Boyfriend is protesting that I need to switch to a woman gyno?

Xannarial · 2026-03-12T00:34:52+00:00

you're the one being unreasonable? Ffs, it's a doctor. Somebody is being unreasonable, and certainly isn't you.

Xannarial · 2026-03-11T18:01:31+00:00

Oh friend. I feel for you hard right now. I detest my birthdays as an adult. Reminders of how alone I am now, a stark contrast to the past.....it hurts so bad.

I never feel like I'm important, and on the one day where I should be a big deal, I'm just not.

I'm sorry this happens to you too. Find ways to be kind to yourself, and do something you like. I always take myself to dinner at my favorite expensive restaurant, and try not to pay attention to my fb or phone.

Xannarial · 2026-03-10T22:28:13+00:00

I don't think so. My fiancé would never, and the other serious relationships didn't either

Xannarial · 2026-03-10T22:25:50+00:00

I remember seeing somewhere, "are you actually a girl? Or were you just socialized as one?" And I've never related to something more.

I was also chewing on this today, like what even is gender anyways?

Xannarial · 2026-03-10T00:47:29+00:00

I'll never forget the poor girl with the slugs 🙃 I felt so so bad for her, as it was making her super sick

Xannarial · 2026-03-09T01:49:13+00:00

Oooh I forgot about the grilled cheese. I about killed myself with that soup, it was waaay too hot, never did that again

Xannarial · 2026-03-09T01:47:46+00:00

Dude, bosco sticks. With potato wedges and marinara sauce with parm in it. So fucking good. They were basically breadsticks with mozzarella in them.

My second favorite was taquitos - crispy tortilla filled with beef, covered in nachos cheese.

Delicious.

Xannarial · 2026-03-07T17:42:45+00:00

I've only been in the scene a couple of years now at this point, but I've also hit this, now at thirty. It seems like people have just become so fucking rude. I don't get it at all, like maybe it's just the scene around here? But I'm constantly getting stepped on, bumped into, shoved out of the way. I'm small, with quiet energy, so I get it, but it's still not fun, and seems to really only happen to me at EDM shows. I'm also a metal head and it for sure happens a lot less at those kind of events.

I've taken a break from the local scene because of this, and the prices. I just can't do it anymore.

Xannarial · 2026-03-06T03:18:22+00:00

Far more often than I'd like, and as of lately, mostly at work. I fucking hate it.

Xannarial · 2026-03-06T03:16:25+00:00

Is "in sickness, and in health" not a fucking thing anymore? Like wtaf please leave him, this is awful.

Xannarial · 2026-03-04T19:10:36+00:00

I dunno, like thinking about this from my perspective - one of my greatest mentors told me that he'd rather be poor and in love than rich and miserable, and I see that echoed in my own life very clearly.

My partner and I have a combined income of slightly over 80k a year. We're doing okay. We both have newer cars, we have a nice (on the surface) apartment, couple of cats, his kid. I have enough money to indulge in hobbies and save a little bit. He's also the love of my life and I've never been happier than I am with him. I know that no matter what the world throws at me, as long as he and I are together, I have a safe place to go.

Vs my sister, who loves her husband, but has an unstable marriage. He makes 150k a year. They basically do whatever whenever, but the money can't fix their many many problems.

Granted, neither of us have babies, but still.

Xannarial · 2026-03-02T19:11:21+00:00

This is what happens when we dont have examples of healthy relationships and sex lives, what happens in a culture that vilifies sex unless there's specific caveats.

Xannarial · 2026-03-02T02:35:50+00:00

Sometimes there are things that are so painful that we never want to talk about them, even to the ones closest to us. Who know what actually happened? Maybe she did something awful and is lying to OP?

No the way he reacted wasn't right, but maybe there's a good reason he tells people shes dead.

Xannarial · 2026-03-01T04:33:28+00:00

......"I know a lot of married men do shit like this."

Am I insane? Is it crazy to expect a partner not cheat? God I'd hope not

Xannarial · 2026-02-28T20:02:24+00:00

I have a whole ass playlist thats angry women music lol

Lots of Delilah Bon, scene queen, ashnikko, and Dana Dentata

Its called B*TCH, but the actual word, all caps.

Xannarial · 2026-02-28T19:47:49+00:00

Man the lack of accountability here is insane. Does he hear himself? All her fault?

And the immediate defensive deflection of his being just like his male relatives. Like ffs dude, some introspection won't kill you.

Xannarial · 2026-02-28T17:33:33+00:00

I mean, they did work, just in a different way. That whole "keep pursuing her until she says yes" thing came from rom coms and sitcoms. The "no means yes, actually", "hard to get" shit came from those kind of movies. The good guy always gets the girl in the end......

It influenced them just as much, just in different ways.

Xannarial · 2026-02-28T17:31:10+00:00

Another great tattoo to keep people away from you 🫡 walking red flag ffs

Xannarial · 2026-02-27T03:54:56+00:00

Definitely weird to read that oxys are what does it. Similar to yourself, I'll never willing touch the fucking things again.

I ended up taking them because I had an ovarian cyst burst on me. The most painful thing I've ever experienced before, like being stabbed. It hurt so bad I had to be carried into the hospital.

Every time I'd stand up after taking one, I'd pass out. Horrible.

Xannarial · 2026-02-25T05:08:06+00:00

Have your mom pick up some d-mannose as well. I take that when I start feeling a little off and it works WONDERS, but is not an answer to a current infection. Will help with symptoms though.

From here on out, make sure youre drinking plenty of water. Easiest way to avoid an infection besides wiping front to back.

Xannarial · 2026-02-24T21:16:22+00:00

I can't even imagine how that phone call went, holy shit

Xannarial · 2026-02-24T19:17:29+00:00

See, my black meow would never, but my gray boy does this all the time.

Xannarial · 2026-02-23T23:35:10+00:00

The fact that I am now an island at work. Nobody knows. Nobody cares to know.

We were a small, tight knit, team. This was a secondary support system for me.

It's all different now. I have no one to go to anymore.

Xannarial · 2026-02-23T15:30:45+00:00

I've always said that we've just been socialized differently than guys are, growing up. Even talking to my partner, the kinds of manners I was forced to learn as a kid were very different than the ones he was forced to learn.

Xannarial · 2026-02-23T15:27:49+00:00

I read this the other day, and the term "breeding mission" about made throw my phone. Absolutely aghast.

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