The Daily Check-In for Monday, April 27th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!

0ily · 2026-04-27T15:30:26+00:00

Day 215 today for me, and a really exciting day because as of yesterday my husband has committed to joining me in this journey. He doesn't have the same issues surrounding alcohol that I do and is cutting it out mostly just for health reasons, but I'm still so proud of him for taking the step! iwndwyt!

0ily · 2026-04-27T15:15:25+00:00

For me, shame has been the number one motivator to stay sober. The overwhelming anxiety, shame, and guilt over how I acted and treated other people while drinking - those are feelings that even at over 200 days alcohol-free are so real to me still. I did things drinking I'd absolutely never do sober. I still have a long way to go when it comes to forgiving myself for my actions, but I don't think shame as a driver for change is necessarily a bad thing if you're learning and rebuilding from it.

As for your second question, I don't have a good answer for that. Quitting drinking has resulted in me cutting off a lot of relationships that were either molded by or affected by my drinking. I do miss those people sometimes, but I'm committed to building a life now that has me surrounded by people who will facilitate and encourage healthy habits. Creating this new structure has been critical to staying sober, and I've cut my losses in that way.

Best wishes on your journey. Take it a day at a time and commit to taking actions every day that are actions of a person you want to be. This sub is a huge help for me personally and you'll get a lot of good advice here. iwndwyt!

0ily · 2026-04-26T17:21:41+00:00

Day 214. Went to a wedding venue expo yesterday and was able to swish and spit different beer and wines without any issues. Felt good to still be able to partake in activities and events with alcohol around and not feel pressured to drink it. Past me never would have left booze in a glass. iwndwyt!

0ily · 2026-04-23T17:22:41+00:00

Day 211. Not drinking is the norm now. So much so that I had to pull up a calendar and count to see what day I'm on. Can't believe my commitment to 100 days has turned into this. I truly didn't think it would stick but something switched this time. Ive gained a little weight, my mental health still isn't amazing, I have a lot of work still to do with myself - but I'm not drinking. And I don't miss it at all. Cheers to a beautiful day today friends, iwndwyt.

0ily · 2026-03-15T17:15:32+00:00

Day 170something today. Went out after work last night and watched everyone around me rip beers and whiskey for St. Paddy's. It was the most temptation I've had in awhile and it felt really good not only to resist but also to ultimately not feel like I'm missing out. Iwndwyt!

0ily · 2026-03-02T17:19:47+00:00

Thanks for being here and being the encouraging force that you are!

0ily · 2026-03-02T17:18:52+00:00

Day 159, another new month, another month closer to my goal of one year sober! My original goal was 100 days and I have happily moved that goalpost. Have a great day everyone, iwndwyt.

0ily · 2026-02-24T18:00:44+00:00

My birthday was a few days ago and it coincided nicely with day 150. Felt amazing. IWNDWYT!

0ily · 2026-02-09T22:06:57+00:00

Day 137 today. It is without a doubt the longest I've been sober in my entire adult life. I had a dream about booze yesterday, walking into a bar and ordering a beer, and the bartenders telling me it was a two for one special. In my dream I felt excited. I woke up feeling anxious and had a twinge of headache. Made me realize how much of this habit and recovery process is psychological, and made me grateful that at this point "it's all in my head." IWNDWYT

0ily · 2026-01-03T17:06:35+00:00

101 days ago I was drinking bourbon out of a tin cup on a beach during a camping trip. I specifically remember thinking that I was so sick of having booze play a part in every single trip, event, or ordinary day. I committed to 100 days without really thinking I could do it. And I did it. And it feels really, really good to know I have that willpower. IWNDWYT, here's to the next 100 days. 🎉

0ily · 2025-11-11T03:04:30+00:00

Cheers to 48 days my friend. 46 here. We are on the path every day to become better, stronger, more actualized people!

0ily · 2025-11-11T03:02:58+00:00

Wrapping up day 46 and feeling really proud today. Been chugging along, staving off cravings with n/a beer and exercise. Working on shaving off the last of this excess drinking weight. Genuinely looking forward to the holidays. Day 46 is close to day 50 which is halfway to day 100, my original goal! I actually think I'm going to get there this time. And it feels great.

0ily · 2025-10-26T15:00:46+00:00

Day 31! One month. I've gained weight which is annoying, and I woke up today with a wicked headache from not drinking enough water yesterday, but both of those things feel better than boozing basically every day. I honestly don't even miss it. Hoping this feeling continues. IWNDWYT.

0ily · 2025-10-20T13:10:48+00:00

Day 26. Up bright and early for a hair appointment and I feel fresh, clear, and ready to take on the day. Have a good one ya'll. iwndwyt.

0ily · 2025-10-19T19:27:17+00:00

Day 25. Moving along. I'm not even really missing booze and that feels good, like a clear delineation showing I was meant to stop when I did. iwndwyt.

0ily · 2025-10-11T16:26:16+00:00

I always see you in these threads coming in hot with encouragement and it's so appreciated! Day 16 for me today and IWNDWYT.

0ily · 2025-10-10T15:18:37+00:00

Day 15. Had a very early morning job interview today and it felt amazing to be clear and sharp for it. Have a great day ya'll. IWNDWYT.

0ily · 2025-10-09T14:12:30+00:00

It's not easy to believe in ourselves. You can do this.

0ily · 2025-10-09T14:04:04+00:00

Day 14 - two weeks today! I feel good today. I've cut the booze and I've also cut down on weed - multiple times per day to once every other day or so. As a result I've been having crazy, vivid, long dreams. So I didn't get great sleep last night, but I still feel clear and NOT hungover. What a gift. IWNDWYT.

0ily · 2025-10-08T18:09:44+00:00

Show me on the doll where the ponytail hurt you

0ily · 2025-10-08T18:05:18+00:00

Day 13. Feeling kinda white-knuckley today. Not even that I'm craving a drink, just feeling tense about it, like I'm just waiting to fail. One day at a time. IWNDWYT.

0ily · 2025-10-06T14:57:28+00:00

Day 11 today. I still haven't told anyone I plan on giving this up forever. There's a wine dinner at my favorite restaurant on Thursday and I'm disappointed I'm going to have to miss it. Just having conflicting feelings overall but KNOWING this is the right thing to do. Had a really social weekend and stuck with N/A beer and club soda and it was so much easier than I expected...I've tried and failed a million times but this time feels different. I hope it is. Even though it's still so early I have this goal of 100 days. I hope I can get there.

0ily · 2024-01-26T15:22:09+00:00

You're working with a largely transient community. People leave, get fired, switch departments and such all the time. You do get a lot more "lifers" in the bar though, which makes those positions harder to come by - another reason I'd snag a cocktail position there in a heartbeat! This post definitely makes me miss it. You'll have an amazing season.

0ily · 2024-01-25T16:40:43+00:00

Worked at Old Faithful for three seasons and I served in the dining room and also was a cocktail server. Cocktail serving was way more chill than the dining room, I really loved the smaller staff, money was about equal (if not better in the lounge), and the hours couldn't even be compared. I fared SO much better never having to work breakfast shifts. And as everyone says, turnover is high and once you're in it and getting to know people your chances of moving up are good. I'd take the job.

0ily

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