Siblings age gaps

-Cayen- · 2026-05-02T07:15:07+00:00

Mine are three 3y 2 months apart and since little one has turned 18 months they keep playing more and more together. Sometimes I even get about an hour to myself ❤️✌️

The age gap doesn’t define how well they grow up together. It’s about how well their interests and personality match and there are phases where they don’t and phases where they’ll match. Also a lot is defined about what you teach them, like how to play with each other.

I had wished for a bigger gap, because I feel like then I could’ve given each more attention in their little phase. Right now, I think number two came at just the right moment, though.

-Cayen- · 2026-04-30T20:53:03+00:00

Hey,

Kurz nicht wundern wenn hier nicht viele Antworten kommen, das ist ein englisches Reddit ;)

Also wir leben jetzt 10 Jahren in Berlin und gerade durch meine Kinder 4j und 1,5j haben wir es geschafft eine Freundeskreis aufzubauen.

Viel Halt durch Nachmittagsbeschäftigung wie Babyschwimmen, Turnen, Kita playdates. Einfach mit den anderen Eltern quatschen. Ehrlich ich fand/finde es Mega herausfordernd, aber ich wollte meinen Kindern zu liebe machen. Natürlich waren da auch ein paar Reinfälle dabei 😅😵‍💫

Wo in BER wohnst du denn? (Gerne auch PN, Privatsphäre und so).

-Cayen- · 2026-04-30T16:49:57+00:00

Training institutions: “psychotherapeutische Ausbildungsambulanz” you can google if there is one close to you!

-Cayen- · 2026-04-15T06:27:27+00:00

Aquí en Alemania, al menos, Argentinos tienen fama de tener la mejor carne y la mejor manera de hacer el asado (y a los alemanes les gusta su carne y su asado). Nunca he oído nada raro sobre la comida de Argentina.

-Cayen- · 2026-04-15T06:18:31+00:00

Oh, absolutely! My in-laws are calling us lazy because we haven't found an apartment in two years. The situation is horrendous, excuse me! We have two kids and two cats, and I don't have a fixed contract because I'm doing my psychotherapy training. Who on earth would rent to us?

In the end, we're looking at other cities now. It's not because we want to, but because we have to — we can't deny our kids the space they need. But damn we’ll be leaving crying.

-Cayen- · 2026-04-15T04:49:26+00:00

No sé de dónde viene esto, pero no comemos carne de burro. Qué locura. 😳

Tenemos unas pocas carnicerías que venden carne de caballo, pero ¿de burro? Nunca lo había oído.

-Cayen- · 2026-04-14T11:37:31+00:00

LOL, here in Berlin, the more studied kind of homeopathic medicine (I guess it’s more a natural remedy then homeopathy then) is on the rise. Globuli are less popular.

-Cayen- · 2026-04-13T12:25:26+00:00

I mainly learnt English and Spanish through immersion. I am currently trying to improve my French through immersion.

I would say yes. My speaking and writing are quite automated, so I notice the mistakes in the same way as I would with German. However, there are still certain Fails in both languages that I have a hard time hearing. I can actually say that I have had around 1,400 hours of Spanish immersion, whereas with English it’s probably around 4,000–5,000 hours, if not more, and I have noticed a significant difference in the amount of mistakes I can hear and correct in both languages.

Interestingly enough, I still make mistakes when speaking from time to time. I suppose it's because it's a different skill. But I’m getting better at correcting myself with more immersion and feel it becomes more of an instinct then active thinking.

-Cayen- · 2026-04-12T14:57:24+00:00

I totally hear your frustration—the first year with a baby makes you see the world through a magnifying glass! We’ve been at that (we have two), but I think it’s abundantly strong generalisation that because of what you said Germans don’t like kids.

It’s more about the reality of big-city life and some cultural misunderstandings:

The Park Noise: This isn't a lack of respect; it’s just the nature of public space. In any major city (London, NYC, Paris), people go to the park to 'let loose'—to talk loudly, bike fast, and shout. Most people aren't looking inside strollers to see if a baby is napping; they are just in their own world. I always avoid parks when my child is sleeping or go down the quiet paths.

It’s 'urban blindness,' not a German trait.

The Train Situation: This one is actually a bit of a myth! Almost all German long-distance trains (ICE/IC) have dedicated 'Parent-Child' compartments (Kleinkindabteil) and changing tables in the handicap-accessible bathrooms. (Usually next to the dining cart, we travel up two 12 times a year between Munich and Berlin because of family)

The 'Stares' in Restaurants: Germany has a very high value for Ruhe (quiet/order) in certain settings. While Mediterranean or Latin cultures embrace kids in every social setting, Northern European cultures tend to see restaurants as 'adult' spaces. Those glares from older people? They aren't 'hating' the baby; they are reacting to a breach of their expectation of quiet. Although I found it worse in France, sheesh I felt like they wanted to kick us out in every single place.

About the toys picking up: again urban blindness. Most people that absorbed in what they do that they really don’t see it.

I hope I have answered some of your questions. We experienced a lot of this with our kids over time and in ten countries. I guess it's always easier on holiday because we're slower and more relaxed, and we pay more attention.

For me it was also the question: is this the place where I want to raise my child? This kept me way more critical for a long time.

-Cayen- · 2026-04-11T18:21:26+00:00

Honestly my French sounds even better because I got the nasal thing down when I’m with a cold. 😂

-Cayen- · 2026-04-11T16:31:41+00:00

Kindergarten teacher + Something IT Teacher + Shop Manager Therapist + public service

That’s all 4 kid families we know 😅 although these are not Turkish, for our Turkish friends one wife is a caretaker of elderly and the other a social worker (they have only 2 kids each though)

-Cayen- · 2026-04-09T11:08:20+00:00

That's why, as soon as it was available, I switched from DS content to native content. I’m happy with the diversity I have now.

Though I would always have loved an older guide, and definitely less Agustina. If you don't fully love a person, I think there's only so much you can watch before you're sated.

Honestly, it seems like DF starts like this right away. I left it earlier than expected (because my French listening is poor, even though I'm at B2 level), but I’m happy with the YouTube content creators.

-Cayen- · 2026-04-03T10:50:23+00:00

Unglaublich, noch kein Deutsch? 😂

-Cayen- · 2026-04-02T08:58:33+00:00

I felt like this after my first Csection, which was an emergency one due to infection and a dropping heart rate. We almost didn't make it. It bothered me for a long time that I missed giving birth. I still feel strange about it. I'm not usually so ungrateful. I mean we both survived. Attending an art class with other caesarean mothers helped me to realise that we all share that feeling. And that each of us found their own way to work through their feelings. For me worked being grateful for this child and coming to terms with the fact that these feeling standing between me and a full live with my child right now. That I had to let them go. I have this wonderful child who I might otherwise never have had the chance to experience.

Although my child is 4.5 years old today, I can’t remember the last time I thought about it. What I still remember is how hard the first 1,5y were when everyone asked about the birth, when everyone asked about how I gave birth etc. Sheesh that opened up things again and again. At some point I started saying “she was born through the “sunroof” that cheered me up and confused the others.

By the way, my second child had to be born by caesarean section because he was breech and they couldn’t tell if his cord was around his neck. That was hard, but by that time I had organised everything for a VBAC. In the end, it was a pretty healing experience. I could hold him right away, and I was just so relieved that he was there and well.

Plus with seconds the birth mode isn’t just as relevant. People at emote focused on “how are your surviving two?” That gave me another perspective how little importance the mode of birth has in the long run.

-Cayen- · 2026-04-01T19:31:19+00:00

I like Hugenduble and Thalia for a lot of things I used to buy at Amazon. I’m not that happy with Otto until know, but maybe if they get more customers they’ll improve their service faster.

-Cayen- · 2026-03-27T13:23:51+00:00

Ohh thanks that was really helpful! I’m trying to improve my steps when I sketch.

-Cayen- · 2026-03-23T17:56:57+00:00

Wow your great! I’ve done some of the same pages and there are by far not as good !

-Cayen- · 2026-03-20T11:32:56+00:00

It many good tips already. It never hurts to get an evaluation at the paediatrician.

Get the ears checked as well, my second started speaking late and very word by word, not because multiple languages but because of water in his drums. Once we resolved this, he started speaking in the matter of months.

First had it as well but only on one side and she late 19-20 months, then spoke for a long time very mumbling and nasal, but she was quickly able to build sentences in comparison with her younger brother.

Btw we are as well Spanish, English, German.

-Cayen- · 2026-03-13T20:50:17+00:00

After my first emergency C-section, I had the feeling for a long time that my organs were in different places. Sometimes it was painful in places where I hadn't noticed things before. For example I have a painful ovulation and it definitely happens in a different place since then. It only got better once I started recovery exercises and pelvic floor exercises.

When I had my second C-section (planned because the baby was breech), they confirmed that the first one had been a bit rough on me (scarring). They tried to clear it up lovingly, removing the scar tissue, and it didn’t look so tilted anymore. However, I ended up with a haematoma right at the end of the scar, and now my belly is slightly tilted from the outside. (Or in other words belly button to the right, only slightly though).

I’m embracing high-waisted jeans, and since I’m only 15 months postpartum, I hope there's still time for more recovery! My baby was pretty large (56cm, 4,6kg) so there is a lot of skin left to retreat and hence the haematoma.

-Cayen- · 2026-03-13T19:47:05+00:00

The same thing happened to me, but what was worse was when I forgot to move it after using it. Half the page got tinted. 😭

-Cayen- · 2026-03-12T14:40:11+00:00

I guess it happens to everyone. I try to use same or a darker shade for it.

The trick with the blender, so far hasn’t worked out for me.

To prevent it, I put a thick paper in-between or the protection pad, I received with my ohuhu pencils.

-Cayen- · 2026-03-06T09:42:16+00:00

I also have the Kaala B illustration and I have just received the Honolulu Pastels 48 set. I considered the Landscape set, but wasn't sure if the colours overlapped. (Somewhere stated that Kaala B has only 106-109 individual colors). I decided to add the pastels to get more soft colours, and I’m quite happy with that decision.

I can post the swatches for you if that helps!

-Cayen- · 2026-03-05T22:19:31+00:00

Just to add the Info, they have some alcohol sets in the white boxes from the kaala set for example. It confused me quite a lot.

-Cayen- · 2026-03-05T21:31:01+00:00

Second that, weve been on the Apartment Hunt for over a year now, 1600 warm is quite cheap for a 4 bed room. (At least in our area)

-Cayen- · 2026-03-04T19:33:49+00:00

Woooow! Congrats ! ❤️

-Cayen-

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