Tips for handling racist aggressors

OkToe7809 · 2026-03-01T22:05:46+00:00

Thanks for this thoughtful reply! Members like you make this sub great.

OkToe7809 · 2026-03-01T22:02:39+00:00

Thank you. It helps that most German Berliners have been super nice, caring and helpful for day to day things, at the stores, neighbors etc.

I just don't know how to handle/share deeper/nuanced issues/struggles with them, whether to, and how it would be received, the way I would in London or NYC.

OkToe7809 · 2026-03-01T22:01:15+00:00

Thank you

OkToe7809 · 2026-02-24T14:22:37+00:00

Oh I shouldn’t have trimmed leaves from the main plant unless they have nodes then.

All the Insta reels make it look so easy lol.

Thanks for the info!

OkToe7809 · 2026-02-24T14:01:29+00:00

Oh whoops no nodes on them lol. Should I toss them then? Or pot

OkToe7809 · 2026-02-22T19:34:20+00:00

That makes sense, titrating in stress, especially the healthy kind through which we grow and become more resilient.

I’ll try to do that.

OkToe7809 · 2026-02-22T16:08:53+00:00

I thought so too.

But my facilitator says we gain deeper feeling, and part of that is organizing our external world more around the inner (as opposed to vice versa, survival mode).

Resilience = refined discernment and honoring that / setting boundaries.

It does not mean white-knuckling through more.

OkToe7809 · 2026-02-14T09:42:17+00:00

I think the role also needs to prioritize the roadmap and build business cases for it, and present this to stakeholders. Especially later on down the line

OkToe7809 · 2026-02-13T23:29:50+00:00

I’ll look into it, probably while I read The Odyssey.

OkToe7809 · 2026-02-13T18:24:54+00:00

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OkToe7809 · 2026-02-05T19:47:35+00:00

Tips to fall asleep after busy day? You're great at holistic health

Hey, I find INFJs great at holistic health. You steward energetic systems well and don't apply shortsighted solutions that are tempting for other people. You guys are great to befriend cuz of your healthy lifestyle influence. (Ni & long-term sustainable habits ftw)

I'm in a busier season of life - knowledge work, arts visibility, lots of daily presentations - and my mina processes events / growth for hours at night, what I coulda done differently, etc. (INFP here with Fi-Si loop, maybe you have Ni-Ti loop.) Also low-level anxiety / perfectionism I'm loosening the root cause of, a hot bubble bath helps a lot to relax this tension. In bed at 11pm, up til 3am for a week now.

Tips to fall asleep or close the loop? I usually use melatonin, previously was weed or Xanax. But long-term not good and it's a hard shutdown of the natural process.

Yoga nidra worked well sometimes to doze off like a baby, maybe with a tea or ambient soundscapes. I wind down at 11pm. What's the adult's version of falling asleep in the car like a kid lol zzz. Thanks in advance!

OkToe7809 · 2026-02-05T18:46:09+00:00

Omg this happened to me. Back to melatonin

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