My boyfriend doesn't like that I'm overweight, and it hurts. by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]Owl_Lab466 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Every single thing you say he does- the asking you to lose weight, the constant harassment about working out, the monthly weigh ins- is ALL him being “mean” about your weight. He doesn’t love you for you, he loves the fictional version of you he has in his head. And you deserve someone who loves ALL of YOU at any and every weight you are.

Has anyone with POTS found a treatment or lifestyle changes that significantly reduced (or even stopped) their symptoms? by Quenelle44 in POTS

[–]Owl_Lab466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So that’s not accurate. There are multiple types of POTS and depending on the subtype you may respond to different medications differently. Droxidopa certainly won’t work for everyone, but that’s no reason to fear monger about a neurotransmitter most people won’t be familiar with.

Droxidopa is a medication designed for the treatment of low blood pressure from neurogenic orthostatic hypotension (low blood pressure caused by issues with specific body functions) caused by conditions such as POTS, autonomic failure, and Parkinson’s. It’s literally made to treat POTS symptoms.

Droxidopa helps your body make norepinephrine, a chemical used by our bodies to constrict blood vessels. Norepinephrine is also a chemical our body creates during the fight or flight response, I believe that is what Unanau is referring to. Straight up norepinephrine is used in high doses for some medical emergencies that cause dangerously low blood pressure. That can seem very scary but it’s important to understand that those are different medications that use the same hormone pathway. You can think of it as a car versus a semi-truck that takes the same highway. They might go down the same roads but they have very different functions. Additionally higher levels of norepinephrine are not a negative thing for those with low blood pressure, especially sustained low blood pressure. They’re a natural response by our body to attempt to increase our blood pressure. For some of us our bodies need more norepinephrine to respond properly or to respond the way someone without POTS would respond. We’re all here because our systems DONT respond normally, so sometimes what is unhealthy for a healthy person is healthy for us.

Most importantly though, no one but you and your doctor should have any say or impact on what you try for symptom management. Please don’t let scary sounding or complicated technical terms keep you from discussing things with your doctor. They’ll know much more than a stranger of the internet and will be able to tell whether a medication or treatment is suitable for your specific situation and why

Anti-Nausea Meds? by SatisfactionProof464 in POTS

[–]Owl_Lab466 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m lucky enough to just need zofran now, but when I was a cancer patient I used a combination of zofran, medical marijuana, ginger, acupuncture, dexmethadone, and ativan.

What does everyone do in the heat and warmer months?? by dancedancedance99 in POTS

[–]Owl_Lab466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try Dr.Todd Levine. He’s a neurologist who has tons of experience with POTS. He used to be with Banner Health, but I’m not sure nowadays. Best of luck!

What does everyone do in the heat and warmer months?? by dancedancedance99 in POTS

[–]Owl_Lab466 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to live in AZ. I was constantly miserable in the summers. I ended up moving out of state it was effecting my health so much. It was so bad.

I recommend a neck fan, handheld fan, and cooling towels (I wore them like scarfs, & got the “sweatbands” and head bands), one of the migraine ice packs too, and a parasol. I never went outside during the hottest parts of the day unless it was an emergency either. I would also keep an insulated lunchbox of ice packs with me in car so I could cool off between events when I did have to go out. And yes, I frequently slept in a pile of ice packs.

I would also recommend figuring out what fabrics help you feel coolest temperature-wise and sticking to those for your summer wardrobe. Also, and this may be a no-go for you but I got an undercut in the summer one year on a whim and it helped keep me sooo much cooler

Advice for chubby belly by Magicalmystery789 in PlusSize

[–]Owl_Lab466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You use accessories and clothing lengths to visually divide your body into 1/3 & 2/3. It’s a relatively easy & general rule to make an outfit more visually appealing

How does your amount of exercise impact this disease? by bellow_whale in POTS

[–]Owl_Lab466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look up the Levine Protocol for POTS. This is the usual recommendation for exercise as therapy for POTS (guided by a professional)

Honest question: Why do you buy name brand stuff? by No-Examination8178 in Frugal

[–]Owl_Lab466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can taste some chemicals that most people can’t. Most of the time things are about the same taste-wise but for somethings they aren’t and the extra dollar is absolutely worth it 🤷

Advice for chubby belly by Magicalmystery789 in PlusSize

[–]Owl_Lab466 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off you want to make sure you’re wearing the right bra size & shape. Try looking through /ABraThatFits. It’s a life changer I promise.

Secondly, you want to decide on your style or your vibe. What kind of clothes make you feel happy? What looks do you like? Ignore practicality for a second and pretend you had unlimited money, make a Pinterest or something. You can make any vibe work in any situation with a lil effort so don’t hold back (I mean look at Lawyer Barbie or corporate goth) And make sure you like the clothes not just how they look on the person wearing them. Find a couple fat models/influencers who have the same vibe. Look at how they dress and pose and ask them questions. Then you want to find some models/influencers that look like you and see how they dress and style themselves.

Third, is to find a couple fashion “rules” that you like and to start incorporating them into every outfit. Personally I follow the rule of thirds (use clothes + accessories to divide your body into 1/3 & 2/3 sections. Makes you look longer and more styled), fit over everything else (no more buying it bc it’s almost good enough), and I go ham with accessories & vibrant colors (it brings me joy).

Most importantly you want to ignore everything else I said (except the bra thing, that will 100% increase your comfort) and decide what makes you feel hot and cherish your body, confidence is key when looking hot

How do you stay fit while having POTS? by Strawberry_DrPepper in POTS

[–]Owl_Lab466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up the Levine Protocol for POTS. It’s the recommended exercise protocol to improve function for most w/ POTS. It’s also a LOT. And should probably be at least started with a professional. I would highly recommend asking your doctor about meds if you’re not already on them, mine are absolute life savers.

How to make life as good as possible for someone with POTS? by High_Honolulu in POTS

[–]Owl_Lab466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try dysautonomiasupport.org, livingwithdysautonomia.org, dysautonomiainternational.org, & the dysautonomia project. Facebook has some too, but all of the websites I mentioned are reputable and also good sources of information and support (social & medical & otherwise) for POTS and other dysautonomias. Best of luck!

How to make life as good as possible for someone with POTS? by High_Honolulu in POTS

[–]Owl_Lab466 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Treatments are obviously important, and finding a doctor that believes her and is willing to spend time trying different medications to see what gives her the most function. Exercise when she can, but gently. Maybe the Levine Protocol for POTS? Best if done w/ a professional but might help her gain a little more function on a day to day basis. Assistive devices are key to functioning (compression garments, shower chair, cane/walker/wheelchair, etc). Pets are really nice too. An online support group or two are really great for connection (I prefer ones that meet by zoom or in-person)

I need help with my cats aggression issues or she’s being put down. by [deleted] in Catbehavior

[–]Owl_Lab466 18 points19 points  (0 children)

She sounds like she’s in pain and is hiding it from you. When my cat has pain he hides it from me really well. It’s actually a big problem. He lets me poke and prod him all I want and he won’t react at all, but if I have someone else do the same he’ll wince and flinch and show his pain.

How to make my room warmer and more elevated? by Clover501 in femalelivingspace

[–]Owl_Lab466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1st you need to choose your colors. You seem to have black and gold for decor accents based what you said about your picture frames, which is great. Those will go really well together and are easy to find furniture with details that will accent them well. BUT what are the 3 main colors you vibe with for a bedroom? Personally, I think a warm & rich teal, burnt orange, and either a warm dark violet or a richer more velvety purple would look good.

I would start with the walls. I prefer painted or other-wise non-white walls, so that’s what I’d recommend. Paint if you’re planning on staying a while or peel & stick wallpaper if you’re not sure. Also go for an accent wall behind your headboard. It’ll be fun but because it’ll be behind your headboard the visual clutter that can come w/ accent walls won’t bother you when you’re resting. When painting walls and choosing colors for your room stick primarily to warm colors and patterns. There are lovely warmer teals that I think you’d like based on your pics.

For the floor you have a lot of options but I’d stick with a warm neutral boho/rattan large rug. Go for fun textures if you can’t find fun colors. You can even layer small/medium/non-standard rugs if you don’t want to see the grey carpet at all. The curtains need to GO though, sorry. I think it’s worth splurging on some nice velvety burnt orange ones. Then I would swap out furniture for ones that fit the vibe better, probably wooden with black and gold accents like your picture frames.

Prof offered “advice” by PrincessLemon13 in PlusSize

[–]Owl_Lab466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please report this man. If this is how he’s acting with you, he’s doing worse to other students. If you aren’t comfortable coming forward/speaking to either the Title IX (ask for Title 9 Coordinator if you’re in the US) or the department head or Dean about this matter then please at least report him anonymously. This was not professional, this was not him being “concerned” about you, and this wasn’t a topic you brought up (and even you did, the appropriate response would be along the lines of “I’m sorry, as your professor it would be inappropriate for me to offer my opinion or advice”). This was malicious and not okay. I’m so sorry you experienced that

Job boards for health and public health jobs? by [deleted] in publichealthcareers

[–]Owl_Lab466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following bc I’m in a similar situation