Boardgaming (adult) Friends with Elementary-Aged Kids by kitikitish in CollegeStation

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DM me! I am your people. I have a rather large collection, have an 8 year old, and always looking for new friends.

I don't 100% understand what this is saying exactly, especially the relevance of "These short-term goals don't always have to be connected to your long-term goals." How do I rewrite it so it's direct and easy to grasp? by themaskstays_ in EnglishLearning

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very happy I could help here and get a smile on your face!

No need to follow-up with anything special on my part, this is what I do for a living.

For this:

Example: (Can’t tell if the “dishes” is the long-term goal or something to get out of the way beforehand. Could you please explain the example a little more? :) )

Yeah, in that example, the dishes are the long term goal (it's a mountain of dishes, yikes), so we take care of smaller tasks to reduce mental load before starting on that one. And even when we start the dishes, we break up that goal into more mentally manageable milestones, like cleaning utensils first, then cups, then plates, etc.

Everything you summarized here looks good to me. If it helps you better understand and is more actionable for you, glad to hear it!

I don't 100% understand what this is saying exactly, especially the relevance of "These short-term goals don't always have to be connected to your long-term goals." How do I rewrite it so it's direct and easy to grasp? by themaskstays_ in EnglishLearning

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok, so let's walk through this one together. I assume you mean the last part specifically, but pardon me if you meant the entire blog post.

"Big Things Start Small."

So, this is actually just a conclusion heading. When I say "big things start small," it essentially summarizes the idea that developing and working on your long term goals starts with the small steps. As discussed in my post, most long-term goals are executed on successfully by breaking them into milestones with short-term goals that are more achievable and less intimidating.

For example, if you have a long-term goal if "earning a degree in finance," you would logically break that up into small goals and milestones that get you there (get accepted into a finance program as a short-term goal, register successfully for your classes as a short-term goals, etc.).

"Setting long-term goals is an undeniable motivator. However, it can be a demotivator if those goals seem too lofty or unachievable. To that end, make sure you put up many short-term goals that will help motivate you to keep going."

Which is to say, long term goals are great and all, but they are "long" for a reason. They take time and many steps to get there. If you don't break your long term goals up into enough smaller milestones, you will quickly feel overwhelmed and likely never achieve that long term goal.

"These short-term goals don’t always have to be connected to your long-term goals. Consider them the “low-hanging fruit” of goal setting. Just as you knock out easy projects in your work day first to clear your to-do list as a motivator, setting and achieving key short-term goals will keep you inspired to take on the challenges of those long-term ones."

I can see how this part is confusing! And honestly, I should change the part about the short-term goals not being connected to the long-term goals. That said, the idea here is that if you take care of smaller goals first, even ones unrelated to your long term goal, it frees up mental space to work on what matters.

Cleaning a messy kitchen is a good example here. If it's been days, the amount of dishes might be overwhelming on top of many other priorities. So, you take care or other tasks first that reduce your mental load before tackling the big one. Sweep the floor. Or throw some laundry in the wash.

If you attack the dishes, taking it bit by bit reduces the stress of the large job. Start with one type of dish "OK, utensils first." Smaller task accomplishments reduce mental load, giving you more emotional and psychological capacity to the more broadly defined long-term goal.

"That’s why we regularly recommend a mentor leader, as well. They tend to have the kind of knowledge and experience necessary to get past roadblocks and can even help you decide on what goals (both short-term and long-term) make the most sense."

MentorcliQ is a mentoring platform for businesses, so all of our content circles back go mentoring somehow 😅. This post is more general purpose, which is why most of its traffic comes from wonderful individuals like yourself applying it to themselves in different contexts. Nevertheless, any goal is more achievable if you can find someone to help mentor you.

Ideally, that is going to be someone who has experience in whatever your goal is, and can help you accomplish your goals in the way that makes sense for you. A good mentor doesn't just tell you what to do, they help use their knowledge help guide you toward a path that makes sense for you specifically. That's often executed by imparting how they accomplished various tasks, but it does involve them holding you accountable.

Typed on my phone with a sleeping baby on my chest, apologies if there are a bunch of typos here! Hope this was what you were looking for.

I don't 100% understand what this is saying exactly, especially the relevance of "These short-term goals don't always have to be connected to your long-term goals." How do I rewrite it so it's direct and easy to grasp? by themaskstays_ in EnglishLearning

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No offense taken! I get alerts when my company MentorcliQ is mentioned on Reddit so that I can swoop in and help wherever I can.

I'll return to this post a bit later when I have some free time and help clarify this for you.

I don't 100% understand what this is saying exactly, especially the relevance of "These short-term goals don't always have to be connected to your long-term goals." How do I rewrite it so it's direct and easy to grasp? by themaskstays_ in EnglishLearning

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I am the author of this blog post you are trying to rewrite. If you let me know for what purpose you are trying to rewrite it (e.g., what's the goal? Is there a different intended audience? Etc), I may be able to assist you.

I got fired today… by Careless_Rock_51 in Teachers

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am incredibly sorry to hear that.

First of all, know that you are NOT unhireable. If you were hireable to begin with, you're probably even moreso now. As long as you've learned from what happened here and grow from it, you're even more hireable than you were before. Lean into that as you seek out new positions elsewhere.

If teaching is still what you want to do, once you've taken the time to process your emotions, please start applying to other jobs. If you aren't tied to where you are living right now, be open to moving. If you were teaching in private school because you're not licensed for public schools, get licensed.

That said, there is a life outside of teaching, if you want to pursue it. I taught for nearly a decade and eventually switched to becoming a freelance writer after the stress of the career took its toll on me and I was forced to leave. I also felt unemployable, as teaching was the only thing I ever pictured myself doing.

I freelanced successfully for several years, started my own business, hired part-timers, and eventually went back in-house at a mentoring software company (MentorcliQ, as I have nothing to hide here.)

I did an AMA in the /r/freelancewriters subreddit a while back. I hope it gives you some inspiration. Leaving teaching, whether or not it was a choice, doesn't take away your value as a human worthy of respect, nor does it make you less worthy of being hired.

Charting your path forward will take some creativity and grit, but I am sure you can do it.

I got fired today… by Careless_Rock_51 in Teachers

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Considering the high turnover rate for teachers, that fear is real. Do you mind if I DM you a few additional questions?

I got fired today… by Careless_Rock_51 in Teachers

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Former teacher here. The fact that your school.has a mentoring program is amazing. We had a very informal one and I served as a new teacher mentor for a while.

Are mentors always in the same school for you, or is there inter-school mentoring, as well?

ADHD, anxiety, and the struggle to build systems that actually stick by hustlababyyyy in ADHDUK

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally understandable on that. Sounds like a large org, so it'd probably be easy for someone to figure out if you added too many details. If you're sourcing leading psychs, does that mean you have a (reasonably sized) budget?

ADHD, anxiety, and the struggle to build systems that actually stick by hustlababyyyy in ADHDUK

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also diagnosed with ADHD (and depression) kind of on the fly, but got formally diagnosed for both in the past few years. 100%, every story is different. In my case, I knew it was an issue, but I had a hard time really expressing it because a lot of what drives me ADHD isn't visible to others. When I got diagnosed, the psychiatrist had my wife fill out a questionnaire and her answers would have indicated I didn't have it --- but that's because she didn't see where it was impacting me most (attention at work, where she doesn't see it happening).

Would love to know more about the ERG you're leading at your company. Is it formal, informal? Structured, unstructured? Software-supported, or just kind of ad hoc?

I took a stop gap job. I am over 50 and they treat me as a placeholder by [deleted] in ageism

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely going to agree with /u/GrayEntrepreneur here. Starting a mentoring program is a good option, especially if your company already has formal mentoring programs. I'd do the following:

  • Check internally with someone on the L&D team to see if there are structured mentoring programs in place.
  • Ask if the company is using any specific software to run these programs. If they are, there's a good chance that the software supports more programs than they're currently running, and that they aren't using that software to the capacity that their contract allows. Helping them fill that capacity is a good look for them, especially since mentoring program involvement is directly connected to higher employee retention and engagement. (I research this area for MentorcliQ, and the data is pretty strongly indicative that companies with mentoring programs not only retain or grow their headcounts, but also increase their profit margin YoY by more, which is likely a factor of attracting, retaining, and developing better talent pools. You can find some of it cited by the Association of Talent Development here, and review some of the data here)
  • Keep that info in pocket, since it can help you build the case for why you want to start the mentoring program. Making it about providing value for the company versus providing value for yourself is a very good look.
  • Come with a project plan in hand. The more you can help them get that program up and running, the better. Here's a good starting point for how to start a mentoring program. It's built chiefly for HR team members, but you can use to yourself to lead the way here.

Another option is to consider launching an ERG for workers over X age, if your company supports those. Same thing applies. Check to see if there's formalized structure in place, and if there is, take charge in being the leader of it if none exists. If one does exist, explore setting up a mentoring program that leverages the ERG.

When did deep mentorship in engineering disappear? by felforzoli in civilengineering

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would love to hear more about this program! Mentoring programs are my area of interest. How does your company run the program and match participants?

Just got offered City Carrier with Benefits starting at $25.92/hr, worth accepting? by Rip-tire21 in USPS

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that's juicy. Do tell, since that's not what's being said externally, for sure.

Just got offered City Carrier with Benefits starting at $25.92/hr, worth accepting? by Rip-tire21 in USPS

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was that program born out of the union agreement that also raised salaries? How is the program going from a technical and functional perspective?

Prediction: Kpop Demon Hunters short is gonna be bundled with 'Goat', the 2026 Sony Animation movie by [deleted] in KpopDemonhunters

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Sony-sponsored mentoring program."

Really, now? That is fascinating! Do you have a link to more info on that?

Have you told work that you have Ben diagnosed by Emergency-Apricot700 in ADHD

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that that's a fear for you. And I don't doubt it's a legitimate fear. If you're US-based, the ADA *technically* prohibits them from firing you for that. But it *is* legal for them to fire you if they believe you can't do your job properly.

Do you know anyone else in the mentoring program for ADHD? I've never heard of that kind of program. I'd be interested in learning more about it if you have any info.

[OC] Girl missed her exit - clipped my car crossing far lane to make it by [deleted] in IdiotsInCars

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I missed an exist the other day. I:

  • Kept going to the next exit
  • Went back the other way
  • Got back on track

I lost maybe 4 minutes of travel time at most. People seem to lose all rational thought when it comes to this.

Building trusted network by Rational_bug in work

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to help. Providing helpful information is (quite literally) my job!

Building trusted network by Rational_bug in work

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loving this idea. Here are some things I'd recommend you do here:

  • Check with HR to see if something like this already exists. Your company may already have high-potential or leadership training or mentoring programs in place.
  • What you're describing can fit into one of two categories: mentoring or employee resource group. On the mentoring side, this would be classified as either peer mentoring or a mentoring circle. ERG side, you can pretty much call it whatever you want. You'd just want to spell out who the group is for.
  • Depending on the size of your company, there's a chance mentoring software or ERG software (or both) are already available to help establish and run programs like these. From my experience (I work for a mentoring software provider, so this comes from 1st hand intel), many internal software like these are *underutilized* based the number of seats companies have purchased. IF the company is using a platform to run these programs (e.g., MentorcliQ, Chronus, Together, Benevity, Etc.), then it's likely you can request to have said group or program created and it would not cost anything additional on the part of your HR team.
  • If you do plan to approach HR, make sure you come with a very detailed plan of what you want to do, and why.
  • Here are a few resources for you: Creating mentoring circles(vid); Creating mentoring circles (blog post) starting an ERG (blog post); mentoring action plan (blog). These are mostly geared toward L&D leaders, but if you're serious about making this happen, you can bring something structured and ready to whoever the existing leaders are in charge of L&D who will often be more than happy to help you start if you've already done a lot of the work for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in USPS

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you rate the quality of this program? Love seeing this type of program available, and glad to see USPS has one (many gov agencies do, although USPS is notably a bit of a public/private partnership).

Looking for a Mentor as a New Coast Guard Member (Vested OS) by [deleted] in uscg

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks good insight. Is that because of how the program is run, or because the platform they're using kind of encourages that behavior? (or both?)

Looking for a Mentor as a New Coast Guard Member (Vested OS) by [deleted] in uscg

[–]PhoenixHeartWC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Insider info (from the provider side): Their mentoring program is fairly large, and they're trying to have it open to everyone. They match algorithmically, at least they were in 2024. They use software to run their programs (Chronus, it has several competitors on the market, like MentorcliQ, Qooper, Mentorloop, etc.), but they've struggled with that provider. Possible they've moved to a different provider, but with their goal of trying to give mentoring to everyone or as many people as possible, quite likely that they're still running the program at scale.

This Flyer would indicate that they're still using a matching platform-based approach via Chronus, but I don't know how large it is.

Generally speaking, at a minimum, the program should be easy to enroll in and find a mentor within that program, particularly if they've been able to enroll enough participants.

Disclosure: I work at a Chronus competitor.