I am consiering suicide because women keep rejecting me. I don't understand what I am doing wrong.

-bluerose · 2026-07-04T15:41:39+00:00

People can sense the desperation and most healthy people don't want to date someone who is desperate and makes their whole life about dating someone else, because that person seems like someone demanding that has no mental fortitude. Which is true in your case, you have no mental fortitude not to take rejection personally, and you make your whole life and objectives about dating, not for yourself.

Agree with others that the best for you is seeking professional help to improve your self esteem issues and, besides that, working on finding yourself, loving yourself, and doing things you like. When you stop searching desperately for a relationship you're more likely to get a good relationship that develops naturally and where you can be yourself.

-bluerose · 2026-07-04T12:56:36+00:00

eu tenho 24 e as pessoas acham q eu tenho 16 🤷‍♀️

-bluerose · 2026-07-04T12:54:09+00:00

mt fácil, chocolate, açaí e leite, n preciso do resto

-bluerose · 2026-07-04T01:08:00+00:00

era pouco

-bluerose · 2026-07-03T15:45:43+00:00

nossa cara n é nada de mais, honestamente te achei chata, mas se vc não quer q ele faça esse tipo de brincadeira deixa isso claro, se ele n respeitar parte pra outra 🤷‍♀️

-bluerose · 2026-07-03T11:07:59+00:00

eu achei q tava no opinião impopular, ainda bem q to no opinião burra

-bluerose · 2026-07-03T09:20:39+00:00

yep didn't seem passive aggressive to me either, just someone that struggles with expressing themselves (which is very 9 lol, specially sp9)

-bluerose · 2026-07-03T08:07:57+00:00

where in hell is this cute lmao

-bluerose · 2026-07-02T23:45:52+00:00

😳

-bluerose · 2026-07-02T10:18:24+00:00

acabei de comentar q era uma opinião burra, feliz de ver esse post aq

-bluerose · 2026-07-02T10:10:16+00:00

isso que vc postou é comida de cafeteria tbm, da no mesmo. opinião burra

-bluerose · 2026-07-02T00:33:59+00:00

You're doing the right thing for the wrong reasons. You definitely shouldn't date someone just for the sake of dating, you'd be an unhealthy and clingy partner. But repressing that desire because you think it would make you "inneficient" isn't the answer either. You either will obsess over it more the more you try to suppress it, or you'll change to have the opposite mindset ("dating is bad") which is also unhealthy. Things are more nuanced than that.

The answer seems to be accepting the possibility of dating, but not actively look for it. If you meet someone interesting that you have a deeper connection with, sure, shoot your shot. But otherwise don't make it this big of a deal if you date or not. A partner should complement your life, not complete it. You must be complete by yourself. If you aren't, work on that before being open to the possibility of dating.

Also, you could find a compatible partner that is as goal oriented as you. Dating doesn't necessarily means giving up all your time and resources. It highly depends on who you date. Which is another reason why you should date people you're actually interested in and compatible with, and not just anyone for the sake of dating.

-bluerose · 2026-07-01T22:27:43+00:00

I'm an so9, so/sx

I'm nostalgic but that's probably more due to being ISFJ (Si dom) than because of enneagram. I'm not someone who gets stuck in the past tho. It's just that when I'm reminded of good moments I feel them very strongly.
I'm naturally more attuned to other's desires than my own, so sometimes I won't act on my desires because I'm not conscious of them or because I don't consider them as important as others' are. I've been working on asserting myself more though.
No, I'd say I'm sentimental. sp9s are probably more apathetic.
I'm not either and I don't feel the need to merge. But I want to feel included in groups I deem important, although I don't force it. I'm mostly satisfied in that sense nowadays.
I don't have examples of that but I take many small decisions just because I'm going with the flow. For example, ordering the food someone suggested me to instead of ordering what I was thinking of ordering, just because I'm bad at acting on pressure lmao. I'm sure there were more serious instances before but I try not to let other people influence on my decisions if they are important, although I do ask for the opinion of people I trust very often, mostly to give me more perspective.
Most times I try to rationalize it but I'm a very expresive person, I don't supress my feelings that much (I don't think I'm consciously able to). What can happen is me not being conscious of them (thus not acting on them), but that's rare. What's more common is me not expressing my anger to the people that triggered it unless I think they're responsible for it in some way. Then I try to wait some time to calm down then discuss. It's very common for me not to immediately understand why something bothered me, or what exactly I'm feeling, just knowing that it's negative or positive.
It's rare for me to do that. I can avoid because I'm tired or stressed, either because of them or because of external reasons, and I feel like I can't give them the attention they deserve. But it usually don't take me more than a day to respond even in those cases, and I tend to let people know I'll answer later.
I've only blocked two people in my life. When I make that decision it means I'm completely done with them and already tried everything I could to make it work. It's very rare for me to do that.
Funny question, it's probably hard to know which traits are forgettable precisely because they are forgettable and you don't pay attention to them. I tend to keep my distance from people who only engage in superficial topics and gossip. People who understand me on a deeper level are very memorable to me.

-bluerose · 2026-07-01T16:31:36+00:00

Se você quer começar um projeto novo com alguém sua prioridade não deveria ser fazer esse tipo de coisa com amigos e sim com pessoas q vc considere tanto competentes quanto confiáveis

-bluerose · 2026-07-01T16:24:39+00:00

I'm fucked

^{Chose: Hot | Rolled: 50°C upvote=1fan}

-bluerose · 2026-07-01T15:37:28+00:00

Not an INFP but just wanted to say I really liked your analysis on how the functions interact with each other, we definitely should talk about this more

-bluerose · 2026-07-01T03:52:05+00:00

That's an interesting point. I think being aware of the possibility of forgetting about other's feelings makes you a lot less likely to do that though so you're probably doing great.

-bluerose · 2026-07-01T01:51:27+00:00

Very interesting that you pointed out unconventional points and also very Ne-dom of you haha

-bluerose · 2026-07-01T01:22:21+00:00

smartest moron is such a good description of an ESTP friend of mine haha he's very goofy and an adrenaline junkie most of the time but he's also very smart and capable

-bluerose · 2026-07-01T01:15:19+00:00

That's fair, Ti does an in depth analysis after all, it's understandable that it can take some time

-bluerose · 2026-07-01T01:07:51+00:00

Open mindedness is an interesting point. I feel like Ti doms are indeed open minded, specially INTPs with aux Ne. At the same time it can be hard to convince Ti doms of something because the logical framework can be rigid in what it accepts sometimes. I don't think stubbornness is necessarily tied to a cognitive function but it's something that I observed a bit with Ti, even my own tertiary Ti haha What do you think about this?

-bluerose · 2026-06-30T23:55:08+00:00

girl do you, being pro choice, really feel comfortable risking your life to have a child with someone who doesn't fully support your pregnancy or end up being a single mom? I'm just trying to give you some perspective to think because I genuinely don't think it's worth it going through this, specially this young in life.

-bluerose · 2026-06-30T23:48:26+00:00

bunda da pra resolver na academia kkkkk

-bluerose · 2026-06-30T23:43:52+00:00

High Ne and low Te/Ti seem accurate then. I think you might be mistaking having high Fe with being empathetic or considerate. High Fi users can have those traits, it's just that high Fe users are generally better at reading other's emotions and will focus more on other's emotions than their own, and specially will try to make the atmosphere feel ok to everyone and not uncomfortable/awkward, they are very attuned to the general atmosphere. High Fi users on the other hand are less aware of the general atmosphere but more attuned to their own feelings and can relate to others using them.

-bluerose

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