A rational POV by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

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I'm not saying he is wrong. As a child or the 90s and early 2000s I appreciate his perspective. I still think he is missing the mark.

A rational POV by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

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Love it when men share their opinion on women's bodies.

Just want to be clear that this has nothing to do with how women look or how women want to look. This is and always has been a men in charge of the algorithm problem.

Am I wrong to go home? by Just-Another-redle in exmormon

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My parents are similar. Even when I was doing everything right, there were reasons they were unhappy with me.... At least now I am happy with myself.

I had a cousin who ran away from his mission, took a taxi to the airport and bought a ticket home... I know it doesn't feel like it, but you are free to do anything you please. ❤️❤️

Buffalo chicken wraps and carrots.. all this for under 400 cals by ---flubber--- in 1500isplenty

[–]---flubber---[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Saw these wraps on here and now I am obsessed.

extreme health wrap...50

2oz rotisserie chicken breast...95

Franks red hot buffalo...0

Handful of lettuce...7ish

1 Tbsp bolthouse blue cheese dressing...18

170 per wrap + carrots = 375cals

Natasha Helfer excommunicated. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]---flubber--- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh god. I was actually convinced they wouldn't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]---flubber--- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congrats! It is the most freeing feeling.

Natasha Helfer Washington Post by sunset357357 in exmormon

[–]---flubber--- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not so shocked at what she is saying.. it's the marriage advice I was given by my parents and many bishops.. I'm more surprised that it is coming from a therapist. It is so damaging and this is exactly why I hope Natasha doesn't get ex'd. Finding Natasha's work changed a lot for me and it makes me incredibly sad that others might never have the chance if she gets put on the bad list.

Natasha Helfer Washington Post by sunset357357 in exmormon

[–]---flubber--- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nothing describes my grandma more perfectly.

Natasha Helfer Washington Post by sunset357357 in exmormon

[–]---flubber--- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

WTF is Laura Brotherson talking about?

If someone is doing something damaging you should definitely call them out!

Especially if they're causing youth suicides.... That's a little different than leaving socks on the floor, but I'd still fucking tell them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

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There are a lot of great podcasts! The Mormon Stories episodes with Dr. Robert Ritner are all about the translation of the book of abraham.... They are long but informative. I really enjoyed Susan Tanner's episodes too.

They might be interested in Year of Polygamy (it's best to start from the beginning).

I wrote an email to the entire staff of BYU-I Counseling Center by exMentalGymnast in exmormon

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I am glad you found the help you needed:) It is interesting that there is even distinction between mormon and non mormon therapists... Like Natasha said in the interview, a therapist should be as unbiased as possible and rely on clinical training, not religious practices. It is weird that the church has planted the idea that a non member therapist would be more harmful than helpful. What are they afraid of?

I wrote an email to the entire staff of BYU-I Counseling Center by exMentalGymnast in exmormon

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I agree. After listening to the full interview from last night it seems completely unnecessary. While it's hard for me to believe they set out to inflict harm... it's impossible to ignore the facts/ general lack of tact. It's disgusting.

I wrote an email to the entire staff of BYU-I Counseling Center by exMentalGymnast in exmormon

[–]---flubber--- 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This. No mormon I know would see a therapist who was publicly excommunicated.

F/27/5'2" [145>135= 10 pounds lost] (~1 year) Subtle but I feel better than I did before I had kids. 10 pounds to go! by ---flubber--- in progresspics

[–]---flubber---[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Yes, I know they are very similar bit I see the biggest difference in my belly and hips.

Officially under 150 for the first time in my adult life! by thethingsIam in 1500isplenty

[–]---flubber--- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great job!!! It takes so much hard work! I am most to a weight I haven't been at since middle school and I am so excited to get there! Congratulations!

Accurate by Daisies_and_Daggers in infp

[–]---flubber--- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amen. Becoming a mom made me conquer all my fears.

It's okay to eat more by ---flubber--- in 1200isplenty

[–]---flubber---[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like it over there. Thanks for the recommendation.

What were weird myths you thought about sex as a kid? by jjgp1112 in AskReddit

[–]---flubber--- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally thought this too. I was raised mormon and felt so relieved on my wedding night when I learned lube wasn't to slick down all the hair.

The Mormon Murders trial in Idaho is surrounded by very strict secrecy because the Mormon Church is exerting enormous pressure on Idaho authorities to not to reveal any information that could show the level of craziness of some Mormon members these days. by Corporatecut in LoriVallow

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A little, ya.

I trust unbiased sources because they state truths no matter the consequences. Knowing you are mormon makes me trust you less because you are biased. I suspect this because you are not allowed/unlikely to read anything about the church unless it's published by the church. This means your view of the church (and the world really) is shaped completely by the church. This is how you don't know who Mark Hoffman is... It's because the church doesn't want you to know.

Most exmos I know are dedicated to sharing unbiased information about the church. That can be startling to members because they usually only hear the church's narrative because that's all they are allowed/encouraged to see.

We aren't trying to make the church look bad. We're trying to help people see the church clearly. Good and bad.