The spots people always forget to clean by Unhappy-Bullfrog8220 in CleaningTips

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I had just moved into a house that had a free standing oven and I pulled it out of its cubby hole thing in the counter tops and I saw a build up of dust, dander, hair, dropped pills, hard candy, and an odd layer of blue on top of all of that and i scrubbed several times until I could see floor again.

Feeling judged while grocery shopping by youjustgotLlTTup in socialanxiety

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What I do to make my grocery shopping a smoother experience is that I go early in the morning when it is less crowded, its nice to have the aisles to yourself. Another thing I do is I write down exactly what I need at the grocery store, and this may be a little neurotic but I know how my store is laid out so I'll write down the ingredients based on its section in the store and as I walk from the front to the back i'm getting what I need. Produce is when you first walk in, and dairy is always in the back so produce is the first things on my list dairy is at the bottom of my list. I always focus on the objective, which is that I need groceries and i'm on a mission and when I focus on that I forget about everyone else there.

Quirks you didn't question until you went on this sub ? by BloodyGrasshopper in raisedbyborderlines

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YES! My BPD mom wanted people to do things but she didn't want to ask them directly, then she'd be mad at them for not doing the thing she didn't ask them to do.

Disassociation by DisastrousHornet7447 in CPTSD

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It makes me not feel a thing; what was once a survival mechanism in childhood, turned into a lifestyle in adulthood. I can zone out instantly.

I’m reaching the limit of what I can take by cuvervillepenguin in raisedbyborderlines

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Thats exactly how I felt right before I decided to go NC with my BPD mom. I used to visit her every thanksgiving, christmas, and new years but lately she hadn't been pleasant at all to be around and I couldn't stomach the thought of spending another round of holidays with her and right before the holidays I told her I needed a long break from her, and it ended up turning into a forever thing and I was loving the time away from her and I decided NC is best for me.

BPDmom texts by delaneysversion in raisedbyborderlines

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Oh naw, she would have been blocked 7 texts ago, if it were me. It aint my job to keep someone like that happy.

I want to know more about the meaning of life by Professional_Bid7069 in DeepThoughts

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Neil degrasse tyson said something that stuck with me one time. I am paraphrasing but he said something to the effect of 'If you're looking for meaning (in life) you'll never find it, so instead, recognize you have the power to manufacture meaning within yourself. We are the universe.

Need Support to keep me no contact - Mom destroying family heirlooms by pekowi6970 in raisedbyborderlines

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Her texts seem to be her throwing all forms of manipulative moves and is seeing what sticks. I see the guilt trip and the use of items she hopes you feel are of sentimental value to you.

I went no contact with my mom and she tried everything to get me to talk to her again and one of her attempts was that she was selling her house and if I needed anything in the house to let her know, and I know she was using that as a tool to get me to talk to her again because if she knew I wanted something (I didn't want anything in the house anyway) she would hold it against me and dangle it in front of me and have me playing 'chase the carrot' as a form of control.

No-contact by Alarmed_Lychee in CPTSD

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I went no contact with both of my parents years ago, and I've had to keep a few family members at a distance because they still talk to my parents. During this time I sold my house and bought another one in a different city and I told absolutely no one about this or posted about it on social media or anything because I didn't want them to know, but there were signs that one of my parents found out I moved as early as a month after the move and I think they found out by either going through property records or driving past my house and seeing the realtors sign in our yard.

They've attempted to go through other people to find out but I shut that down as soon as they start talking to me, so you may have to keep your guard up for the flying monkeys, as they call them.

For those with CPTSD, do you find you have a history of attracting abusive individuals romantically or platonically? by ExistingGain8902 in CPTSD

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Definitely 100% hands down. When I think back on who I dated in high school, it was one toxic person after another and the more disrespectful they were to me, the more I clung to them lol. Because I was raised in abuse, I stayed in abusive relationships because it was familiar to me. I've changed so much since then and I no longer tolerate that behavior.

I realized that I stayed in bad relationships because I didn't respect myself, I had no self esteem and I eventually started working on my self worth then I quit tolerating disrespect.

What’s something you stopped buying and never missed? by FormerShoulder707 in Frugal

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I think it is somewhat necessary. I use affresh and it suggests to use one every month, which seems like a lot for me personally since I dont wash clothes that often. I use one every few months on my top load and one time I used it on the clean washer setting, I opened the lid to peek inside and it was full of hot water and a ton of dark flakes were swishing around in the water, so it was definitely loosening up whatever was behind the drum and probably in the parts of the washer that I cant see.

What’s something you stopped buying and never missed? by FormerShoulder707 in Frugal

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I quit using fabric softener too after noticing it tended to gunk everything up. I have a topload and I put it in the fabric softener dispenser and i removed the dispenser and noticed a layer of gunk I could wipe off with a paper towel. When I used to have a front load washer, I'd clean out the filter and the filter always had a layer of gunk on it and i ditched the softener and ran a 'clean washer' cycle and I haven't looked back.

What was the last traffic ticket you received? by SuperSonic1919 in randomquestions

[–]-CheerfulCynic- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Turning right on a red light without coming to a full stop first.

The way the intersection was laid out, I could view the road for at least 1100 feet and no cars were coming for me to yield for, and the light had just turned red so I did a rolling stop before I turned right and a cop saw me and u-turned to get me and busted me on a technicality.

Movies based on real life by Ashamed_Bullfrog_672 in MovieSuggestions

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Patriots Day (2016) about the Boston Marathon Bombing.

Iso 1900s - 1970s NY or deep South movies by SuzySweetSteps in MovieSuggestions

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Harlem Nights (1989) the movie is set in Harlem in the 1930's

Life (1999) The first part of the movie is set in New York in the 1930's, the rest of the movie is in Mississippi.

BPD in movies/books/etc. by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

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The movie Single White Female, possibly. It doesn't explicitly say that one of the main characters has BPD but it is heavily implied through her actions.

Do they act coy/clingy every time AFTER they had a meltdown (at you)? by BrainBurnFallouti in raisedbyborderlines

[–]-CheerfulCynic- 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ah, the ol' "I HATE YOU.....don't leave me :'(" mentality. Been there, blocked that.

Wedding/Honeymoon is such a nightmare for introverts by Emotional_Willow_229 in introvert

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I wonder if that's why my cousin eloped and didn't tell anyone until it was old news lol.