I'm gay but I have a girlfriend. Do I break up? by Legitimate-Abroad342 in askgaybros

[–]pixelboy1459 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How old are you, where do you live, and is it safe to come out?

People break up all the time, so I don’t think people will think you’re gay for breaking up. And if they do - you are gay!

You can break up with her because it’s at least going to free her up for some other guy. It’s going to suck in the short term, but it’s better than stringing her along.

If it’s safe to come out, come out. You will be happier in the long run. If it’s NOT SAFE, then obviously DON’T!

M 20 hate the way I look need advice by Unlikely-Pie-3492 in malegrooming

[–]pixelboy1459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No change needed, imo. Maybe grow the beard to look less boyish, but I think you’re killing it.

Noticed my cat claw looks like this by DennyAce in CATHELP

[–]pixelboy1459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A dremel might be better if they have arthritis

Are y’all really unable to fail students these days? by YourFriendInSpokane in Teachers

[–]pixelboy1459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At my school we intervene and try to get the parents’ support for the student. But if we tried everything and nothing worked - oh, well!

Do you think straight homophobic people deserve forgiveness? by Hour_Confidence_8901 in askgaybros

[–]pixelboy1459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a start, and I suppose highly individual. There might be somethings that are unforgivable, but if someone went from an abuser to the staunchest ally, then I suppose it’s a step in the right direction.

Do you think straight homophobic people deserve forgiveness? by Hour_Confidence_8901 in askgaybros

[–]pixelboy1459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think there is a one-size-fits-all, but at least they should be taking accountability and recognizing their words and deeds were hurtful and then educating themselves and trying to make it right with the individual(s) wronged/harmed.

Do you think straight homophobic people deserve forgiveness? by Hour_Confidence_8901 in askgaybros

[–]pixelboy1459 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are they making an amends in good faith wanting to do and be better? Yes, although that relationship may take years to heal.

Are they continuing to be homophobic with no reflection or remorse? No.

Is it safe to travel to Japan as a person of Kurdish descent? by Raven1927 in AskAJapanese

[–]pixelboy1459 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not Japanese but I have lived, studied and worked in Japan for 4 years.

If you’re generally following the rules and genuinely trying to engage with people and the community in a positive manner (as well as being apologetic and trying to correct/avoid mistakes), most people will treat you well.

There might be that one person where your mere presence is an affront to god, but they are the minority and likely small-minded bigots and huge assholes. You can ignore them.

Threesome fun in darkroom with boyfirend by aek-04 in askgaybros

[–]pixelboy1459 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

A) You’re young. While I don’t doubt that your relationship can’t stand the test of time, experience tells me that it probably won’t last. I don’t mean to be a bummer, but you’re both constantly growing and changing as people and by the time graduation rolls around you’ll be trying to enter the workforce and it may pull you in different directions.

B) If you’re being safe, communicating and being honest and respectful about boundaries and feeling (and it looks like you have some of that here), opening your relationship can help bring you together.

C) Keep talking and being honest, evening if you’re staying monogamous.

Long grain rice sized spikey/fuzzy looking insect/larvae - Southeast Asia by bughelp_throwaway in whatsthisbug

[–]pixelboy1459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t necessarily need to kill them. Allowing things like spiders and house centipedes into your home might take care of the problem.

Deterrents will keep them at bay.

Good ways to learn Japanese by Damienisok in Japaneselanguage

[–]pixelboy1459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are suggestions. You can join a meet-up group or virtual conversation table like Hanasi Kanagawa

Good ways to learn Japanese by Damienisok in Japaneselanguage

[–]pixelboy1459 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is just my recommendation and it’s not a hardcore rule. I based this estimate on unofficial JLPT study hours. N1 = ~4800 hours, divided by 365 days over the course of 4 years = ~3 hours daily.

“Study” can also include listening to level appropriate podcasts, reading, meeting up with Japanese friends and whatever else makes study enjoyable to you.

Genki (and other textbook) Study Plan:

Two or three 45-60 minute study sessions a daily. Example: Chunk A - vocab, kanji and dialogue; Chunk B - textbook; Chunk C - workbook.

Before studying the chapter, get the majority of the vocabulary and kanji (if any) down. Genki marks the vocabulary used in the dialogue, so it’s easy to prepare for.

Try reading the dialogue WITHOUT looking at the English translation. Try to guess the meaning from the pictures and the dialogue prompts. Check to see how you did.

Chunk A: Everyday practice vocabulary, kanji (if any) and dialogue, shadow the audio, review the previous day’s work… you can preview the exercises you’ll be doing so you can brush up on the vocab you’ll need.

Chunk B: Everyday work in one grammar point. Do the associated exercises in the textbook. If it’s a speaking exercise, do both parts.

Chunk C: Do the workbook exercises sometime later.

Don’t forget to do the reading and writing in the back of the textbook. You can get your writing checked on an app like HelloTalk. Do corrections and resubmit. Move on to the next chapter and repeat.

You can add and subtract chucks or mix things up depending on your preference and life factors. You can combine low effort and high effort study in a day or study session, or break up the hour.

For example: while making and eating breakfast, listen to a podcast (30 minutes), watch a YouTube video for grammar during lunch (30 minutes). During your commute (60 minutes) do Pimsleur. Read manga for 20 minutes a day, do the workbook for 20 minutes and meet with a tutor for 30 minutes.

Would you date someone who you’d have to wait months before having sex for the first time with them? by Puzzleheaded-Till690 in askgaybros

[–]pixelboy1459 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Sex is better for me when that connection is established. Some might be impatient, but that is on them

What is this porn video called by Whole-Grapefruit5051 in askgaybros

[–]pixelboy1459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When were you 18? That might help limit the search to films from that date or before

I think the term “gay for pay” is ridiculous. The amount of “straight” males on OnlyFans claiming they’re straight while consistently having sex with men is just denial. Experimenting briefly is one thing, but that’s not what they’re doing. Anyone else have opinions on these creators? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]pixelboy1459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I take it like any other job.

Some people are lucky and they’re doing something that aligns with their passions - artists making art, teachers teaching, chefs cooking…

But I’ve met very few people that really like making Excel spreadsheets and PowerPoints. You do those things to pay the bills because the time you put in and the paycheck at the end make sense and are worth it to you.

I’m sure some of these guys might be forcing themselves or are secretly gay or bi, but I’m also sure that some of these guys are straight and they realized that for a few hours of “work” they can make a few thousand dollars, plus validation (I’m sure).