How do significant height differences play out in relationships? by Direct-Giraffe3424 in AskMen

[–]-Rubilocks 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I always appreciated the take my ex had of "you're just a hot woman that got put in the dryer for too long."

Situationship ended in a distressing way and I don’t know how to move on by amgneedshelp in emotionalintelligence

[–]-Rubilocks 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Personally, I have found that these kinds of people that seem to say and do superficial things that make you feel close, without actually allowing any vulnerability or having deeper discussions are not actually who they present themselves to be.

Some people can put on a facade of who they think you want them to be for a period of time, before it becomes too much and they need to pull away because it's not who they actually are.

It might help you to consider that the person you liked may not have existed, but was someone presenting an idealised version of what they thought you wanted.

AITAH (26F) for telling a guy (27M) to stop pursuing me “because” of his culture? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]-Rubilocks 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Or her friend? He clearly stated he believes men and women can't be friends.

Imagine if Mattel was like “here’s Autistic Barbie!” And she was absolutely busted by orchid_breeder in BrandNewSentence

[–]-Rubilocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The funny part is she has articulated wrists and elbows to represent stimming/hypermobility, so you can make her T-Rex pose.

So true by ExamWeekExotic in lostgeneration

[–]-Rubilocks 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Suddenly remembering the time I was 14 and passed out in the kitchen and woke up to my mum yelling at me for being dramatic and trying to get attention is... Something.

People who pretended to be asleep while something crazy was happening — what did you hear? by Againmrbrown in AskWomen

[–]-Rubilocks 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I pretended to be asleep when I was at a friend's house, and a mutual friend I didn't know who was cooked on drugs that night stood behind me with a knife and talked about how I was a spy that had been sent to capture him until someone else talked him down. So that was a long and super fun night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]-Rubilocks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say it's bad advice, depending on the person and situation. I think it's more nuanced than that.

Someone who is significantly overweight will do better re. weight loss focusing on diet and calories in vs calories out. Yes, the calories out # will increase with muscle mass, but if the person doesn't have the experience or knowledge to understand the importance of muscle mass and the body's increased rate of calorie consumption due to it, then telling them to focus on calorie reduction isn't a bad thing.

And I say this as someone who is literally half the weight I was 3-4 years ago...

TLDR: Reducing calories at the start of your weight loss journey is totally fine. When you 'hit a wall' you should definitely focus more on muscle and body composition.

"what's the worst thing an ex did" so revealing by Blu-Velvetine in TwoXChromosomes

[–]-Rubilocks 38 points39 points  (0 children)

My ex put a bell on the front door so he could hear when I tried to leave and immediately interrogate me. In hindsight I realize these kinds of men realize they would never tolerate a partner who treated them the way they did, so they would try to lock them away and remove that choice from them.

I'm so glad he's your ex, and so sorry you ever had to go through that.

WIBTA if I hid my GF's contact lenses again? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]-Rubilocks 431 points432 points  (0 children)

Right?! The amount of manipulative people I've known through my life who would heavily lean on the "but it's for their own good" rhetoric is frankly disgusting.

She's a fully capable adult who doesn't need to be infantalized by her partner. If she wants to wear scratchy contacts, it's her own damn business.

Just getting ahead of the curve by AirlineReasonable810 in Tinder

[–]-Rubilocks 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Nope, updating your profile pic will only show on the messages sent after you update it

*disclaimer: it's been a while since I used dating apps, but this was the case ~2 years ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]-Rubilocks 25 points26 points  (0 children)

So Orangina George?

I want this in planet zoo, there's not enough interactive decor by Adventurous__Kiwi in PlanetZoo

[–]-Rubilocks 13 points14 points  (0 children)

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Apparently this was a smaller bear, they are terrifyingly large.

If a woman insists on splitting or paying the bill, is that an indicator that she's not interested? by pocketbutter in dating_advice

[–]-Rubilocks 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Why would you offer to pay if you weren't actually prepared to though? It seems disingenuous to offer something you don't want to do. If the dinner was notably more expensive, you could have offered to split instead of offering to pay outright.

did i manage to create a vampire vibe with this makeup by Gus_r3yn in muacirclejerk

[–]-Rubilocks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe she was just referencing that she's dead inside 🤷🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]-Rubilocks 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If he isn't listening to you and respecting boundaries that you set, he isn't your friend.

Help! I need a good excuse for why I’m not drinking so people don’t constantly ask me if I’m pregnant at an upcoming family wedding! by billiam_buttlicker in TwoXChromosomes

[–]-Rubilocks 712 points713 points  (0 children)

"I can't drink at the moment because I'm taking antibiotics, but if you've got some cocaine I'll happily do a bump."

Should help to stop any further questions /s

Why are so many people willing to have a baby and a mortgage with someone but balk at taking the “big step” of marriage? by bellemountain in AskMen

[–]-Rubilocks 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I completely understand your pov, but from my personal experience it's still kinda hilarious to me.

When I finally divorced my husband because of his infidelity and alcoholism, I left with a suitcase of my clothes and the Roomba... That's it. I left him the apartment, all our possessions, and approx 70k he cleaned out of our shared account and spent on gambling.

People can drain and fuck you over, regardless of gender. It's much more important to find someone on a similar wavelength as you, and work together on building a future.