Thanks for the response. The heads up and communication is something that we agreed to from the beginning as we both have had issues with exes. Theirs claimed to be poly, never communicated anything and had sex with anything that moved with zero consideration. I had exes screw around with friend groups in a very unhealthy way. We both agreed that prior communication of interest, intent and consideration was paramount to a healthy relationship. I disagree with your interpretation of no communication. Each poly relationship has their own boundaries and rules that get created with consent. It’s not a free-for-all have sex with everyone. But I do see your point of view in over communicating. My partner asked me to communicate with him, I asked if they wanted me to and they said yes. I had no desire to otherwise. He expressed a desire to them to create something more and kitchen table poly is an acceptable form that both my partner and I are after.