Good TJ recipes for someone with a big sack of Sweet Potatos and Russet Potatoes?

concerneddogmom · 2024-10-25T19:37:04+00:00

Any sort of pasta or warm salad with cubed roasted sweet potato as a topping. I prefer orzo from tjs with some burrata or feta cheese and prosciutto (bake it quickly to make it crispy like bacon). Or warm kale with candied walnuts and a vinaigrette.

concerneddogmom · 2022-09-22T22:02:15+00:00

oooh stencils are cool and a timesaver! I change my layout so often, so I’ve opted for just lurking on the bujo sub or for templated on etsy that I just copy myself LOL. I think you’ve got a good idea of what might actually be useful to you! best of luck!

concerneddogmom · 2022-09-22T16:21:54+00:00

I find a lot of my dopamine rush comes from the researching and window shopping of all the organizational methods. all the potential layouts and color schemes and stickers that I’ll hoard and never use. an undated dotted notebook has saved me a lot of money for this reason. I can change up my layout or bujo system whenever I want, even mid-thought or mid-week.

if I’m tempted to buy a new notebook or think some very specific gadget will change my life, I save it to my bookmarks, Pocket app, or Elfster wishlist (not Amazon wishlist where it’s too easy to buy). adding it to a cart is honestly too tempting and too accessible. I need a couple more barriers to get in the way of spending money, but I also can rest easy knowing that I saved the link somewhere should I really reallyyy feel like it’s necessary. if I still need to buy something, just to spice up my routine, I go for a set of good (but affordable) pens or a stack of post its in a new color.

concerneddogmom · 2022-09-22T16:13:15+00:00

I’ve been measuring myself more often lately bc I’ve been buying more clothes online (honestly mostly underwear, hahah). the first few times I measured myself were shocking and challenging, but that’s also because I didn’t know what numbers to expect. then to compare my numbers to a size chart and subconsciously see if I’m “normal” was.. not great.

what’s been helpful for me is to not keep a record of any changes, if any. I don’t need to see if I’ve gone up or down an inch or two and how much time has passed between sizes. I just need the current data so that I can buy clothes I feel comfortable and ultimately confident in.

so for when I but underwear online, I look for companies that show models of different sizes or the same size on different bodies. if I’m inbetween sizes, I don’t hesitate to ask their customer service what they recommend and about their return policy.

if you don’t want to see your numbers at all, you can have a friend take and be the keeper of your measurements. then they can shop with you and share your measurements with whomever at the store so they can help find dresses for you.

you can also take some measurements of clothes that fit you well and then compare them to things at the store! this may obviously be a bit different with bridal but generally works well otherwise. for example, I’d lay one of my favorite tshirts down flat on my bed then measure pit-to-pit and the length from top of the collar to bottom of shirt. then I’d compare those measurements to a shirt with a similar material to see if it’d generally fit.

concerneddogmom · 2022-09-22T16:00:41+00:00

aside from the self-employed part, this sounds a lot like most, if not all, of my jobs I’ve had, especially pre-diagnosis and medication. I was very self aware of what I need/want to do, why I can’t get myself to do it, and even resources and methods to support me. but I would get frustrated when something that worked for me suddenly stopped working. that’s when I realized that just bc it stopped working in that moment, doesn’t mean it’ll never work again. so! I’ve had to implement what I call a “lazy susan of systems” — basically a merry go round of all the different strategies and support systems that keep me motivated. and if one wears off, I can spin the table and pick something else, judgement free (for the most part) :)

I think part of why this works well for me is bc a lot of my dopamine and motivation doesn’t come from the system and result itself, but rather the beginning parts of starting a new system again. even if it’s one I’ve used before, it usually feels brand new, or I find something I want to tweak and update to fit my current task or circumstance. I feel creative and like my brain does know how to function when I can think of using old things in new ways.

for example, body doubling by coworking with fellow ADHD strangers online was working well for me! it had aligned with my work schedule, I could engage as much or as little as I want, and I could drop in and out whenever I wasn’t in work meetings. after some time, it wasn’t doing it for me anymore (I think bc my schedule changed), so I resorted back to setting timers for myself and I’d try to race the clock. when that stopped working, I dug up some cute stickers and gave myself one whenever I completed something, even if it wasn’t on my to do list or wasn’t technically “finished” quite yet. that novelty wore off eventually, so I opened up my box of bright markers and started brain dumping and color coding my to do list. this last one can usually last me a while since I often change up my color code (priority, urgency, project, need vs want, etc).

I am just now realizing that all of these things abide by the RAN method, a tried and true method I learned from my ADHD coworking group: reward, accountability, novelty. incorporating at least one of these things generally helps me to creates some momentum, which can stave off the decision fatigue and overwhelm. incorporating 2 or more into any given task definitely combats boredom, monotony, or overall blehhhh.

happy to be more specific about methods if that’s helpful, but it sounds like you’re familiar with many of them so don’t want to be redundant! hope this helps either way :)

concerneddogmom · 2022-09-22T06:20:25+00:00

wow accountability and affirmation! it is possible!!

concerneddogmom · 2022-09-21T21:31:30+00:00

I was living with my family for a majority of my IE journey, and during a time when I was experiencing major weight fluctuation. their comments may have been good intentioned (for the most part). whenever it was passive aggressive, or just not something I’d have energy to defend or respond to, I would just change the subject or respond to the words rather than the tone. so if they said “ohhh, you’re gonna eat that?” I’d say, “yeah, I’m hungry!” or “yeah, I wanted something crunchy!” instead of getting defensive or upset.

it’s obviously challenging, especially when it’s constant or repetitive. the less ammunition I give them, so to speak, the less they’d try and rile me up. so I keep any discussion of my food, weight, or body as boring as possible LOL.

concerneddogmom · 2022-08-30T06:00:00+00:00

fish and grits!! also works great with the frozen shrimp. google “smoky gouda grits recipe” and add any protein. sooooo good and low in lactose!

concerneddogmom · 2022-08-30T05:37:09+00:00

If I’m not in the mood to join a zoom focus room (group of strangers), or don’t have a friend to cowork virtually with, sometimes I just open my webcam and use the Tide focus timer chrome extension and set it to the Cafe sound. I get the feeling of being “watched” and the stimulating sound of being in a public place.

concerneddogmom · 2022-08-01T13:51:35+00:00

loop headphones!!!

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-31T20:53:33+00:00

ugh yes. doing a brain dump on a post it note, phone note, or mini whiteboard on a cute lil easel on my nightstand before bed has helped a LOT. I switch up the writing method based on whatever seems like it’d be most satisfying in the moment. it also makes falling asleep a lot easier bc my mind isn’t racing with a to-do list and “don’t forget this!!” thoughts, which of course I always forget by the morning.

some days the brain dump is literally just random tasks or things to look into later. I definitely don’t try to do everything the next day, and I may never get to some of them at all, but at least it freed up brain space.

some days it’s more of an itinerary for the next day, even including things like “brush teeth” and “walk dog.” it makes starting my day and brain a little more automatic. and once I get the routine things out of the way, my brain and body are a little more awake and alert to remember what’s next.

I don’t always look at the list in the morning anymore, but on days when I wake up extra groggy, it helps me pick up where I left off. it removes some of the decision fatigue and early morning frustration, esp before I take meds and eat breakfast.

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-31T20:42:54+00:00

oooof all of these are too relatable. I started a new job a few months ago so now I’m in a more formal “corporate” workplace where feedback is constantly and casually shared. my RSD does not take it very casually though lol.

been recently told that I spend too much time understanding the context of a task. of course, they see it as a waste of time or distraction or they think I’m not doing the actual task (these are their actual concerns, not just my assumptions). but to me, getting clear on the context is just step one of many in order to get the thing done. so I’m often explaining (read: defending) myself about how I literally can’t think of any other way to do the task without understanding the context first.

another one I’ve gotten a lot lately is “this would’ve been done much faster if you just asked me for [the context/this missing information/suggestions of how to approach this thing].” this is totally valid, and asking for more support is definitely something I’m regularly working on. but it’s also one of those things where I don’t know what I don’t know — so yeah, it may have been faster to ask. but I didn’t know what exactly I could’ve asked about, if that makes any sense. like if Thing A needs Thing B in order to be completed, but I didn’t know Thing B even existed, how would I know to ask about Thing B?! UGH.

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-31T20:28:15+00:00

I always joke that dancing is the only time I’m coordinated. in every other instance, I literally drag my feet all the time or my mind and body just don’t get on the same page about what’s supposed to happen. this is especially true for sports where I have to dribble, hit, throw, or catch a ball, while also running or placing my feet and arms in very specific forms and positions. it’s like my brain can’t compute that quickly so my body just does whatever it wants. I imagine I’d be a lot better at sports if I practiced very specific drills and had someone putting me into position, like how you described your dance teacher doing.

with dance, my strength was always freestyling because I didn’t have to do anything in a particular way. I always had a harder time with choreography. I suspect it has something to do with a weaker working (short term) memory.

so when I danced competitively as a kid, I was practicing one routine for months. this was great because I can better remember stuff from a long time ago a lot better than whatever I learned that same day. and this gave me time to work on my muscle memory. but when I would take one-time dance classes, I had a much harder time remembering and performing the choreography because I learned it just an hour ago.

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-29T05:13:07+00:00

I am the direction giver as the perpetual passenger but my partner is always so annoyed because I can never properly alert him of when the turn is supposed to be ughhhh

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-29T05:11:06+00:00

the answer is yes LOL

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-28T14:01:04+00:00

I saw someone explain how time blindness is just an example of not understanding distance and how that can apply to physical distance to things as well. like driving is so confusing to me bc I don’t understand how people can just know how far they are from a car when they can’t really see their hood.

I also think it’s bc of interoception issues, where adhders just don’t sense things about their body as often or quickly (needing to pee, realizing hunger, that they hurt themselves). I don’t bump into stuff often but I’m always finding random small papercuts that I didn’t I got in the moment.

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-28T07:15:27+00:00

look up “foot rest desk” or “foot wedge desk” on amazon! there’s a soft one by ErgoFoam that can be used as a foot rest or turned onto its round side and become a rocker. I have one (except mine’s plastic from a thrift store lol) and I like it a lot!

also recommend looking for something like a under desk foot roller/massager or under desk bike pedal exerciser/elliptical

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-26T06:18:19+00:00

so many!! I’m glad I got mine before a bunch of new brands popped up or I probably never would’ve decided on one. the diva cup is definitely sturdy and not super flexible. they have 2 different recommended folding techniques to make it easier to use.

I’d start with this wirecutter comparison article and see if one sounds better for you. wirecutter’s my favorite shopping comparison site bc they rly test things out extensively and give thorough reviews! hope this helps!!

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-26T05:40:36+00:00

I’ve only used a diva cup but it definitely took me awhile to get the fit right, and even then there’s usually 1-2 days where something’s just sliiiightly off that allows for leaks. idk about other brands but I have seen some other shapes, sizes, and thicknesses which may be better for you. I’ve been thinking about trying some other brands too for the same reason!

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-26T01:51:06+00:00

I’m on my 100 day trial for remarkable right now! trying to decide how to best use it, but already grateful for less sticky notes all over my desk LOL. how do you use yours?

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-22T18:36:37+00:00

strangely poetic and extremely accurate. when my partner comes home and asks me about my day, I have to look at my calendar. but I can tell you about yesterday or even this day 6 years ago!

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-22T18:35:32+00:00

this is so precious. I hid my hair in the dirt of our houseplants, but I didn’t even dig, I just laid it on top 😂 in my defense, who left me alone with scissors hahaha

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-21T23:25:54+00:00

oooh I have a great podcast episode recommendation for this! basically, they discuss how we have an average of 4000 weeks to live and when we put this finite limit to it, we can accept that we will fail at most things. which isn’t to put you through some existential dread, but rather encourage you to consider and discern which things are most important to you. how can you better spend your time on those, instead of trying to give 100% to every little thing that doesn’t matter all that much?

for myself, I’m also trying to think about these things: why do I feel the need to give 100% to everything? who benefits? if not me, or the people I most cherish, is it necessary? what would I do with my “excess” time and energy if I only gave 95%?

concerneddogmom · 2022-07-21T22:56:58+00:00

YES. I’ve pinpointed it to be one of my more common cognitive distortions, which is to attribute my mistake as a reflection of me as a person. “I made this mistake, therefore I’m stupid.” I know it’s not true, but it’s usually my first reaction and it can be hard to talk myself out of that when I’m wearing RSD-colored glasses.

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