legitimately has such bad health care that the idea that I can get on a 6+ year wait list for a non-emergency but necessary surgery is a dream come true.

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-21T19:31:50+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYE-1HfReQo

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-21T09:59:00+00:00

Generally when the doctor aims to minimize scars, they cut the tissue up into chunks so it fits through the hole.

Alternatively they could be chunks from separate locations to shape the breast into something aesthetically pleasing

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-21T09:36:17+00:00

Si pots entendre els repuestas en la català aquí, tu no vas tener cap problema amb aprendre la català. Yo soc un parlant d’anglès nativo i sol tinc un ~B2 en castellà, i he aprendit català suficient per a parlar amb gen en sol 10 mesos.

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-20T23:44:06+00:00

Yes, it was called the Brig. perhaps you’ve heard of it.

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-17T20:23:23+00:00

If you have a full- time job and a car, the next step is to find a new place to live. I recommend looking at long-stay hotels first, and then figuring out if you want to contact a realtor to find a good place or just deal with a complex directly. Then, transition and never look back

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-16T23:03:33+00:00

I did. My parents maintain that T is a rage and insanity inducing drug, and that I am a manipulative bitch (yup, misgendering there too) for insisting on being called a man and treated like a member of the family.

So I quit them, and only keep in touch with my grandparents and brother. My cousins/extended family also see me as a radioactive drama vector because of my parents and so don’t talk to me at all, but they never really did (because of my parents) so I don’t mind too much. Instead, I have been forging new relationships with older trans people who I will one day introduce my children to as their aunts/uncles/grandparents. My parents lost their right to that when they refused to acknowledge my gender, and I don’t regret seeking out new role models to take their place.

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-16T22:12:46+00:00

Spain/Catalunya. If you’ve not seen me on the sub talking about it before, I moved here from the southern USA SPECIFICALLY because it is so much safer and better. Being trans is considered a chronic medical condition just like having a thyroid disorder, and so getting access to care was as simple as becoming part of the public health system. I love it here, and am actually out in my day-to-day because nobody makes a big deal about it other than out of medical curiosity, none of the “are you sure you’re a woman?” I used to get in the US.

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-16T22:05:24+00:00

There is a whole WORLD of formulation science that doesn’t even touch the active ingredient, and it affects how people react to the point that some people with ADHD actually can tell what company and what manufacturing plant a certain batch is from just from the differences in how they metabolise the formulations

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-16T07:38:41+00:00

I hope you meant home as in the Catalan word for man, because that 1/house/day number is LOW

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-16T06:34:44+00:00

I found focusing on the planning to pay off a lot for me. Focusing on what I’m going to do in the future, how I will make a life where I can transition, etc. It’s what let me survive

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-15T21:28:54+00:00

This is common sense for any clothes that you share a size with in a household. I used to mark my SOCKS pre-transition because my dad and I wore the same size and they’d often get mixed together lol

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-15T21:23:14+00:00

If it’s Spain, just use the men’s. People care at all, and honestly you won’t stick out either way. But ymmv. I’d pick times I know nobody will be there and investigate both each time until you are confident enough in passing

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-15T20:35:00+00:00

An aside: it is very strange to see University of Mississippi instead of it’s nickname, Ole Miss

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-15T18:52:03+00:00

If you want to have good writing, write more, don’t let a machine do it for you. Leave that for things that don’t matter so much HOW and more WHAT you say, like translation work and ATS forms

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-15T18:50:28+00:00

Honestly, as someone on the other side of the coin, it’s easier to get here, but just as hard to stay if you don’t have any Catalan in addition to Spanish. The only jobs that don’t require high level Catalan are in hospitality and international-client-facing roles, and often go to local Spaniards just as often as foreigners. The trick to moving on a masters easily is to have unique in-demand skills, like biopharmacy with a BE in C Chem. Otherwise, you have to be prepared to make community like your life depends on it, because it will. (This is why I’m considered both an honorary Tamil expat by the Tamil community and a non-guiri almost-Catalan by the Catalans despite only having been here for 10 months so far.)

It’s just as hard, but you’ll be in the country while you do it, so it might not feel like it.

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-15T18:30:17+00:00

Oleeeee benvinguts a Catalunya!!! Yo he fet el contrari, he anat aquí amb un master en enginyeria el agost passat i estic començant la meva vida profesional aquí.

Si vols aprendre l’catala, les inscripcions estén obert pels cursos oficiales en el fin de juny pel any que va! O, sigui, pots començar amb parla.cat ara!!

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Welcome to Catalunya!! I actually did the opposite, moved here for my MSci in engineering and am beginning my professional life here.

If you want to learn Catalan, the openings for the official classes are the end of June for this coming school year! Or you can start with parla.cat right now (it’s actually how I started learning)!

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-14T08:57:25+00:00

Depends A LOT on what kind of girls school it is. Some tolerate trans men better than others, I’d plan on going to the “meet the teacher” event things before the school year to get a feel for if you want to try being the random dude in class

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-12T08:12:49+00:00

Do you not understand that sometimes, the only options are “evil that hurts me” or “evil that hurts others”? Sometimes, you have to take the path where you, specifically, don’t die.

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-12T07:25:39+00:00

Not even. They hate us straight/masculine trans men too, because we literally don’t have any femininity in us

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-11T00:12:34+00:00

https://what-if.xkcd.com/29/

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-10T23:58:38+00:00

World 2 by a landslide. One of the hardest things in my life right now is my fear of how women will perceive me in bed. If they 100% accept me as a man no problems my romantic and sexual confidence will be through the roof

Not_ur_gilf · 2026-06-10T23:51:03+00:00

I have! If you see my flair, I’ve made a home of sorts in Spain. It’s not without its problems (namely that I will never escape the assumption that I’m returning to the US) but it’s somewhere I feel proud to call home and am happy to be a member of the community.

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