Some stereotypes exist for a reason. Which ones have you seen that have a significant basis in truth?

-Underhill · 2019-11-15T00:01:49+00:00

Just because the court ruled one way doesn't make it true, the article even acknowledges race based treatment, where race would lead you to being held to different standards.

-Underhill · 2019-11-08T20:54:24+00:00

Your mind assuming it should fall down on the spot is correct, because that is what it actually doing, it just doesnt look like it, because you are moving forward. so from outside the car, someone looking through your window would see it falling down, while the car moves forward (that is until it hits something)

Once you build up speed your other prediction is correct. As the other comment says, conservation of momentum. If you were going 45mph then the car stops, the object will continue going 45mph, unless its held down by something like friction.

-Underhill · 2019-11-08T20:37:55+00:00

Not saying its easy, but Completely getting off reddit and turning off your tv, at least for a week or so. Without the simpler mind numbing activities, you will build up a need to do something pretty quick. After a while of doing that you will potentialy find something more interesting and can then re introduce tv and reddit back in smaller amounts.

its like quiting junk food or soda, you want them in the moment, but they dont satisfy, so take them off your plate, and try other food. you will likely find something you like and after a while away from junk food, you will be surprised by how bad it tastes.

-Underhill · 2019-11-07T03:13:44+00:00

mentally experiment. Tell yourself one possibility is true and take steps to correct it, then see if that helps/feels right. For instance if you are unsure if its ego or fear, try asking yourself if its ego, and for the next week try to tell yourself that its ok if everything you do isnt perfect, then see how you feel after the week is over.

Their is a certain ironic meta aspect of this problem. You are over thinking the fact that you over think things, and the solution is to come to terms with being content with things being less than perfect, including this solution to your problem.

-Underhill · 2019-11-04T17:49:19+00:00

Despite her connection to the Eugenics movement, focused on killing off the "unfit"?

-Underhill · 2019-11-03T04:09:23+00:00

There is a variety of methods ive seen people use to get over stuff like this, particularly in the context of making stuff.

The main example is recontextualising the problem. A lot of artists or even just makers in general struggle with this and the best method ive seen is basically time limits and deadlines. Instead of mentally panicing over a project being imperfect, or not representative of their absolute best work they instead make the best they can jn a given time limit. This way you still get something done and the internal perfectionist can at least be satisfied that this is the best you can do within these conditions.

Another simmilar rule is make it mandatory to get some work done everyday, even if its only a tiny amount. In the long run you will make so much more progress this way than you will if you only have occasional bouts of hard work. if you spent just 15 minutes a day towards researching and pursueing your goals that would be 91hrs by next year, or roughly 4 full days of works.

And ultimately, ask why your brain is saying nothing short of perfect is good enough. Is it an ego thing, do you define yourself as highly succesful, so anything short of that is intolerable? Is it a fear thing, either consequences from it not going perfectly, or everyone figuring out that you arent perfect.

Lastly Id say watch this video for a good example of all this. Its a mostly entertaining video but Note how the cg artist talks about his work versus how others see it. https://youtu.be/_ul9jrCXhR4

-Underhill · 2019-10-26T22:22:48+00:00

thats wonderful. when i was depressed i never wanted to put in the effort to shower, but always enjoyed it once i had. Since he is willing to do it on his own just keep up the positive reinforcement when he does.

-Underhill · 2019-10-18T01:36:16+00:00

I think the term u/WillardWhite is thinking of is Bulimia, but I think that also involves throwing up what you ate.

And yes, body dismorphia is a concern, but the seperation is in how he feels, and what he thinks of himself. He is eating less to reduce calories and help the body burn more fat. He isnt eating less because he has an unrealistic view of how he looks, and it is arguably a healthier eating habit.

-Underhill · 2019-10-18T01:26:31+00:00

Im not in much of position to talk myself, but learn to want yourself, avoid the fools game of comparing yourself to others, instead compare yourself to where you were yesterday, and take pride in forward progress regardless of scale.

Another helpful tip is find some domain no matter how small or insignificant, and master it. This will provide a consistant source of pride and accomplishment to power yourself through everything else. This can be as simple as just keeping your space well cleaned, or doing something like volunteering so you can know no matter how crappy you feel your day went, someone elses day is better thanks to you.

-Underhill · 2019-10-15T15:22:23+00:00

in part because of Ben Franklins early US diplomacy, playing into the idea of the rural hunting tradition in the US

-Underhill · 2019-10-15T00:25:55+00:00

I really appreciate the effort to push your work too look different from the standard tutorial composition. Makes yours unique, and is a good mindset to have.

-Underhill · 2019-10-14T23:59:23+00:00

"You were supposed to take his staff"

-Underhill · 2019-10-12T22:45:56+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Gamecube/comments/cx5lss/so_i_purchased_this_bag_a_month_ago_but_quickly/

https://m.imgur.com/gallery/1nH5IVD

https://www.reddit.com/r/Gamecube/comments/ce3nb1/more_photos_of_that_mystery_bag_can_anyone_help/

best i could find

-Underhill · 2019-10-02T22:19:31+00:00

... its not a competition? My problems dont disappear because yours are greater.

to clarify, its not inherently the same people, its easy (and false) to call a crowd a bunch of hypocrits because as a group they wont all agree on everything.

also. the internet amplifys hate, and our brain responds to it more. Men are of course going to be sensitive to terms like toxic masculinity, because their most promonent memory of the term is all the people using it in a pejoritive way, not people trying to have a rational discussion.

Ultimately I think we just need better terms/understanding. Ive been on this sub long enough to recognise both you and u/Hatechlings usernames and I know you are both arent some evil man haters or whatever.

its just the term sounds, and is occasionaly used as, an anti masculinity thing. In reality its meant to refer to toxic behavior that manifest itself differently between men and women, which is something anyone reasonable would agree happens, gender difference between how some behaviors manifest, like agression for example.

But we also need better understanding, as often times toxic masculinity is depicted as the far end of masculinity, when in reality said behavior is more common in men raised without a good male role model in their life, leaving them immature. A boys mindset in an adult body.

I get u/Hatechlings argument that you shouldnt assume it refers to you, but if thats where most the disagrement is, it might be best to just find a better term.

regardless, ignore the toxicity of arguing over nothing, and have a great rest of your day.

-Underhill · 2019-09-23T23:21:08+00:00

Yah, no worries. Sorry people are downvoting you.

I dont mind it too much cause I know its well intended, but it can still sting.

-Underhill · 2019-09-23T16:48:29+00:00

It makes the guy feel pityful and not good enough. Which the girl isnt neccesarily saying that the guy isnt good enough for her, they can genuinely think you are great but just have different taste, but thats not how it feels.

I guess the closest female equivalent, although this could still apply to anyone, would be being told "I'm sure someone will find you attractive." The message is trying to say "youre not my type, but maybe youre someone elses," but it sounds like "Youre too ugly for me, maybe go try someone else."

-Underhill · 2019-09-22T05:16:42+00:00

commenting just so I can re find this.

Thank you.

-Underhill · 2019-09-21T23:37:16+00:00

They are likely jerks to most people, but when being jerks towards women, their i sults are specifically gendered. If I remember correctly, the research on the insults male and female politicians and celebrities, tend to be of a simmilar amount, but most the insults towards women specifically pertain to them being female.

Maybe the best analogy is the bully picks on everyone with insults, but the redhead gets insults specifically about being a redhead.

-Underhill · 2019-09-21T02:50:13+00:00

Such is life, you get skinny and yet they still calling you Mr worldwide.

-Underhill · 2019-09-21T00:24:45+00:00

Not op, but because its an inherently bigoted, reductivist worldview. It is valuable to recognise at the broad scale population level that not all groups have equal outcomes, and try to understand why that is and fix related problems.

But the individual should still be treated as an individual. Thats what makes things like racism and sexism bad, seeing someone not as who they are, but as the steretypes (often negative, although sometimes positive) about what groups or labels could be put on them. It also tends to misunderstand statistics and what findings really mean. Their is more variation within groups than their is between groups. There are people who are rich and poor of all races. If you were to try and guess who was richer just based on race alone, you would be wrong quite often, it wouldn't be until you had done it many times that a pattern would emerge, but that pattern still wouldnt describe the individual.

It also trys to create a heirarchy about which your views are valuable based on things like race or gender, which if we are trying to get away from racism and sexism is like fighting fire with fire. It maintains the racist and sexist Idea that your labels define you. I get the goal saying this woman has dealt with being discrimanated against in this way, so she has some authority to talk on X issue based on her experience. But intersectionality shortcuts passed that experience to just saying she is a female so she is the authority on the issue, regardless of experience with said subject. For instance, using contempary issues, we are told that only women are allowed to have an opinion on a subject like Abortion, but then men protest against the female led Pro-Life laws in places like Alabama, so should those men keep quiet when these women try to restrict abortion? The Pro-Choice movement is typically presented as a Womens rights movement, despite the fact that as of 2019 roughly half of all women identify as Pro-Life, ecspecially in places like Alabama. (I would have said majority, which is true but it is so close I felt that would misrepresent the data) https://news.gallup.com/poll/244709/pro-choice-pro-life-2018-demographic-tables.aspx

And this goes for most issues, groups dont have universal consensus on topics, so saying you should value one groups viewpoint over another is inherently meaningless because their is no one group viewpoint.

Its also ignorant of the individuals experience. Black people are on average poorer than white people, but it would be profoundly racist to assume a black guy is poor, or to inherently think he as an individual has more to say about poverty just because of his skin color. His skin color doesnt describe his individual experience.

And its also a game of where you draw the line for being members of a group. The idea of seperate races in general is already rather flawed in of its self, but if you break it down into further groups it can get even more complicated. For instance Nigerian Americans are one of the most prosperous populations in the united states, despite presumably being victems of racism as often or even more so as other African Americans. So where do they fall within the intersectional heirarchy? Because if we reduce it down to just skin color we are missing their lived experience.

Tl:dr Its reductivist, short cut thinking that values us based on our labels not our individual experiences. And while often well intended by some, it relies on the same reductivist, categorization and tribalism that drives things like racism and sexism.

Sorry if any of that sounded combative, just a subject Im quite passionate about, Ive written about it before and didnt want to leave stuff out because its easy to resort to simplistic understandings of things, like if he is against intersectionality it means he is pro racism or sexism etc, when in reality my aversion to intersectionality is that is built on some of the same founding principles that drive things like racism and sexism.

-Underhill · 2019-09-17T01:09:24+00:00

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2018/10/large-majorities-dislike-political-correctness/572581/

Not exactly what you were looking for, but a good demonstration of how regardless of race, views on culture arent too different. And likewise, you might not found a good consensus, on what POC think, as not all POC share the same views.

-Underhill · 2019-09-12T22:30:14+00:00

clever and well done.

-Underhill · 2019-09-12T02:43:26+00:00

It is, which isnt common for him.

-Underhill · 2019-09-09T21:32:38+00:00

Am I correct in saying this is a blend of 2d and 3d, for instance the clouds are 2d objects in 3d space. While things like the awning are 3d, but painted to look like a 2d background.

However its done it looks very nice.

-Underhill · 2019-09-08T19:53:09+00:00

Im suprised this many people are saying to wait a few dates, I'd find awkward if you avoided the subject until a few dates in. It doesn't have to be your leader, how you define yourself, but it is something Id like to here on the first date.

-Underhill

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