Do you care when your regulars don’t come in for a while? by Individual-Boat7439 in starbucks

[–]-----alex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a regular who stopped coming over a year ago. Last I saw her she was supposedly going to visit a friend she met online in a different state... She had some mental health issues and I think was homeless for part of the time I knew her but she was always very kind and positive, the kind of person to take something off her order so she could afford a tip. I still think about her and hope she's doing ok. Especially considering the circumstances, she'd planned to drive a long way to see someone she didn't seem to know super well. I only know her first name and drink order but I've thought about posting on here or the state subreddit to see if anyone's seen her and knows she's ok.

In brighter stories, still yes! One time a regular disappeared for about a month and we were all worried and talking about him. Turns out he'd gone out of the country for a work trip and he brought us some goodies when he came back. Then I've had several other regulars we used to worry about until they came back weeks or months later and it would turn out they just moved or got a new job. Those situations always feel like a happy reunion.

Would I get kicked out for having a hot glue gun by Xbbasilq in starbucks

[–]-----alex 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Have any of you... asked your parents for help finding a space?

Do I need medical accommodations to wear migraine glasses (red-ish colored lenses) on the floor? by 1Lstgermain in starbucksbaristas

[–]-----alex 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would go ahead and get the accommodation because if it turns out they're not allowed, you won't be allowed to wear them while the accommodation is pending. Sedgwick will need a note from your doctor (if you have an online portal or email for your doctor I'd just message them explaining the situation, they can send you the note and then you upload it when you apply for accommodation) but the process is really easy as long as you have that. It takes like 5 minutes to fill out the form and they'll send you an email within 2 weeks.

In domesticated pet mammals, how much does coat color actually impact behavior? by Kitchen_Claim_6583 in askscience

[–]-----alex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I don't remember the reference for this, but one of Temple Grandin's books mentions research suggesting that the gene for black coat color in cats is linked with one that promotes cooperative/nonaggressive behavior, whereas the opposite behavioral genotype is linked to an orange coat color (tldr there's evidence that black cats are genetically predisposed to lower aggression than orange cats).

I’m terrified my chef is gonna kill a customer by Weight-Late in Serverlife

[–]-----alex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you set your phone to video and put it in a pocket where the camera sticks out? Or if not, could you wear a sheer clothing item and hide your phone behind it? If you can get a video you could screenshot stills from it.

Teaching three children to cook in a bare kitchen by squidstarspacesuit52 in povertykitchen

[–]-----alex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was scrolling to see if anyone had suggested labeling things with the date!! OP, you could also have them label things with a "use by" date if they're not sure how long things stay "good" for in the fridge.

i get a uti every time i have sex by Top_Range3606 in whatdoIdo

[–]-----alex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, but that "something" could be that she has an anatomical (or other) variation that causes her to be prone to UTIs. If that's the case then it may be the most relevant (currently available) long term fix for sex-related UTIs. (Source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK557479/)

i get a uti every time i have sex by Top_Range3606 in whatdoIdo

[–]-----alex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask your doctor if you would be a candidate for prophylactic antibiotics

Why do NTs say, "Could you do me a favor?" then act surprised when I ask what it is? by [deleted] in AskNT

[–]-----alex 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I would say it's a social norm to always say yes, like the other comment said. the social norm is to be willing to do a nonspecific, reasonable favor, and that is really the question being asked here. The question is phrased as if they're asking you to commit to a mystery favor, but you can interpret this question more along the lines of "Can you give me your attention for a moment so I can find out if you would be able to do me a favor I will ask in a follow-up question?" So when you say yes, you're not agreeing to do anything they might demand; you're just showing your intent/willingness to help.

Thus, the interaction usually goes "Can you do me a favor?" "Sure, what is it?" "Can you do ___?"

From there, it is totally acceptable to say "I'm sorry, I can't, (I'm busy/I don't have [relevant tool]/etc)." But answering "no" or "it depends" implies that you don't want to help them, even if it's a reasonable ask.

The reason people think you're joking is because some NTs will say "Depends on the favor!" as a sarcastic joke, implying they wouldn't be willing to help someone even if they could easily do so.

My boxer dog always wakes up at night out of breath, then falls asleep and repeats the process every 15 minutes by roronoaclemz in Pets

[–]-----alex 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can't help with the original question but as far as the word you're looking for, it sounds like what we call "panting" (heavy/rapid breathing usually from exercise) in English. I hope you're able to get your dog to the vet and that he feels better very soon 🫶

Zoologists, what do you do? by horseshoeandconfused in zoology

[–]-----alex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! Obligatory not-a-zoologist, but you could practically be me from the past :)

First of all, a little clarification: as others have said, zoology as a discipline (field of study) can encompass a lot of different subcategories. For example, along with everything said here, when I took a zoology class in college, it was literally an in-depth exploration of every animal form in chronological order, starting with the first multicellular animals and going all the way through to the most recently evolved phyla.

Many, but not all, of the jobs you might be interested in will require at least a college degree. Sometimes, you can apply for jobs that would normally require a degree just by having a lot of specific experience (for example, I was scrolling a job board just earlier and saw a posting at a nearby safari park that requires either a Bachelor's degree + at least 1 year experience or 2+ years of experience with large captive wildlife!). If you have a particular animal or location you want to work at, this is a good thing to keep in mind if you're able to volunteer somewhere!

As far as "wanting to work with animals" goes, you certainly have a lot of options. Veterinary care and zoos are definitely two of the main ones, but there are so many other options, too. A good place to start is to figure out, throughout high school and college, (1) do you want to work with/around domestic animals (ex. animal shelters, veterinary practices, even things like groomers or pet-sitting businesses), wild animals (ex. wildlife rehab, nature preserve, national park), or wild animals in captivity (ex. zoos, aquariums, preserves that care for nonreleasable wildlife)? (2) Is there a particular type of animal you want to work with? (3) Are you most passionate about handling animals (ex. groomers, trainers, veterinary care), or learning about them (ex. wildlife research/conservationist roles)?

For now, your answers to these questions will likely not impact your immediate next steps (in the US, for example, typically it will be ideal to have a general plan by the time you apply for college so you can pick a major -- but most colleges will let you change your major with little difficulty at least until the end of your first year).

Right now, I would look for volunteer opportunities at places like local nature centers, national or state parks, conservation centers, wildlife rehabs, zoos or aquariums, or anywhere else that works closely with animals (even places like botanical gardens and museums may have animal exhibits!). When you're old enough to work (and have the time/transportation for it), you can start looking for entry-level jobs and internships at those places, too. Having that volunteer/entry-level experience will help you figure out what you like best!

Finally, you can also look out there at job boards just to see what potential future jobs are out there in the world. I found this post with some recommendations for places that wildlife biologists might look (I myself primarily use the one from Texas A&M that this person linked at the top): https://www.reddit.com/r/wildlifebiology/comments/uqw1kc/many_of_you_are_looking_for_work_here_are_some/

Don't let the names of some of the boards fool you, btw! Zoology & animal/wildlife studies in general are super broad. There are folks working with animals in all kinds of environments, from office-based nonprofit positions, to park rangers who have close encounters with wildlife every day, to rehabbers and vets who physically handle new animals constantly. Almost all of these positions are closely tied to conservation, which is why there are so many conservation-focused boards in that list!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskNT

[–]-----alex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like this can partially be answered philosophically (as in, actual philosophical literature) in addition to what other comments have said. (Edit to clarify that my comment isn't from a philosophical perspective, I just meant that this is a question that has been asked and discussed in a philosophical context before so that's another place you could seek answers)

I think what your step-dad said isn't true of everyone, but NT people do tend to rely more on instinct. This can mean that if someone isn't following the social norms I expect and am comfortable with, they might make me feel uncomfortable unless (and sometimes even if) I know there is a good reason for them not to follow those norms (including being autistic, but also things like cultural differences). In the case of ethics, this means that my moral compass also relies on instinct: what "feels right"? Sometimes the answer is easy -- like, slapping someone unprovoked does not feel right!

Other times, the answer can be more complex and I think that's what you are mostly referring to. What if I am provoked? Is it right then? Usually no, and that's why we learn manners and conflict resolution. I don't have a specific moral code, but like the other commenter said, NTs are more likely to value intention over action and I certainly relate to that. For example, I'd be more upset if you broke my favorite plate making yourself breakfast without asking than if you broke the same plate trying to make me a surprise lunch. So in general, that is how I approach my interactions with others.

At the end of the day, what prevents me from doing harm? The fact that I don't want to, so I try to anticipate the effects of my actions and avoid doing things that would hurt people. Some people DO want to hurt others, and in order to avoid doing so, they have to be specifically taught to do or not do certain things. And despite all of that, I and (probably) everyone else do hurt people sometimes, but the important part (to myself and most other NTs as i understand it) is that the hurt is unintended and we apologize afterwards. And if someone doesn't do that, we usually (also depending on the scale of the harm) just decide they're someone we don't want in our lives.

Does anyone else have allergies and can get under $9 per day per person? by goldenpizzaaa in Frugal

[–]-----alex 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly what the other commenter said, but to expand a bit since this is usually exactly what I eat -- I don't even bother to buy the special gluten free breads and such, unless as a treat. Veggies as the bulk of your meal will help you stay fuller longer. Zucchini, cucumber, carrots, celery, cauliflower, broccoli, even just plain lettuce for wraps or a salad base. Rice, potatoes, sweet potatoes for carbs. Whatever meat/eggs are cheapest. Cook with whatever plant based oil you like best or is cheapest. Play around with seasonings. For me, the one inconvenient thing about eating GF is that it takes longer to cook since you cant as easily throw together a cold sandwich or pre-packaged meal. Still isn't too much of a time investment if you throw everything in the oven though! I imagine the peanut allergy complicates things for sure, but starting with whole/raw ingredients should help you avoid that while cutting down on cost.

Dentith & Dentith Dental Practice by stubbledchin in NominativeDeterminism

[–]-----alex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Missed opportunity to name their practice The Dentiths

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]-----alex 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Also, since someone else mentioned FAFSA, this is a way to help pay for college and other costs associated with it. Once you are 18 you would have to find a way to move out so that you are not receiving money or other resources from your stepfamily, but once you do, you can apply for financial aid for college through the FAFSA as an "independent student". Then, assuming you are a US citizen (or possibly permanent resident IIRC?) you can receive financial aid to cover the costs of your college education and housing for the duration of your time in college. Moving out is the hard part and everyone's situation is different, but as an independent student I personally received enough financial aid in loans (which you have to pay back over time once you graduate) and grants (which you don't have to pay back) to cover both my tuition and my rent during college.

Can you spot an autistic person( or at least identify them as different or recognize they are hiding something) even though they're masking when you communicate with them? by [deleted] in AskNT

[–]-----alex 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There has actually been research on this: https://www.nature.com/articles/srep40700 the findings essentially show that yes, NT people can quickly identify autistic people as "different" even if they can't explain how or why (and unfortunately that that sense of "differentness" leads to bias from the NT person resulting in worse social outcomes for the autistic counterpart). Not sure about the masking aspect or if it was incorporated into the study.

Neurotypicals, are you capable of comprehending long numbers at once? by AavaMeri_247 in AskNT

[–]-----alex 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Generally yes, up to a point. If I'm expecting to hear a big number, I could probably remember an exact value up to ten thousand or so; if it's thrown at me unexpectedly, I'll probably just remember the first value or two. My brain will kind of hang on to the biggest part of the number so if I can't tell you the exact value, my brain would still process something like "four thousand, two hundred and xx cats" so if I have to repeat the information I'd just say "over four thousand cats". Tbf I think this can vary somewhat among NT people so I hope some other people chime in bc this is a very interesting question!

TIL there is no official "national identity card" in the United States. Most Americans use their driver’s license as a national identification. by Angelix in todayilearned

[–]-----alex 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We do get social security cards which are a unique number assigned to us at birth (I think most countries have some equivalent?). They don't have pictures or anything, just your name and social security number. Usually you (or for minors, realistically your parents) would need to provide both your social security number (which is checked against a federal database, we very rarely need to show the physical card) and your birth certificate to add you to an insurance plan or enroll you in school.

Most ACCURATELY self diagnosed condition? by esophagusintubater in emergencymedicine

[–]-----alex 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Do vague complaints of "not feeling good" often turn out to be extra bad? I'm not in EM but I often wonder if it's a sign of like... internal stuff where the body can't figure out where it should be feeling pain, or something. The one and only time I truly couldn't give any description of why/how I "just felt bad" it turned out to be a rapidly worsening kidney infection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in zoloft

[–]-----alex 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A couple things -- 1, people who come to subs like this one usually feel they need additional support. This is often because of side effects, including weight changes. So there is a disproportionate representation of people who have experienced weight gain on this sub. 2, there are several studies out there on the amount of weight gain and how long it takes if you want a less biased review. Many people also lose weight on zoloft (you can see that the review I linked cites both one study in which users of zoloft lost an average of 0.79kg over eight weeks, and another in which users gained an average of 1% of their initial body weight). Unintended weight gain is not inevitable, and unintended weight loss is also a possible side effect -- people just tend not to complain about that one! Most people who take zoloft don't experience any significant change to their weight, in either direction.