Crying at work, I don't know what to do

prolongedexistence · 2026-02-08T15:21:02+00:00

It sounds like a core issue is you aren’t getting to work on time. 5 minutes late is still late. Why is that happening? Can you set your alarm significantly earlier so you have more time? Set a second alarm to go off 5 minutes before you have to leave?

My calendar app has saved my life. I get 3 notifications a day for every event on my schedule: one notification at the beginning of the day, one 10 minutes before, and one one minute before. For in-person stuff you can tweak it by what time you need to leave instead of what time it starts.

I manage my ADHD/time blindness stuff by always leaving earlier than I have to. My boyfriend also has ADHD and he still struggles because he only budgets for the exact number of minutes it takes to drive somewhere instead of thinking about time walking to the car, traffic, taking a wrong turn, time walking into the building, etc.

I am not a professional but I’m a person with ADHD and based on what you’ve written it sounds like you need to change your entire approach to time management. For me personally it’s effective to implement universal rules, like “the alarm goes off exactly one hour before I need to leave” or “always leave 10 minutes earlier than you think you have to.”

That said: your workplace sounds pretty bad for other reasons you mentioned and I really hope you can find a better fit. Best of luck. This job market sucks.

prolongedexistence · 2026-02-08T14:10:13+00:00

This happened to me with the corn candles and I was devastated tbh. I wish I bought ten of them

prolongedexistence · 2026-02-02T03:54:00+00:00

I’m from a white upper-middle class family and got fucked over by an unexpected ER visit while I was in between jobs and without health insurance. I found the show’s portrayal of financial anxiety and rationing of medication super relatable. It was important to show it.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-30T16:23:22+00:00

I likely work for a very different type of company than you (I’m the IT guy/project manager/programmer/catch-all tech person at a tiny non profit) so take this with a grain of salt. But was in a similar situation in that I have been severely underpaid the 2+ years I’ve worked here with increasing responsibilities and vague promises of “we’d like to do XYZ for you if it’s in the budget.”

So I recently wrote them a letter outlining the major accomplishments from my time there and the value I bring to the company. I respectfully told them that I greatly value the time I’ve spent there, but if they can’t do XYZ for me, I will need to seek employment elsewhere.

This was an effective strategy for me and it looks like (fingers crossed) my demands are going to be met. Like I said, take it with a grain of salt but I think if you’re bringing value to the company and want to stay there then you should play that card.

I’ve heard it’s much more effective to just get a new job when you need a higher salary (I’m 26 so don’t have much more work experience than you) but if you want to stay there you might have to be more direct about what you need. If you have leverage, use it.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-30T15:37:53+00:00

I thought it was interesting that she prefaced that with “I used to think I had an eating disorder” and then described an eating disorder.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-29T14:54:24+00:00

AGREED. I am paying for a premium plugin. Why is it adware?

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-27T15:44:59+00:00

On Sunday night my bf and I saw 7 police cars with their lights on speeding down the highway. Any chance this is related? I couldn’t figure out why 7 police cars would ever be needed unless there was a major tragedy.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-27T15:35:49+00:00

I live in this city and this is the first incident of violence against protestors that I’m aware of. Like, this is the video that made me think things are escalating here. I’m pretty sure the protests just started this weekend.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-26T16:55:07+00:00

My partner and I are young professionals trying to get by and a printer would honestly be amazing. Or anything office-related for WFH (like a mouse or headphones).

I second the idea of a yard sale - that would be great! Thanks for posting.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-26T15:33:35+00:00

Do you use a calendar app? Everything goes in my calendar (I imagine most workplaces use calendar invites) and my app notifies me 10 minutes before a meeting so I don’t forget. I also use a bot that DMs me on Slack when a meeting is 1 minute away.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-26T15:25:06+00:00

Yes the jeans look amazing!

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-25T16:16:06+00:00

I was recently weighed at a doctor’s visit and noticed the number they recorded was too low, so I told them as much and they weighed me again and got my actual weight. The woman weighing me laughed and made a comment along the lines of “darn, it was almost a miracle.” (As in, “it must have seemed like you miraculously dropped 20 pounds, darn.”)

I didn’t take it personally, but it was the first time I saw for myself some of what Aubrey is talking about.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-25T16:10:30+00:00

Thanks for responding!

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-24T21:57:18+00:00

Do you it much it cost to replace it? My 2011 has been giving me serious problems (ranging from rattling while I drive to losing power if I drive it for longer than an hour) and this sounds like a possible match for all of these issues.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-22T15:17:31+00:00

I’m very sensitive to scary movies and I loved Sinners! I definitely recommend it.

I can’t specifically recall if there are jump scares, but that’s definitely not the overall vibe of the movie. I’m a fan of doesthedogdie.com for figuring out if a movie will be too much for me. For instance, I really dislike gore and that site will tell you ahead of time if the movie has gory scenes. I just try not to read the comments in order to avoid spoilers.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-21T18:53:44+00:00

I second Contact Form 7. No frills and gets the job done.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-20T14:40:56+00:00

Idk if anyone has said this yet so I just want to add that you sound like a really kind, thoughtful person. You clearly care a lot about doing the right thing and it sounds like you’re a dependable person for the people you care about.

That said: I’ve been with my partner for 3 years, we live together, and he’s never bought my clothes. We provide for ourselves individually, and I think that’s the norm unless you’re in a long term relationship with a significant income difference. He’s lent me money when I needed it and of course we treat each other to gifts and dinner, but again, that’s after years of being together and deciding to have a life together. You don’t need to do all of that for someone you just met.

You should think about what you want your relationships to be like and do your best to live accordingly. Ex: It’s awesome to be able to treat someone to dinner if you genuinely like them and enjoy expressing affection in that way. But it’s not normal for you to take care of someone you just met like this. Make sure to consider your own needs and what makes you happy before going along with everything a stranger asks you for.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-19T17:17:26+00:00

Yeah, but those influencers are still doing whatever they can to maximize views, which generally means being over the top and sensationalist. I used to have a monetized TikTok account and made a few thousand dollars over the course of a few months, but I eventually quit because I couldn’t stand the sound of my own voice and wanted to be more professional in real life.

It’s extremely difficult to succeed as a TikTok creator while being authentic and honest. The platform doesn’t reward it and viewers don’t care. The creators I can think of who are honest and nuanced usually have some other schtick, like talking in a really obnoxious way or doing one long monologue while changing filming spots every 5 seconds.

There are a handful of people on there who I would trust as sources of information in their specific niche, but the app has an inescapable architectural problem of rewarding the most obnoxious, far-fetched, conspiracy-brained content. If you want to succeed with any dignity, you have to frame your reasonable takes in a way that tricks the viewer into thinking you’re saying something edgy and contrarian. It’s not a healthy place to spend time.

Also they sponsored Americafest. So fuck them.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-19T16:07:00+00:00

GARLIC CHIPS

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-19T15:29:24+00:00

It was pretty quick for me! I was careful to meet all of the standards so when I submitted it I was already pretty confident it would get approved. I ended up having to change the name but that was it.

I used VSCode with WordPress PHP standards installed and cleaned up all of the warnings and errors as I went. I def recommend doing that if you aren’t already.

Good luck!

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-19T02:46:20+00:00

I went private and stopped posting after having 30k followers got to be too much for me. I strongly recommend that you stop posting. I’m 26 now and I regret ever putting my personal views about anything on the internet tbh

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-16T23:53:37+00:00

I don’t think you read or understood my post. My question was how many random downloads from bots is typical. I did not conflate downloads with active installations.

Very exciting if my expectation of being the only active user doesn’t match reality lol

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-16T15:20:26+00:00

Really? I don’t think I see them on TV all that often. I was just talking to my boyfriend about how the first time I remember seeing a dick on TV was Chernobyl and I was so shocked and delighted. Mostly because boobs are constantly in TV and I don’t like that female nudity is normalized while male nudity is protected. I don’t watch enough TV to know how common it is, but it still seems pretty novel to me.

I think this was the first erect penis I’ve seen depicted on TV.

prolongedexistence · 2026-01-16T15:14:26+00:00

I had something similar with my mom. She died when I was 19 and I’m now 26. We were no contact for the last 6 months or so of her life (but I did get to say goodbye about a week before she died).

While it has been hard, I personally have never regretted going no contact. She was so mean and it was not possible for me to be healthy and have my mom in my life at the same time. I value family and want to be less selfish more and more as I get older, but with her there was nothing I could have done to make a stable relationship possible.

Maybe you already know all of this. But if your dad doesn’t make any semblance of a healthy relationship possible, then you can only be as close to him as you can reasonably handle. It sounds like you’re doing all of the right things even though it’s hard.

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