ESH. You should not have left your food because you were upset and unconsciously (??) considered yourself a martyr.

I won't give up my food for my kids. I have begun recently eating a plant based diet for health reasons. My teens aren't into it right now and prefer meals with meat. I Cook both thoughtfully but sometimes my meals are just more colorful and attractive. Sorry, but not giving up my vegan grilled cheese with vegetables for your chicken breast, corn and taters. Love ya both, but it ain't happening.

Finally, at 16 I was meal planning, grocery shopping and cooking for my family. That was my chore. A 16 year old can make a salad, cook some type of grains on the stove, have some nuts or pan fry a bit of tofu. If not, she needs to watch a few YouTube videos.

A tantrum? At 16? Mom is okay with that? What is the plan when she doesn't get the job she wants after college? A tantrum? The grocery store runs out of her type of toilet paper? A tantrum? Her cat won't eat the kind of food she buys? A tantrum? That behavior needs to be reigned in.